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Am I still a virgin?

I told my boyfriend when we first started dating that I didn't want to have sex. He said that was fine and that he respected that. One time we were... Show More

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  • Virginity is just a word, nothing happens when it's gone, no one will truly know but you whether you did it so why care? I'm not a virgin but in some ways I am:Me and my girlfriend came up with something:ATM I am 1/5 virgin because I have done 4/5 of (handjob, blowjob, titjob, foreplay) but 1/5 not done (sex- done it but only coupla times and still hurts her :( ) and she is 1/5 same and 4/5 done (clitoral, g-spot, licking out, err I forget)anyway, it's your decision reallymy opinion is, no your not cos its not the hymen breaking that hurts, it's the streching out, believe me you'll feel that pain and then your not a virgin. my advice to you is to stop him doing that or go all the way because he is getting a bit more in every time by the sounds of it and one day without warning he'll go all the way in and basically its rape but you won't realise cos its complicated anyway

    • I don't know why it matters but I feel like its something I should know haha thanks for your advice and I will talk to him =)

What Guys Said 6

  • It does not matter. Who cares if you say your a virgin or don't. Claim which ever you like, but you better keep your panties on and knock off the stupid kid games or you are about to be a pregnant non virgin. Seriously, you are playing a very dangerous game.

    • I realize that and that's why I'm starting to ask questions about it. I want to know what damage I have done so I know how to continue on from here

  • Yes you are kind of... . But so you know he intends to go all the way and has no respect for you and your request to wait. It is pushing the virgin not virgin question. I feel when the thin tissue is broke by a ban or passed by then you have lost it. But this is an opinion . Some would say you lost it.

    • If I had broken it during sports or something, then I wouldn't really be able to tell then would I? THey say you can see it with a mirror, and I can't. But since I didn't bleed I think I must have broken it some other time. I am so confused haha

  • You can't be a "little bit" pregnant and you can't be "sort of a virgin".If he put the head in a little bit, you've had sex. It might not have been full blown sex, but it is considered sex by most standards.Not breaking the hymen may be considered the real milestone, and if YOU decide that's it for you, then YOUR definition is the only one that is important.Safest thing to do is to get protection and have sex or have one of you keep your pants on until your ready.

  • Technically your body is still virgin to intercourse, but literally do you really consider a girl who gets a penis put between her legs to be pure/ virginal?Honestly he'll keep going with this until you're having sex so if you really want to make an attempt at saving it, stop doing anything sexual with him. Trust me its like the frog in the frying pan, just a little at a time until you're going at it.

    • I totally agree. That's what I thought when I started thinking about it was, "how did this happen?" haha and I guess I wouldn't consider it pure, but for my own peace of mind I'm going to say I am...

  • once penis enters vagina, ur no longer a virgin. Congratulations, you are now a woman.

What Girls Said 11

  • Technically you haven't had sex, so if it makes you feel better consider yourself a virgin :) and tell that boy to keep his pants on, cause next thing you know, sex will the the new thing to do.

    • It does make me feel better haha especially since I wouldn't be able to say exactly when my first time was... so sex would be like him ejaculating inside of me? or would it simply be going in farther?

  • you still a virgin

  • I would say yes, you're still a virgin in the technical sense. However, if you still do not wish to have sex, you need to tell him that a.s.a.p. or he will continue, little by little until he's got it in. This boy clearly either 1) has no respect for your wish to wait or, 2) thinks that you've changed your mind since you're allowing him to rub his penis on you. It's very likely that the hymen was broken from something else, although not all girls tend to bleed.

    • So if it had been broken from something else, is there any other way to tell when he's put it in far enough to have lost my virginty? That sounds kinda bad, but I'm not saying I'm gonna push it by telling him "hey you can only put it in this far" haha. Just so I know for in the future because I had always thought you could tell by them "popping your cherry", but if its already gone, then what? Ya know?

    • Really, if it goes any further in than what you'd described, I'd change my opinion - because it sounds like you're consensual up until the point when you think that it means losing your virginity, the reality is, either you do or you don't - It's not really fair to him to say "You can put it in part way". Once it's in, it's in - and there's no difference as to how far etc [be sure he wears a condom. And no, you can't really tell if he would have broken your hymen if it had still been there.

    • Yeah, I'm kinda all for trying new things and messings around as long as I don't lose my virginity.... that has always been my intention. There are plenty of things we could do haha

  • hmmm...your 1/2 a virgin lol

    • Lol is there such a thing?

    • I think there is.....because his peterwacker was barely inside you, and I think as long as it WASNT full-on penetration, you are still somewhat a virgin, but then AGAIN, technically speaking it was "inside you" even if it was only a centimeter or whatever

    • So as far as "penetration" goes, I'm not.but since it wasn't very far, I am...haha you're right!!! 50-50

  • TECHNICALLY, yes.

    • But un-technically.... no?

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    • Technically, meaning, since you didn't break your hymen and he didn't fully penetrate you are still considered a virgin.but your actions otherwise are not innocent towards sexual acts... which is what being a virgin also consists of. hence the whole wearing a white dress when you marry. ie. purity.

    • Ok. I understand. thank you

  • I would not worry to me you did not lose your virginity. If you are uneasy about this you should be honest with him because you should never be pressured into doing something that you don't want to do or don't feel is comforable. If he doesn't respect that you don't want to have sex then he isn't worth it.

    • Well I asked him if he thought I was still a virgin and he said yes because he hadn't "popped my cherry" but when I told him it could have broken from other things he just said "well then you aren't." its just so typical of a boy hahabut I wanted to come on here and find out if I was or wasn't. If the majority seems to feel that I am, then I want to tell him I want to stop pushing it. If I'm not, we have other things to talk about haha

  • Your hymen is still entact you are pretty much a virgin but not for very long.

    • If it broke from sports or something though, how could I tell if he went too far?

    • I honestly don't know, I am a virgin. But if a penis is inside of your inner "lips" I don't know the technical term but its not your vagina. You can look up the specifics if you like.

    • Ok thank you! that's what I had always thought of it as, but then when he went a little farther like that I kinda freaked and started asking questions. I talked to him about it today and how I was worried and he said he understood and it was ok with him if we didn't do that anymore. I guess we'll see if he really means that as time goes on haha

  • No your Definitely not a virgin!You might as well full on screw him now :)

    • Haha I think I'll just stop now.

  • as long as you didn't bleed , nope you didn't lose ur virginity and that's 95% sure ... anyway you can check a doc for a 100% answer . and if you really don't wanna lose it try to stop him next time .

    • I have heard you can use a mirror to check if your hymen is still intact, and if its something you can obviously see, either its not there or I don't know what I'm looking for haha I'm worried that if I had broken it through sports or something, I wouldn't bleed my first time. Isn't that breaking the thing that makes you bleed?

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    • Then yeah I still think ur still a virgin .. and btw there s nothing such as 1/2 or 1/4 or bla bla virgin :D its either yes or no ...

    • Thank you =)and yeah I know haha I was just kidding

  • so a year later.. are you stil a virgin? or you just let him do it? same thing happend to me. but my hymen did not break. so technically, I stil am. and that makes me feel a lot better. I'm not trying this ever again! till I'm ready

  • once a penis goes inside your vagina...you have "lost your virginity"...you should not let him make you do anything you don't want to do...and you are still at risk for pregnancy and STDs, even if you guys aren't "fully" doing "it"...please keep that in mind.

    • I am now... can you get pregnant if he doesn't ejaculate in or around your vagina? as in he pulled out and did it too the side and asumeing he wasn't too late haha

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    • It is basically lubrication for the penis before intercourse....the thing is that it has sperm in it....and even if pre come or regular ejaculate gets near your vaginal opening....you can get pregnant. he does not have to come inside of you for you to get pregnant when you are saying his penis head is right at the opening....

    • Haha well that's very good to know, thank you.I am clearly not ready for this =/

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