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I want to lose my virginity to my boyfriend but I'm afraid his penis is too big?

We have been together for 5 months now and we both want to have sex. But we are both virgins. And I'm afraid that his penis is way too big for me! He is worried too. We talked about it and decided to try and look online to see if there is anything we can do to make this easier for eachother. I'm not worried about how long he is, I think that's a little above average. I'm worried about how thick he is. We measured it together and it's like right over 6 inches around. Am I freaking out about nothing? Or is it just not going to go in?
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  • Don't worry, it will fit, lol. Mine is a bit thicker than that, and although my girlfriend is very petite, she is able to take it with a little bit of patience and lube. :-)

    That being said, your first time is probably going to be unpleasant/painful regardless of his size. Just try not to associate the first time pain with the size of his equipment. It would hurt even if he was smaller.

    You will want to go slow the first time, and communicate with him clearly and openly. If you need to him stop or slow down, tell him.

    After you've done it once, and gotten it out of the way, it will begin to feel much better the second time. You will get used to his girth, as well. He won't "stretch you out", but you'll become more accustomed to him with practice.

    Above all, have fun and good luck! :-)

  • Relax. I don't think you should worry so much. Too much tension and anxiety can cause the vaginal walls to contract making it less stretchy lowering the potential of how much you could possibly take. When you first have sex, your boyfriend should use a lot of lubricant and penetrate slowly. This way, it would give your vagina more time for his penis to ease, adjust and stretch to fit around your vagina.

    During sex, you should try multiple sex positions to help you find the most comfortable and pleasurable position to have sex. If it is too painful or you are feeling a lot of discomfort, stop immediately as you don't want to feel overly sore. Then try again afterwards.

    Happy first time and I hope this helps you. :)

Most Helpful Girls

  • I had the same problem when my boyfriend and I were trying to have sex the first time. Listen, if you're aroused enough and wet enough, it can and will fit. Arousal and lube--whether naturally occurring or store-bought--are really key factors. Also, go on top and lower yourself onto him. That's what I did. Went down until it hurt to much then stopped, then went down a little more and stopped, and continued until her was all the way in. Yes, I bled, yes, it hurt. You get past it. It gets better with time and practice.
    Just make sure he gets you really aroused and wet! Your vagina loosens up a bit with arousal. Also, try your best to relax. Being nervous and tense will probably make your vaginal muscles tight and make it harder for the two of you.

    • Should I tell him to be on the bottom the first time then? How much did that help?

    • It helped because I felt like I had control of how much pain I was going to be in, and I could just stop if it got too much. Idk, I recommend it. I was just on top until I got him all the way inside. Then we flipped to missionary and actually had the sex.

  • Sex shouldn't hurt- the reason many experience pain their first time is because they are nervous and therefore tense and therefore not lubricated enough. Take it easy, use lube, and try to do other things (hands or oral) as foreplay to help turn you on and get ready for penetration. If you feel like it's too much or too quick, it's okay to stop.

    It sounds like you have a loving partner so you should be fine. Communication is good :)

  • Umm, even if his 'thing' wasn`t so large, losing your virginity is going to hurt. Well, for most people it does. And it`s going to be uncomfortable. So when you do, 'do the deed', and it hurts, tell your boyfriend to let you get used to it. After that, the second and third times are usually better.

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  • It well fit but I would master bait with a dildo few times before having sex cause for the first time it's going to hurt a lot and to add a bigger guy into the mix is going to hurt more. So by master baiting you will lossen up your muscles down there and use lube to so that it slids in and out better and don't forget about the condum

  • If a baby can come out of it, a penis can certainly go into it.

    • That's irrelevant, hormonal changes dilate the vaginal canal during pregnancy and the amount of pain can cause women to shit themselves lol. I don't plan on doing that

    • A babys head is probably four times bigger than your BFs dick. It will fit.

  • i think the bigger the better. go big or go home.

    • if thats what you think you should hmu ;)

    • Fuck off creep

    • lol i was tryin 2 be funny

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  • just do it , it will happen one way or another I don't know

  • DON'T SEX PLEASE YOU WILL BE KILLED BY HIM, 6 INCH! haaaaaa! this is freaking horrible like a assult rifle barrel please don't sex with him he will drill u from back to head

  • time to FAP...

    https://gomotors.net/photos/3d/96/fap_a1713.jpg?i

    • Seriously? I need some help.

    • lube, and time. Take it slow.

    • lmao

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