Does Size Truly Matter to a Woman?

This is a ticklish question and in truth, the answer is multifaceted.

Now, if one were to believe the hype of male enhancement ads, every woman in the world wants a Long Don Silver in the boudoir. I can tell you from experience, this just isn't true. I don't think I can stress enough the importance of ability and technique over size.

I know of a good friend of mine, a wonderful young man, intelligent, sweet and attractive, (he models even) who can't keep a chick around to save his life. His issue?

Dude has a fourteen inch member.

*Ouch.*

He even complained about his lack of companionship to me and I told him that maybe he needed to finesse it a bit; get the beauty "primed and ready" so to speak, and when the time was right, take it slow and easy and try not to penetrate too deeply.

He shook his head in amazement, "I just don't understand, a woman can stretch to have a baby!" he replied. I looked at him, incredulous, "Hun, a woman doesn't want to have a baby every time she sees you!"
"In truth, the average man, who comes in at 5.5 to 6.0 inches, can satisfy the average woman."


He laughed, but I couldn't take credit for that one. A stand up comedienne whose name escapes me at the moment (byproduct of being older), made this declaration when talking about a man who approached her bragging about his humongous size.

In truth, the average man, who comes in at 5.5 to 6.0 inches, can satisfy the average woman. That said, every woman is different.


As one gynecologist told me, women are different sizes internally, just as men are different sizes externally. That means that for every man who is four inches, there is, in nature, a perfect fit.

Likewise, Mr. Fourteen Incher can locate a woman who can take him in with very little problems.

In this I see the miraculous symmetry of life emerging once more, even in the realm of human sexuality.

Does Size Truly Matter to a Woman?


And it make sense.

But if you happen to be twelve and are attempting to couple with, lets say, an internal four--well, a round peg won't fit into a square hole.

This is where the old saying, "It's not the size of the boat, but the motion in the ocean" comes in.

A man can be well-endowed, but if he is careless with his lover, or disregards what she desires, three things will happen:
  1. The sex won't be good for her at all
  2. He can hurt his woman or even cause medical problems
  3. He'll be begging for sex often, not understanding why his lady love is so hesitant to get busy.

For example, an ex beau of mine was twelve in all, but his technique was severely lacking. It hurt and caused severe physical problems for me. It got to where I hated to see him coming....ahem...

My hubby is a little above average at 6.5, but I would say that his fantastic prowess and ability to make me howl at the moon were among his finer points and were in all seriousness a due part of the consideration of marriage (although his being a nice, wonderful, sweet guy helped)...

The other side of this coin of course, in that man could be too small for his chosen mate.

This is because a woman's pleasure center, call it the G-spot if you will (Lord Knows I have that "spot", so call me a Geffenberg believer), may be difficult to reach with routine or missionary entry.

There are ways to remedy this, and I have always believed it begins with technique first. Learn ways to pleasure her with your lips and hands that will drive her wild. Toys can also be introduced to liven things up.
"If a woman feels like she can open up to you, she will unleash secrets that will help you find her sensual center."

Different positioning, like rear entry, can help tilt a woman's pelvis towards you as well, so that it is easier to locate and hit the spot in question, irregardless of size. Use pillows to raise her hips--this can also help increase the depth of penetration.

Men can also find extensions which are readily available at any adult novelty store.

So, does size truly matter?

It all depends on the couple and their symmetry. When all else fails, be open about talking about your lover's likes and dislikes. If a woman feels like she can open up to you, she will unleash secrets that will help you find her sensual center, and if you do that, size won't matter in the least.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Okay first things first. I thought the longest dick was 13 inches and some guy has that? O. o somebody is lying here.

    Also, I highly doubt any woman has a 14 inch deep vagina without there being some medical issue there. Typically even aroused the vagina is only from 3-4 inches deep to 8 inches maximum. I mean even a guy with a 9 incher has to be careful with a girl with a maximum depth vagina. Sure I'm sure there are some abnormal girls but a vagina that can take 14 inches balls deep with no problems? That seems far fetched.

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  • i agree completely. there was once in time where I felt like a guy with a small pen*s because every guy hurted me. they were big and at the time I thought every vagina coud withstand any size because that's what its made for. boy was I wrong. after growing and experiencing more I realize that in order to have good sex it depends on the position and technique. med-large penises(7.5-9) go well for me in missionary only while more average sizes can please me in more ways than one. ex large is a NO.

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  • The perfect penis is not so small that you don't know its there, highly talented in approach and technique and above all, hard enough to hang your lingerie on.

  • I agree with this article. If you focus on your partner, then you will be good as she needs/wants you to be, and you won't be worrying about yourself.

    Although I would also have to say that every guy would love to drop trow and hear - " Oh my God!!"

    "Stop, you'll make him blush,.. and then I'll pass out."

  • Wow. I am very impressed by your article which has made me reflect on the social ques of my generation and of the mass media flood concerning male enhancement. I am very young and have very little to say on this because I have honestly never experienced it first hand. I just hope that I can find a man who is 'just right' for me, as you described. Also, I am going to forward your article to every young person I know.

  • Skill will always win out over size for me. That being said, there is such a thing as too small. However, the best I ever had was a little over 4", and the worst was 9?", so that should say something!

  • I see this one posted from time to time. It amuses me most times because most experienced women tend toward a comfortable medium. I think if you are trying to please a woman with your cock, you already lost the battle. If she wasn't having a good time when you got to the intercourse, not much is going to change.

    I personally found for that "full up feeling", fisting does a better job of providing the stimulation.

    And no one ever said my hand was too small... :)

  • Peargberry--girl he is sweet, goodnatured and gorgeous too--and around your age--!LOL

  • LOL--great point letf hand--I mean, amazing sex is so much more than about size...people have to figure out ways to circumvent hands that ma y have been dealt by nature...so to speak...ahem...

  • Smith--you be the perfect size trust me--most women like between 6-8--after that it's YOU AIN'T TOUCHING ME WITH THAT THING!!! LOL...

  • Nope--he was--and my dad--who was gay had a lover who was even bigger than that ( unfortunately showed me a picture) some men are that big dude...

  • I couldn't agree more with your article. I hope more guys read it, and most of all, take your word. I know us girls can get insecure about our bits too. But it's reallyfrustrating when guys stress about their size.

    As you said, techinque is way more important.

    And 14 inches? OUUUUUUUUCH!

  • Well thank you maam, I would like to get more information on how to get to "the G spot". if you would like to share some of your wisdom, please feel free to contact me.

  • 14 inches? w000000w?

  • They say men can get penile implants there was one
    man got one and after he healed his wife couldn't keep
    her hands off of him their sex life was amazing but this
    was a paid program commercial i was watching so this
    could be all bull

  • Yes but not too big. Women wanted as well to feel their partner inside of them.

  • Ok, norman...maybe so. I'm not overly long, about 7", but I think I am better off than most guys.

  • 12? you are full of crap.

  • i have 5 inches last time i check that was 2-3 years ago and i didn't reach the average size :(

  • he doesn't have a 14 inch anything.

    • LOL!!

  • F0r me, on my own opini0n, YES! and I just living with my partner whose having a huge thingy d0wn there l0l.

  • You were spot on. Thanks for this article

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