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Is it normal when a guy cums just from dancing?

So I was in New Orleans for mardi gras this year and I was doing quite a bit of dancing and grinding with one guy in particular. I know its kinda slutty, but I didn't even really see his face although my friends assured me he wasn't good-looking. So anyway, we were dancing for a while and I felt him put his hand on his crotch, although I could feel that he was hard I just kept dancing with him any way because that seemed to be the trend with all the guys I danced with. Anyway after grinding to a few songs with this guy I felt something wet on my back and I thought someone had poured a drink on me.I turned around I saw his penis and I touched my back...thats when I realized what had happened. The guy immediately disappeared in the crowd and being that this was the only "sexual experience" I've ever had I started to cry and was really upset...my friends and I left immediately. So what I want to know is...did I do something wrong or is this something that guys do a lot?
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  • I want you to know that you aren't alone in feelings so disgusted by this perv. .because that's what he is. seriously! it wasn't "slutty" behavior. you were dancing. do you have to change what you like to do because some guy couldn't be a decent human being? I think not. Some of the people on here just flat out disgust me! this was a sex crime what he did to you. This was a violation of your trust and your body. He had NO RIGHT to do that to you.

    All the people that say that you shouldn't have been going things etc are people who are sheltered or need to grow up or something. being a victim of sexual assault by someone I knew who was very charming very attractive and very well off. he may have been all of those things but it doesn't matter what happened to you was in no way OK and there's no reason you should have to brush your feelings under the rug! talk about it talk about your feelings. Don't feel badly for them and don't tuck them anywhere. You have the right to feel the way you do. No one can tell you differently, I'm sure it would have been fine if he would have came in his pants. you would have never known, or if he would have taken it to the bathroom and finished himself, but he CHOSE to be lewd and do something nasty to u.

    please add me to your friends or send me a message if you would like to talk or if you need to talk.

    • Actually it is just as perverted to grinding your ass against someone you don't know & call it dancing! Then cry when some perv does this..actually you both are pervs.

  • This guy is lame. Guys are supposed to keep their cool.

    I understand guys getting hard while dancing, but this is just absurd.

    He didn't even pay for the stained dress you were wearing!

    The depressing part is, he wasn't even ashamed and pulled it out in public.

    Pathetic!

  • You did not do anything wrong- This guy is a total PERV!

    just know that deep inside there are good men out there. Maybe you don't need to bump and grind your way to finding him. chances are- he wouldn't be doing that with some stranger.

    Best of luck getting the stain out!

    LOL

Most Helpful Guys

  • Yes you did something wrong, you cried and got all emotional over the stupid act of another person. There is a tiny group of males who actually get some perverse pleasure from ejaculating on strange females. You should have had a friend wipe off your back side, cussed the guy out if he was around, and continued enjoying your evening. You over reacted too the situation by letting it ruin your evening.

    Being erect while rubbing on a female is normal. If he had come in his pants, that too would have been fairly normal if he is young and inexperienced, but pulling it out and shooting it on your back is not normal.

    • Amazing. Someone disagreed. There is actually some deviant amongst us who thinks it is perfectly fine to go around shooting jizz on unsuspecting females.

    • Its not normal but this was a form of assault. of course it ruined her night. poor girl. I would never wish that on anyone its embarrassing.

    • She wasn't unsuspecting!!!! everyone is saying she was innocent and unsuspecting she reached back and felt that he was hard she knew!!!! but she continued so I think she got just what she deserved!

  • The guy was totally out of line.

    Mardi Gras in New Orleans is a wild and crazy place. An innocent girl you like might be too close to the cesspool of perverts by attending. I am sorry that you found one of the sleaze balls who did not respect your boundaries, and I hope that you have some better memories before your party time in NO is over.

    Good Luck,

    James

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  • that was entirely weird, I'm a guy and I would have never done that...in behalf of all the good men out there...I am sorry. I assure u, there are still some men out there who are decent. Hope this helps...take care.

  • no, it is considered a paraphilia - it is called frotteurism.

    It basically involves rubbing up against a nonconsenting (or unknown) person for sexual gratification. There is actually more gratification if the person is nonconsenting. This also accounts for running off when ejaculation occurred. Hope this helps~

  • Like he had his penis out and came on you? No, that wouldn't be normal at all. I'm sorry that happened.

    It would be normal for a guy to get hard while dancing and I'm sure some younger guys even cum, but this would all be inside of their pants.

    • I meant to agree to this not disagree

    • Well I'd hope so. Thanks for clarifying.

    • I agree with gravygirl on this

  • hahahah! omg ew I would have walked away. no its not normal.

  • OMFG..that's pretty much one of the creepiest story I've ever heard. NO, that is not normal that guy was a sex pervert. O_O

    • I know that's exactly how I felt... but he looked so normal or so my friends say.

    • Sexual deviant, and a sex offender. Too bad you hadn't caught him, he'd have been in jail at the least. He's probably going to do it again to some other woman. I just hope someone catches him. Note to self, if you ever go to Mardi-gras and decide to dance like that, put a mousetrap under my shirt in back...

  • This was not the only sexual experience you've had because it wasn't one at all. You were an innocent in the middle of a debauched party where some lewd dude went way over the line of decency. But Mardi Gras is famous for having no bounds and as a woman in these scenarios, you have to keep your wits about you. The best thing you can do is chalk it up to experience and be more aware of the lewd potential of men in the future. I promise the images of what happened will fade over time.

  • lmao

    sorry, but you felt him when he was hard and continued. In his mind, you gave him consent to flog his dolphin all over your back.

    ahaha he jizzed on your back.. how many of us can say that has happened to us?

    • Lolllll

  • Oh my god lol what a loser he must of been. Jeez he can't hold it in dancing he would probably blast off if a nipple popped out lol.

    Also just saying this, but grinding is really sh*tty dancing... People only do it because they don't know how to really dance.

  • NO, you didn't do anything terrible, but it's a little slutty all the same, even if 'all the girls are doing it.'

    I suspect this happens pretty frequently..!

    Hey, a lot of girls identify with Martha Stewart, too. Doesn't make it right to cheat on your stocks.

    • My response to her comment was only meant to say that I was not some crazy tourist...i've been to new orleans plenty of times and I dance at clubs like everyone else...

  • Ahahahaha!

    This sounds like it could be in a movie.

    You should've found this guy and embarrassed him in from of everyone.

  • I could certainly see a guy getting hard by dirty dancing in a crowd at Mardi Gras. I was there this spring, and I know I got hard a few times doing naughty stuff. Actually taking it out and cumming on your back though, that's over the line a bit. It actually makes me hard just thinking about it, but I don't think I could ever actually do it. It'd be much more fun if you were a willing participant, and maybe gave me a hand job in the crowd.

  • Obvious a guy is going to get off if you are grinding on him. I am pretty sure it was precum. Guys can precum pretty easy

  • you did the right thing that what girls and guys do at parties if he cummed on you it means you are very good at grinding or he cums really fast but he should have stopped you b4 he cummed on you that was just wrong also watt you did isn't slutty its dancing so don't feel bad and ignore anyone that says you did something wrong

  • You cried because a guy found you so hot that that happened? Seems like a pretty solid omen to me.

  • Um, yeah, that's totally not normal...

  • I do that all the time. Shut up guys.

  • That guy was a pervert.

  • it sounds like when he reached back to grab his crotch he whipped it and started playing with it the same time you was grinding so yeah he definietly came on your back. and that's kind of weird lol.

  • Wtf his penis was out? That dude was a perverted no life. That's why he came so fast. Don't worry about it your probably just hot

  • I just don't understand why girls do these grinding dances at clubs. It's not dancing---it's just humping each other while standing up. It's not "cool" or "sexy." It's just stupid.

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