How can you nicely ask a girl her bra size?

I've been thinking about this girl, she's one of my best friends and I want to know how to ask her boob size without being gross. Please help


Most Helpful Girl

  • Let me ask you a question...

    Why do you want to know her bra size? Are you using it to compare or rate her? I hope you aren't one of those guys that uses these kind of physical numbers to critique a gal. Personally, I think that unless you are buying her lingerie (while dating) or in an intimate situation with her, you should never ask a girl her bra size. There are a few girls that like to boast it aloud but usually they are looking for more than the average attention (and they are more than likely a nice handful).

    If you found out that she was a 34A, would you not be interested any longer? If you found out she was a 34D would you like her more? Is it about bragging rights for your "bros" to talk about? If you like her boobs without knowing her digits - then leave it at that. Going further to get a level grading of them is pretty rude and gives me an impression that you are looking for a trophy to show off and have the right bra label to back up your trophy stats.

    By the way, a lot of girls would be offended (depending on how well a friend you are or if she is into you) to know that a guy has been wondering so much about something physical like her bra size. Why don't you guess her shoe size and tell all your guy friends about that?

    • What if I can tell her bra size, since I used to work in women business

What Girls Said 10

  • Only time you should care is if you want to buy her lingerie. If not, it shouldn't matter what she wears!

  • it's not really possible. but I don't mind when a guy asks, I just kinda laugh.

  • That's really funny. A guy I like (a friend of mine) and I were in this cafe and they had their "cup sizes" (like beverage cups) as A for small, B for medium, C for large etc. I made a comment about this because I thought it was kinda funny and then my friend just casually asked me what size I was and I told him. I was actually kinda flattered that he noticed.I'm personally not ashamed of my small-ish bra size but I could understand how it would feel weird to ask. It would be like me asking a guy his penis size.

  • Ok I don't really think there is a direct way of asking her she would appreciate, but if she's more the talkative type you could bring up the subject of cup sizes and say a few things which could prompt her to tell you hers.

  • You can see how big her boobs are with your eyes (I don't suggest staring though.)
    I don't see why you need to know her bra size? That's weird and there really isn't a good way to go about asking.

  • why is bra size so important?

  • You really can't.

  • Errr. Why?

    Unless she's your girlfriend.Then who cares? Boobs are Boobs. Right?

  • I don't get why people get so defensive about this.

    I always get asked by EVERYONE and I get kind of embarrassed about it because I'm a DD but I tell them and I'm not going to yell at them for asking me.


What Guys Said 8

  • The answer to this is simple: DON'T EVEN ASK!

    Men are born with the ability to peel women's clothes off with our eyeballs. How else do you think we came about with computer graphics? If you have been around enough women, you can tell their bra size with asking. This also is quite similar with judging a woman's age without asking. With my life experiences in 38 years on this hellish world, I can correctly judge nearly any woman's 3 sizes and her age. This is a darn good skill in avoiding those girls who look like 24, act like 34 but they are really 15.

  • Do you want her to think that you're the bigger boob? :)

    Not sure why you would need to know but you can either ask another female friend for advise as they ought to be able to guesstimate or with time, and exposure to other women, you'll be able to accurate guess their size on your own. You just require a lot of practice and I mean the hands on variety and not by studying the Sears or Victoria Secret catalog.

  • Honestly there isn't a "nice" way, unless you're dating/hooking up/together. It's personal information, just like asking her questions about her period.

    • Actually. I just thought of a way lol. But it would only work with a certain type of girl. Not all

  • No matter how nicely you ask her, she's still probably going to not like the fact that you are asking.

    If you really want to know, take a mental picture of her, remember it, then go find a bra that size. Then look at the tag on the bra.

  • You can't really. I mean if you really want to know you could be really creepy about it and just wait till she leaves her home and go through her dresser, but there is no "polite" way of asking.

  • In this day and age, most women will probably tell you how big their boobs are. How can you get them to do that? Simple. Women want an honest and confident man, so the best approach would probably be to... well... JUST ASK. Of course, it would definitely help if she felt comfortable enough with you, but their are exceptions to that rule (If she's comfortable in her own skin, she might just tell you.). Seriously though- Act like it's not a big deal because a woman can sense a lack of confidence in a guy. I know this sounds weird, but it's true. Think of it like this- When you were growing up, your parents would ask, "How was school today?" and you would probably tell them, right? Of course, they would probably ask during dinnertime, so you would be relaxed enough to tell them the truth. Women are VERY similar. After all, if you just walk up and say something like, "Hey Baby! How big are your titties?", they will freak out (and possibly mace you), but if you approach her with a confident attitude and have an intelligent conversation with her, she'll feel comfortable with you. How do you et to that point? Simple. Talk about the TWO things that women think about most- Clothes and Shopping. Start by talking about a less risqué topic, such as funny T-Shirts. Then, slowly increase the sexual tension by talking about slightly more intimate, but still socially appropriate things, such as how hard it must be to find a decent bra with the vastly different sizing schemes. Then, lay on some humor. Say something like, "I can imagine that you owe the clothing store a LOT of money for those bras you probably busted while trying them on.". When she laughs at your funny joke, say "What's your bra size anyways?". All in all, I have found that this is the approach that works best for me, so I'm not going to guarantee anything. You should find what approach works best for you. Good luck.

  • Okay, I have done this before without ANY negative reaction. This is how you do it.

    First you have to look at them from the side. The bust size is like waist size. The further off the chest, the higher the letter from smallest (A) to largest (DD or even F's - yes there is such thing). To get the gist, think of it like this.

    Golf ball - Plum (small to large A)

    Peach to Baseball (small to large B)

    regular Apple to big Orange (small to large C)

    Grapefruit to cantelope (small to large D)

    Anything larger (DD to F)

    Now that you've got the gist, look at your friend and get an estimate.

    Then you say the following:

    "Hey {her name} what's up!? So I'm trying to put a Britney Spears Halloween costume together and I want to buy a bra but I have no clue what size I would be. Can you come and pick one out for me? Do you think a 34B would fit me? I have no idea. You're what like a 34 {{{one letter higher than your estimate}}} right? "

    The key is to ALWAYS estimate LARGER than she is so she can CORRECT you.

    If she says YES then BINGO, you know. If she says NO, then she'll correct you. If she doesn't correct you then just say "well what are you? "

    If she doesn't tell you, then say "well can I borrow one of your bras? " and BINGO you'll get the size.

    if she says no, you say "well how bout you pick one out, I'll buy it, and when I'm done with it, you can have it! "

    If she STILL says no. She probably is self-conscious about her body and might not want you knowing. Then you're screwed and the only way to find out is to sneak into her room at night while she sleeps and find out for yourself (JUST KIDDING. BAD. Don't do that. NO! ).

    Good luck skippy. And let me know how it goes

    • Haha, I like this approach! The only thing I'd add is you should guess larger on cup size but not band size. So, if you guess she's a 34B, ask if she's a 34C, not 36C. The number measures the rib cage size, and she might think you're calling her fat!

    • It'd be so obvious he just wanted to know my size if he asked me that! But if at the same time he was as funny as you come off of this post, I'd let it slide :)

  • ask wats her boob size :D