You should politely tell her no. You should talk to her face to face and ask her why she wants to lose her virginity like this. Sort of like young guys going to a prostitute to lose their virginity with "no strings attached". Is there a possibility that she has some sort of feelings for you that she isn't telling you about? (That was my first thought.)
I can tell you from a girls perspective that the guy you lose your virginity to will always hold a special place in your heart. I couldn't or wouldn't want that if I was not romantically involved or in love with my friend. The other thing to me is that having sex for the first time should be special, it is a life changing event, to me it was. It's something that should be shared with someone you really love, not someone you're friends with, even best friends. There are many women who view their virginity or their hymen as a useless piece of tissue, she seems to be of that point of view. The other thing is that things will change between you and her, you cannot be that intimate with another person without some sort of feelings or relationship changes happening.
I think you should reeaaaally reeaally ask her why would she want that and put your heart out?
I don't want to say do or don't but I'd like to share my experience. I choose to give my virginity to a friend to somebody whom I feel like a very nice man because I feel safer emotionally if I give my virginity to somebody whom I already know and feel is nice (first time but with safety we used protection) but from that day on that I decided that I am giving my virginity to him, I know I will leave him alone after because I just want to be free from the thought that the next guys I might meet and date would only be after my first time which is as a girl is important to me. And I got what I need from that time. I really suggest talk and listen and see what's going on in her mind.
You should ask her if she really thinks she is ready and if she looks unsure then tell her that she should just wait until she is or finds someone that she truly loves.
If she doesn't have feelings for you back then I don't think you should. If you guys ended up having sex, your friendship would be awkward and she might not even want you to talk to her anymore.
Don't. Unless you want her to attach feelings to you. If your taking her first she will. And while it eliminates the chances of it being taken by a jerk but there's no guarantee it'll be taken by a jerk. In fact that just isn't as common as everyone seems to believe. maybe in high school but at your age you probably aren't in high school. You already know it's a bad idea so there was no real need to ask advice. Why would you want to complicate things and maybe even destroy a friendship for something like this? And imagine that 1 in a hundred chance you get her pregnant. Then you would be well and truly screwed.
You should politely decline, and tell her that you hope she'll find someone great to lose her virginity to, but that you think it's a bad idea. It's obvious that you already think it's a bad idea and I think that you'll find just about everyone on this site reinforcing that notion. Having sex with someone that you're not in love with or at least sexually attracted to is a recipe for disaster. Even flings have SOME sort of basis above platonic friendship. Losing her virginity is something she should do with someone she cares about romantically, not just someone she cares about at all.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Don't. best thing to do is to talk to her about it, losing your virginity is best left to someone you want a relationship with. If you're afraid of her getting with a jerk, maybe you could help her choose someone that's nice, someone that you feel deserves her.
Don't do it. Although you two share a special relationship it's not a romantic one right? If you have sex with her period...especially with it being her first time she will automatically start to feel something for you and then things will be complicated. You should let her down easy and inform her that her virginity should be taken by someone she is in love with...not just someone that she loves.
Perfectly said.
I agree with most of what you say but I don't think that virginity should be lost only to someone you are "in love with" .... at least someone you care for and you find special will do ... well that's just my opinion ....
i think this is a bad idea. many times when females have sex they tend to involuntarily get feelings for the guy. If you do not have feelings for the girl and only see her as a friend then I don't think I would do it.
I do have feelings for her she just won't date me.
Well once you have sex 1 of you will get hurt. she may start get feelings but the relationship will never ever be the same or she might not get feelings but you will get more feelings for her and you will be hurt. I truly believe its a lose lose situation.
Don't.. taking a virginity is attached to so many emotions.. just tell her to wait for a guy she feels she loves.. trust me you don't want the drama that comes with it..
Well you need to find out the reasons why she wants to lose her virginity. Then you need to find out if she want's the relationship between you two to change because that's what this will do. Lastly you need to ask yourself you you could see her as more than a friend. Be careful on this the first time for a girl is a big thing, so trend lightly on this topic.
your friendship wouldn't even be what it was if you did that.
Totally true!!!!!! Once you cross the line with your friend is no longer your friend!
I don't think you should do that because you guys aren't going out or anything and you are just friends it doesn't mean she's going to loose it to some jerk her boyfriend could be a really nice guy. I would say if you like her and want to be with her then you should tell her that because it sounds to me like you like her as more then a friend.
GO FOR IT! :D
wear a condom!
Definitely don't. She is your friend, not your girlfriend or more importantly not your wife. Tell her that you won't do it, and that she needs to rethink her decision about sex. It is not your problem if she decides to lose it to someone else.
I've got a follow-up to this. What if the girl in question is your ex and we both agreed being friends would be better. What should I do if she wants to explore things with me?
Well... I think that since you've known her forever and you two are friends and she OBVIOUSLY Trusts you a GREAT Deal/Amount well then I say "shoot why not because it OBVIOUSLY Wouldn't be considered being called RAPE or anything because/since she had asked you to be the one to take her Virginity from her and, once again, since you both ARE friends and everything well then you'll/you'd Obviously know how to "do" her in the "right" ways to HOPEFULLY make her ejaculate and make it that much more "special" to have her Virginity taken by somebody that she's Obviously THAT Comfortable with. So as somebody that has myself taken somebody's/a female's Virginity away I say yeah go for it I mean Yeah sure it may/will be uncomfortable for the both of you BUT still though I mean it's OBVIOUSLY going to happen sooner or later so WHY not have it happen with somebody that she's OBVIOUSLY that Comfortable with.
dont do it
i did it because I thought it was the right thing to do and well she kept insisting
just sit her down and tell her "you know what just wait till that person you love comes around the corner" and just be nice to her not harsh if she gets mad let her man she'll come back toyou and she'll be srry
cause if you do do it with her
it ruins the relationship and you guys just break off and no more best friends and well if you guys are in love with each other just let yourself grow into it and then decide
im tellling you off experience
i say don't do it she's worth more than taking her virginity man
she's gonna need you in the future
best of luck
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