I told my boyfriend when we first started dating that I didn't want to have sex. He said that was fine and that he respected that. One time we were making out on his bed and he started fingering me like he had before, but this time he took his pants off. We were kissing and I tried to push him off because I didn't want that and he said he "wasn't going to put it in." He just started rubbing it between my legs.
Well that became the new thing to do and almost every time we were making out on a bew or something he started doing that. One time, he let it kinda rest on my vagina, but it didn't go in. Then that was the new thing to do.
However, I have started speculating that even if his head was only a little bit inside, maybe I had still lost my virginity. The thought scares me because I wouldn't even know which time to count as saying I had lost it.
Just the other day I think he went in a little farther than the other times. Probably not even an inch and definitely not all the way.
So all this begs the question, am I still a virgin? I have never bled but I have read that the hylem can be broken during other events, and sometimes not even bleed.
Virginity is just a word, nothing happens when it's gone, no one will truly know but you whether you did it so why care? I'm not a virgin but in some ways I am:
Me and my girlfriend came up with something:
ATM I am 1/5 virgin because I have done 4/5 of (handjob, blowjob, titjob, foreplay) but 1/5 not done (sex- done it but only coupla times and still hurts her :( ) and she is 1/5 same and 4/5 done (clitoral, g-spot, licking out, err I forget)
anyway, it's your decision really
my opinion is, no your not cos its not the hymen breaking that hurts, it's the streching out, believe me you'll feel that pain and then your not a virgin.
my advice to you is to stop him doing that or go all the way because he is getting a bit more in every time by the sounds of it and one day without warning he'll go all the way in and basically its rape but you won't realise cos its complicated anyway
It does not matter. Who cares if you say your a virgin or don't. Claim which ever you like, but you better keep your panties on and knock off the stupid kid games or you are about to be a pregnant non virgin. Seriously, you are playing a very dangerous game.
Yes you are kind of... . But so you know he intends to go all the way and has no respect for you and your request to wait. It is pushing the virgin not virgin question. I feel when the thin tissue is broke by a ban or passed by then you have lost it. But this is an opinion . Some would say you lost it.
Technically your body is still virgin to intercourse, but literally do you really consider a girl who gets a penis put between her legs to be pure/ virginal?
Honestly he'll keep going with this until you're having sex so if you really want to make an attempt at saving it, stop doing anything sexual with him. Trust me its like the frog in the frying pan, just a little at a time until you're going at it.
I would say yes, you're still a virgin in the technical sense. However, if you still do not wish to have sex, you need to tell him that a.s.a.p. or he will continue, little by little until he's got it in. This boy clearly either 1) has no respect for your wish to wait or, 2) thinks that you've changed your mind since you're allowing him to rub his penis on you. It's very likely that the hymen was broken from something else, although not all girls tend to bleed.
I would not worry to me you did not lose your virginity. If you are uneasy about this you should be honest with him because you should never be pressured into doing something that you don't want to do or don't feel is comforable.
If he doesn't respect that you don't want to have sex then he isn't worth it.
I'm in the same situation he only put his head in my push but I'm scared because I was in sports & I Dont really know if I'm a virgin still or not he didn't put his dick all the way in but he did out his head in there.. ? Please help me
So me and my boyfriend where playing aroumd couple days ago he put the tip in and it hurted so. much and then we heard something pop istarted bleeding but ikno forsure he didn't go all the way in i just wanna know if im still a virgin or not...
so a year later.. are you stil a virgin? or you just let him do it? same thing happend to me. but my hymen did not break. so technically, I stil am. and that makes me feel a lot better. I'm not trying this ever again! till I'm ready
once a penis goes inside your vagina...you have "lost your virginity"...you should not let him make you do anything you don't want to do...and you are still at risk for pregnancy and STDs, even if you guys aren't "fully" doing "it"...please keep that in mind.