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My boyfriend's best friend is taking my panties?

My boyfriend's best friend has been taking my panties. He often stops over when he knows my boyfriend is here. He's a really nice guy and there's been times where he's told me I'm really hot, plus he's quick to complement me if I'm dressed cute. About 2 months ago I started missing one of my panties every now and then that I had taken off and put on the floor with my clothes of the day either in the bath right after I take my shower or in my room. Sometimes my boyfriend and I will be in the basement watching our huge TV when I have my robe on, and usually he'll leave pretty soon after that. After it happened several times I started wondering if it was just me forgetting what I had done with them. Last Monday at night when he stopped over I took a shower while the boys were in the basement playing pool (like I've done before) and then just put some sweats on and then went to my room to finish dressing or put my robe on. Then going back to get my clothes I saw the door was closed because he was in there. Shortly after he came out I went in there and noticed that my panties were missing from inside my shorts so I knew it was him that had been taking them. He left shortly thereafter. Usually I just grab my clothes and take them to my room and put them with my other clothes in a pile until I do laundry. I've seen him since then and he's his same friendly self except being a little nicer to me. I really don't know how to handle this. If I say ANYTHING to my boyfriend or him it'll hurt my bf's relationship with him and I'm not going to let that happen because it's a long time relationship and they're both on the football team. I do not want to make a scene nor my parents to start asking questions nor his parents nor for he and I to be mad at each other. I think the best way is to let it go and that eventually he'll get the idea that I might be suspecting him and then just stop. No one is getting hurt and in some ways I feel flattered that he finds me this hot, but I still wish it'd stop pretty soon. I think he's sniffing them. Any ideas girls how you'd deal with this. Anyone ever have this happen to them? What do you think guys?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Now that you're on to him, I think you only need to be more aware where you put them so that he doesn't have such easy access. That should drastically cut that down. Since no one got hurt I wouldn't worry about it all that much. He no doubt finds you very attractive and has probably been taking those home to sniff while he jacks off. I'm sure some guys would really get off on that. As long as he continues to be a good friend of your bf's, and it's fun hanging out with him when you're all together, I'd let it be for the reasons you said. If you should start noticing him act differently towards you, then it's probably time for you to cool your attitude towards him when he's at your house so that he starts getting the feeling that when you're boyfriend is there you rather it just be the two of you. I wouldn't give it any more thought than this and there no reason you can't still be nice to him. Once he notices your undies aren't as available as before, he should be smart enough to catch on.

    • Thank you so much! I like this suggestion best because there'll be no confrontation and that's what I want to avoid. True, no harm has been done so why blow it out of proportion. I'm sure this will eventually stop it and we'll all still be good friends. Thanks again. I would have done this before but it's been only recently that I realized that someone must be taking them. .

    • You're welcome. I knew you didn't want to ruin your friendships. Actually, this is such a small issue so I'm sure everything will turn out great. Good luck.

    • I know. That's why I gave you best answer because I think it will work out great too. :-] He was over tonight again and the whole thing just made me laugh.

  • first of all I disagree with anyone who says to confront him or tell somebody else about it. speaking as someone who used to do the very same things, well still do actually. I think this is how you should do it , write a small note addressed to him shower in the note telling you know he's been taking your panties you can let him know it's okay. but that he should stop or start returning them. offer to talk to him about it if you like and maybe even offered to take him to victoria secret buy panties for him. in the end he will be relieved and it will open up a whole new friendship for you and him. besides how many girls get that go panty shopping with their boyfriends best friend

Most Helpful Girls

  • Okay, this situation is a bit weird. Personally I would just hide my panties whenever he came over. Also, just keep a closer eye on him when he's over. Oh, maybe when you, him and your boyfriend are hanging out, say something like, 'Oh my God guys, you want to know something funny? My underwear has been like disappearing, I think someone is taking them or something. Who would do such a thing? It's kind of creepy.' Maybe then he'll get the clue that you're not oblivious to what is going on and he'll stop.

  • 1. Lock the doors or whatever you can do to prevent it. Maybe hide them in your room.

    2. If it happens again, don't confront him but say, "Has anyone seen my panties?!" and make a big deal about it. If he sees you're upset, he may stop. If it keeps happening, keep escalated how frustrated you are/appear to be.

    If it keeps happening, confront him alone and tell him how you feel.

  • my thoughts are take all of your cloths into the bathroom when you enter the bathroom to shower or take all your cloths off in your room then put on your bath robe then shower then put on your robe after ur shower then change in your room. but I feel option 1 is beeter but also you could just not shower when he's at ur place

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  • I've always been afraid to take them before, because I've been afraid about being caught. Hold them quickly against my face, and that's all the risk I can take... perhaps I should be more bold and take them...

    • Yes you should! lol! Or at least enjoy them longer whenever you can.

  • Just go strait up to him when ur boyfriend isn't around and tell him to stop taking your panties. He'll be embarrassed and nothing more need be said.

  • i would talk to him about it...i would say after the last time he has an idea that you know. but if you talk to him quietly, it might solve the missing panties...u also might get the missing ones back...if you want them back...and the other idea is to be more careful with where you leave your clothes...

  • some guys have pantie fetishes, even if they know she has a bf, they'll do w/e it takes to get it from someone they know they can get it from, all you gotta do is either lock your door, or clean up after yourself and make sure he can't get to your dresser drawer

    if the problem continues, consult an adult, or your boyfriend about it

  • I had a roommate and I would take "borrow" her panties and when I finish I would bring them back. I'm not sure if she noticed I always did it when she was gone out and put them back before she came home when I was done. if she said anything to me I would have been so embarrassed but I would stop and say I'm sorry please don't tell anyone. as long as you tell him you won't tell as long as he promises to stop I'm sure it would be ok.

    hope this helps.

  • what a weirdo

  • Who cares I steal panties cause my girlfriend doesn't show me love much anymore and jerkin a hot creamy load in someone else's gstrings or thongs is just so hot and taboo

  • He’s sniffing them it’s not really a big deal and it’s a huge compliment really. So as long as he’s not a creepy guy just keep a pair of your old ones dirty for him so he’s not snagging your good ones or take him aside and tell him to pony up some dough. And while we’re on the subject. You wanna sell me a pair of those dirty panties if he’s digging in you’ve got to smell exceptional and quite frankly, I want a sniff too. Wanna be cool and share make fifty bucks for just being you?

  • Well this sounds perverted...I would tell him in private that he had better not touch any of your panties,if it happens again cause a scene and tell your bf. that should help...he should be red in the face,then ya have him and everything should stop!

    • Thanks, but I won't make a scene because it'll be something never forgotten. It's not worth it because we get along so good together.

  • I’m not a panty guy, but yeah. He probably smells them... I don't know what they do. Never had that feeling. But I’d assume I’d check them out to just see if they are hot. I don't know

  • He is using them, sniff, jerk off or wear them. Stealing is wrong! This is very common, I have seen many things online. Since I wear panties myself ( which I buy ) I have researched the hows and whys of guys that like panties. I don't know how you would handle this. Panty thieves are jerks, girls don't steal them guys do. Sad that women have to guard their underwear, but men want them for 3 reasons.

  • Is he still taking them? What is his contact info, I'd love to join him with the panties and share em. I'll make sure he returns them

  • Hot he likes it

  • I love sniffing worn panties - rubbing them on my cock - I even once came in them and put them back, well hidden in the other dirty washing! I've not taken them because I wouldn't want a girl to run out of panties (well, once or twice!)

  • I have just had to same problem and I have no idea what to do? But this time he was wearing them... Pls help

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