Girls or Guys: What makes having sex with a virgin bad?

Why does everyone say having sex with a virgin is boring or bad. I am a virgin and worried that no girl is going to want to sleep with me because everyone says sex with a virgin isn't good.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Sex with a virgin girls is mostly bad. I've been with 3 virgins and only 1 was good. The 1 virgin was good because she actually wanted me to show her what to do and how to do it to make me feel good in kissing, foreplay, and intercourse. She actually let me show her how to enjoy cunnilingus.

    Most virgin girls are bad because
    1. They Don't do anything and just lay there because Don't know what they are doing.
    2. They are not willing to learn and not willing to be taught how to do something that makes you feel good.
    3. They don't ask questions on how to do something like a handjobs and BJ's
    4. They have hang ups like not letting you go down on them. The don't relax so you can give them an orgasm when you go down on them.

    The most successful relationships I've had are girls that have been with 1 or 2 guys. They have an amazing sex drive. They realize they need to give and receive. They know what they are doing. And they are still willing to learn new moves and new positions.

  • It's the same concern that someone would have about agreeing to a sack race with someone who had never done it before: the outcome may not be very positive. Their concern is that the virgin won't be very good in bed because they don't have any experience. It's not always the case that the person is bad at first, but it's a more distinct possibility that way.

    Overall, though, I wouldn't worry about it. It's an extremely minor thing and if a girl is into you, I doubt that alone is going to dissuade her from having sex with you.

Most Helpful Girls

  • You know what? ALL those people who aren't virgins had to start off being virgins. We aren't born sexual active, so if you come across any woman who doesn't want to have sex with you only because of that reason then she very well isn't worth your time. It bothers me that men and women take such importance on this subject. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin, whether its by choice, religion or other. I also don't believe virgin's are boring in bed. Inexperienced, yes. But that doesn't mean that they don't have imaginations. There are many books and movies that you can get ideas from. Just depends who's willing to learn ;)

    Good Luck

  • No, I disagree, its just that you're un-experienced, it's really not a big deal, like when you first have sex it might be a little weird because you're new to it, but you'll be fine. Whenever you choose to have sex, don't plan it or anything, just let it come natural and with foreplay, that way it will be a lot more relaxed and pleasurable.

  • I would rather have sex with a virgin. Maybe that's because I'm a virgin though, I don't know.

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  • whether or not sex with a virgin is "bad" depends on your goal.

    if you view sex mostly, or only, as a way to feel pleasure for yourself, sex with a virgin might be bad. virgins, by definition, have little to no experience with sex, so they're not as "good at it" as a more experienced person.

    if you view sex as a way to bond to a partner in a loving, committed, long-term relationship, then sexual experience (or lack thereof) is a minor concern. if someone loves you, they're willing to be patient, be a teacher and be understanding with differences and work towards a win-win for both partners. not only in in sex, but in all aspects of the relationship.

  • well I guess sex with a virgin CAN be bad (I know I was done the moment we started my first time) but that's not always the case. and I personally have know a lot of women who have prided themselves in deflowering virgins. especially with people in your age group, I think the majority of people would be cool with having sex with a virgin.

  • If you're that insecure then don't say you're virgin. They wouldn't understand anyway.

  • I'd prefer to have sex with a virgin. I know heaps of people disagree, but it seems more special when you know that your the only one that's ever got to. Kinda like a privilege. And training them up is fun. *wink*