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Need advice on how to give amazing head?

Okay, finally hooked up with a guy tonight that I've had feelings for like forever. I was giving him an hj and I let him know that I have my period right now. So he basically immediately moved his hand to the back of my head and started guiding me down there, Not like really shocking, obviously some of you don't like having sex when we're on our period. But anyway I finished him up with a beej and it seemed like he was really into it. It took him like forever but this wasn't the first guy I've been with who takes a really long time to finish if he's just getting a bj. But afterwards he started making some comments about how i give sloppy head and just really being an asshole. I was honestly like in disbelief that he was finding a way to complain about any situation that involved his dick in my mouth lol The next night we hooked up again and it was basically a repeat of the first night (only this time he asked me if I'd give up the butt and I said absolutely not lol). But once again it took like prolly at least 45 mins of a blowj before he finished. I'm pretty confident in my skills, it's not like this is the first time I've gone down on a guy, but I'm curious if anyone has any advice on how to get him to finish sooner. This is the first time I've ever had complaints but I really wanna be able to make him shut up about this lol
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Well, first of all, he definitely does not deserve a good blowjob, but:

    I'm very confident in my blowing skills, I'll share my secrets with you. Boys, correct me if I'm wrong about anything, but this is what I've learned: Your tongue is the magic wand when it comes to blowjobs. The sensitive places on his penis are the tip of the penis and the shaft. I know everyone says that, but bear with me. Wave the magic wand and swirl your tongue around and around the tip of his penis while massaging or slowly stroking the rest of him with your hand. You can lubricate your hand with your saliva or flavored lube or whatever. Or if you wanna tease him, don't do the hand part, only swirl your tongue around him. Remember to lick him from bottom to top like a lollipop, keeping your tongue flat and look up at his eyes while slowly licking him a few times, then take him back into your mouth and with every time you go down, go slightly deeper and deeper. Slowly. I like to swirl my tongue around the tip again just ONCE and then going back down and coming back up to swirl my tongue once again, in ONE WHOLE CONTINUOUS MOTION. (Come up to the tip, swirl, go back down. Repeat.) This doesn't have to be fast. You want to work him up. Once you want to actually suck him off and make him come, You basically just have to bob your head up and down, slow down sometimes slow down a little and tease the tip again or wherever with your tongue and then go back to it. If your jaw starts hurting, you can always purse your lips (as if you were an old grandma with no teeth--LOL) that usually relaxes my jaw a little bit. Just continue with bobbing and using your tongue to rub against the tip or anywhere on the penis, really. Also, the part that "separates" the tip and the rest of it, the bottom of the little mushroom part, can feel a lot every time you come up and go back down so make sure you go back up far enough to rub against that part with your lips when you go back down.

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    • (Continued...) If he likes having his balls licked, then go ahead and do that. Give cute little kisses on his balls and keep a flat tongue when you lick. Also, a very comfortable position you could give a blowjob in (my favorite) is where you sit him down in a couch or something elevated off the floor, your bed perhaps, and you kneel on the floor, but don't sit on your ankles. Your mouth should be roughly leveled with his crotch. I find this position the least straining and the most endurance fulfilling. You don't have to hold yourself up, bobbing your head up and down is helped with your legs too, and your arms and neck don't get sore. Good luck!

  • Why would you even want to put your mouth or any other of your orifice's around this jerks dick? Comment after first sucking would have been the "bye bye see ya later" asshole for me.

Most Helpful Guys

  • First of all let me say this guy already seems like a douche. Not someone you should be considering a serious relationship with. Like you said this situation involves his dick in your mouth. He should have asked you if you were ok with blowing him first verbally, not just hinting towards it with his hand on the back of your head. That's just disrespectful and degrading. Have some more self respect pleassse. He should be sooo grateful and I'll go as far to say he should feel indebted to you. You gave him head til he came...
    Anyway even though I feel like I shouldn't give you tips on how to better please this guy I will.
    I recommend when you're on your way back up towards the penis head, apply as much sucking power as you can and focus a lot of pressure on the underside of the penis head. Personally I can go for a long long time if there is little to no stimulation on the head, especially the underside. In fact you could do some up downs then a lot of high pressure sucks on the head then some more up downs.

  • Honestly... I feel this guy us a frikkin bonehead. Find someone that appreciates you and your blow jobbing skills for what they are. Yes one can always improve but that comes naturally not because someone is critisizing you. Even if you are just hooking up for fun there still needs to be respect in the intimacy. Take care :)

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  • Well I'd say this guy doesn't deserve a bj but oh well

    The visual aspect is important. We can tell if you're not into doing it. Show your enthusiasm for it. Give us the BJ eyes. Mix it up and go to town on it.

    If it looks like a constant, just plain up and down, chore-like bj, it won't be as good.

    Also, don't forget about the balls.

  • Hahahahaah. His penis seems like a dry handpump. No matter how much u pump it dosent give water. It seems that he had slept with lots of girls and now his cumming power power has decreased. Ask him to go to a vet. LOL From ur side everything is ok.

  • I actually don't think i want to, the guy sounds like a d*ck and im not sure why you want to be with him. Sounds like he is full of himself and wants to treat you like a mat

  • some guys seem to have a problem of taking ages, personally I dont

    • you can practice on me

    • yeah, right :P

  • google it or search the topic on this site, it's around all the time.

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