Please help i'm afraid of orgasm?

Question

Ok this may sound stupid, but im actually like afraid to orgasm. 
my boyfriend says he reallly wants to give me one, 
but im too freaked out by it. I've only had orgasm couple times before and it freaked me out, my whole body was uncontrollable shaking and heavy breathing or moaning...
I honestly did not enjoy it.. more like scared that I couldn't control my body.
I just hate to show my boyfriend me having an intense orgasm. I found it is definitely not pretty.
I once had an orgasm while having sex with him I cried after which is pathetic but I finally admit that I'm afraid of orgasm. so I have no idea how I am supposed to tell someone else. I appreciate any help anyone can give me.

stevie123 · Accepted Answer

This is one time that you should enjoy losing control. It sounds like you are having intense orgasms, and it might be a little startling at first. When my GF has an orgasm, it makes me feel really good to do it for her, you shouldn't be afraid to show him how he makes you cum. I love to see a girl lose control, and get wrapped up in the moment. You are looking at this the wrong way. I find girls very beautiful and alluring when they cum for me.
It is the ultimate act of togetherness. Embrace your body. Your BF wants you to cum. Try to think of it as doing it for him, you will get pleasure from it.

Supermosh1990 · Accepted Answer

There is nothing be afraid, having an orgasm is a perfectly natural thing, just keep that in mind when you have one. It's called pleasure. Just try to keep on telling your self that it's a good thing and focus only on the positive never the negative. Hope this helps. Let me know if your still having problems.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't really like orgasms either I kind of half orgasm... Like get to the point where it feels good but I don't actually orgasm because I don't like the feeling of the pressure building and then rushing out... I don't know but when a guy thinks he isn't pleasuring you it can be a huge blow to his self esteem so maybe fake it for him and then you avoid actually having to orgasm and he gets the pleasure of thinking he made you orgasm...

Creative_boss · Accepted Answer

He won't care what you look or sound like with an orgasm. I'm not exactly the prettiest either :/ but if orgasms freak you out it sounds like your not very experienced. Maybe tell your boyfriend you want to experience things yourself before your ready?

Plato · Answer

Practice with a vibrator, find a room alone, and try it a few times, you should get more familiar with it.

SaVes · Answer

You're afraid of the most amazing feeling in the world? Then there is no help for you.

summiter · Answer

You will get use to them keep practicing on your own

ledfoot64 · Answer

nothing wrong with how you feel about orgasms with orgasms that is how your suppose to feel when me and my wife make love we both have orgasms to where we both lose control over what our bodies do when it happens and when it's over you feel a hell of a lot better and what to have more orgasms so just let it out and you will enjoy sex a lot better then

Tokana · Answer

Wow, sounds intense. Maybe if you had it more often you'd eventually become desensitized a little or at least become more comfortable with it. But that's just my humble opinion I'm sure women would know better.

Frank_B · Answer

Women are so beautiful when they're having an orgasm, with their wrinkled eyebrows. For a real man, it is one of the most beautiful natural manifestations of pleasure. Let yourself go, as if you try to resist you will ruin that moment for both yourself and your partner. Have fun :)