He is not circumcised and it really bothers me.
I have been seeing this guy for about 3 months now. I like it him a lot. We finally had sex the other night, and I noticed he is not circumcised. I...
Also, sometimes I want to ask him why he's not circumcised. Should I just keep it to myself?
Most Helpful Girl
I don't see anything wrong with asking. It's not like he doesn't know he's uncircumcised, and it's not like he doesn't know that's a little out of the ordinary.
I've been with a couple uncircumcised guys. It was okay, but I never totally got used to it. I didn't like giving them head because of the nasty taste and I never really liked the look either.
What Guys Said 6
why are you turned off by it?
because of looks?
Here is something I bet girls didn't know when you are circumcised. The guy loses a lot of sensation because that outer casing is there for a reason, to protect the head from damage. Circumcised guys lose sensitivity and there have also been talks that circumcised guys could be at risk of catching STDs more than uncircumcised guys.
As long as it is kept clean, it's not a problem. If you try and get him to get it circumcised now, it could cause more harm than good. I know a guy who did that for his girlfriend and it caused him a life time of problems including gangrine.
When guys have sex, the skin becomes much losers and retracts easier over the head of the penis so you still get to see the head gland.
1 - Get used to it. After all, that's the way it's supposed to be. It's normal. 2 - What is there to know? it's a penis. It's not rocket science. 3 - Why would you ask someone why he's not circumcised? He was born that way. Most men aren't.
By all means , do ask , or inquire about it , if you must, but you should probably be aware of a few things first.
Think about it in terms of your own body first , then speak. And that having natural body parts , is well , uhm , normal and the majority of the people on the planet do. Any that promote sexual mutilation are in the minority as are those that they speak about. And sexual mutilation , whether called "circumcision", or whatever euphemism, is a violation of human rights to body integrity and in no way is it healthier or more beneficial to be sexually mutilated.
And how would you feel if your body had been sexually mutilated without your choice?
It's only been since , what, 1997 that females have had a law protecting their genitals from mutilation.
What if he said about you, "She isn't circumcised and it really bothers me." What if your clitoris and labia and hood turned him off? You'd drill him for being "sexist" and "misogynistic" and shaming a woman's natural body. You're doing the same thing to him. Natural men deserve respect, not disrespect about their dicks. It's attitudes like yours that keep people mutilating our genitals. Get over yourself.
What Girls Said 8
i'm the same way as you... I've never been with a guy that isn't circumcised though.. so I'm not sure what I would do...
if you really like him, then I think you should probably have sex with him a few more times... and try to ignore it, possibly your problem will fade.
and I'd hold off on asking him why he isn't circumcised for a little while... by asking, he will probably be able to tell you are slightly disgusted by it, and he'll feel awkward/ashamed... and you don't want that.
It shouldn't bother you as long as he cleans it he is fine and so are you. The skin was there for a reason and not being circumcised makes sex much better for them cause they are more sensitive...That's what my ex said. It doesn't bother me at all. In my family the men aren't cause we are mexican and that's just the way it was. Don't ask him why he isn't that might hurt his feeling or make him insecure. How would you like it if you VJJ wasn't the shape he liked it and he asked you WHY ARE YOU LIKE THAT?
As a British girl, I have never been with a guy that has been circumcised, I think because it's perfectly normal for guys to not be circumcised over here. I don't actually think it makes a difference whatsoever. As long as he makes sure he washes properly, then there is nothing really to worry about.
Furthermore, he has nothing to feel awkward or ashamed about. He was born with it! It's like getting Tiffany earrings in a Tiffany box. Just don't rag the box off to get to the jewelery inside.
You know, it's almost like-in a roundabout ridiculous way- a guy expecting you to have your labia cut off.
I think the only way to get over it is to just get down there and explore it out before you make a decision about it. Try and be open minded.
my ex is uncut but my boyfriend now is. difference? you'll know when you blow them, LOL. no matter how my ex wash his weapon, it still tastes of @#$%^ but my bf's dick is just nice. getting over it? just ask him to wash properly before oral action, unless he's gonna give the knife a careful thought!
I don't get this-is every guy in the US normally circumcised or something?
One of my ex's was uncircumcised and it bothered me also I wouldn't blow or f*** him cause just think its gross because it taste and smells really bad its just really unsanitary
At first I was a little freaked about the idea too, but then I thought about it: This is the way God made all men. This is how a man's body really is! It's normal. Really. And in most countries, it is the way men still are. And no, I wouldn't ask him about it. Why make him feel self-conscious and insecure? (Would you want him inquiring about the perceived weirdness of YOUR parts?
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