How can someone confront their partner to find out the truth about cheating?

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I could really use some help figuring out how to find out the truth. All I'm looking for is to hear it from my partner what the truth is. How can I achieve this? I have a long list of reasons as to why I think there's infidelity going on.

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Muñekababy Xper 4
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The only way I can see you confronting her and she admits to any wrong doing is with evidence. Bc I can tell you this.. if she's been sneaky she can easily lie in ur face. So I suggest you do some spy work!! Ask a girl friend for help... Girls are great detectives.
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- Asker
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  I've got most everything I need to prove it except for actually seeing her do it. Even though its a bit creepy I've done some spying. Also I now have an STD fml but she's the only person I've even kissed in the past year. Her own sister think she's cheating, since they live together I would assume that's pretty solid. Honestly I'd forgive her , but I feel like being single the rest of my if she doesn't...
- Muñekababy
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  Ok! An Std That definitely sucks..! But I guess if you're willing to forgive her.. there's not really much to it.. cause once you confront her n forgive her.. believe she's gonna do it again and again. Just walk away without saying anything. It ain't worth it.
- Asker
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  If she wasn't pregnant I would dump her ans never look back. Not even sure I'm the reason she's pregnant tbh but if its mine I'd rather either work things out or fight for custody. I'm stupid for hooking up with her, I do realize it. Ugh
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- Muñekababy
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  Damn that's so complicated.. But remember You gotta do what's best for You.. good luck
- Asker
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  Unfortunately yeah its complicated. I made a big mistake choosing to be with her and paying the price for it now.
Cleveland Explorer
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Very rarely does confronting get the result you're looking for. If you are though, be sure to present a valid argument and facts to substantiate it. If you don't, it's most likely going to end with the other person becoming defensive and lying.
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- Asker
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  Well hmm what should I do? I have pretty much every single shred of evidence a person would need aside from actually catching her in the act
- Cleveland
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  Go for it... What are you going to lose? If you're wrong great, if you're not then you will no longer be cheated on and you can move on if you choose to.
- Asker
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  That's a good point. I just don't know how to go about it and get the truth
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- Cleveland
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  Casually sit her down, stay calm, cool and collected (as best as you can) and present your findings. Almost act in a way to where she thinks you are empathetic and not angry. That may allow her to open up and then when she does, you can decide what you want to do from there.
- Asker
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  Oh that actually seems pretty wise. So essentially what I should do is try and be understanding of her feelings and sympathetic about why she's not feeling loved or something along those lines?
- Cleveland
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  Exactly, make it seem as if you must have been the cause that resulted in her straying. A lot of women will start crying and then all details are spilled. Trust me, she has guilt that is weighing on her.
- Asker
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  OK I can do that, I know I haven't been the best boyfriend to her and honestly a lot of it probably is my fault. Not all of it but a decent portion. Is there anything specific I should say that will help?
- Cleveland
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  Tell her you're trying to understand why she felt the need to cheat. Ask her what you could have done differently. Honestly, you may think that you weren't/aren't the best boyfriend, but it doesn't excuse cheating. If she was unhappy she should have ended the relationship and moved on. I hope you can both work it out if that's what you really want, but she needs to understand that her behavior is unacceptable.
- Asker
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  I agree fully. That's all sounds pretty solid, I appreciate you advice
- Asker
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  I tried it, didn't work out like I had hoped but still good advice. I think things are just to far gone at this point
- Cleveland
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  I'm sorry to hear that...
- Asker
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  Eh its okay. Thank you. Just time to move on
Anonymous
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Just come right out and ask her. If you suspect that there is infidelity and have reasons why you suspect, then she will have to answer you.
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- Asker
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  I've tried be she insists that she been faithful. Not sure what more I can do. I'd prefer her just come clean with it so we can move on, I'm very forgiving when it comes to honesty
- Opinion Owner
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  The thing is that if she has been cheating and you have asked her about it before and she has denied it then she hasn't been honest with you at all. Whatever reasons you have you should at least get answers.
- Asker
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  I agree with you. Sucks knowing what I do but being lied to/:

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Anonymous
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You just pack your bags and walk out of the her life forever.
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- Asker
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  Well yeah I'm ready to do that. I guess I'm trying to get either closure or a last ditch effort to grow with each other
- Opinion Owner
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  I wouldn't bother, that seems like an utter waste of your time and effort.