What makes you want to have sex with someone?

[flint]

a lot of times a guy will have sex with someone cause they are hot (real shallow thinking) but why do people like to have sex with attractive people... what makes you decided you want to do that specific act? is it totally emotional, or something you can't control or intellectual... what makes you be with someone and pushes you to the decision I want to be sexual with them. if you are just hooking up with someone.. or people with out commitment.. how do you choose who you have sex with... usually boyfriend and girlfriend will.. as part of a relationship.. but if you didn't have one... what makes you want one person or another..

[parineeta]

I was 42 with no male experience whatever, and needed sex desperately. He was 20 years younger, lived in my building, a virgin too, and mocked at by other girls as being too effeminate (which he was - physically as well as in his mannerisms). I felt a sudden unexpected urge to break my virgin spell with him, and I befriended him at my housing complex's New Years' eve party in 2013. Our friendship eventually led to sex after about a month. Effeminate? Rubbish. He proved himself a real man. So it was purely to satisfy my own physical need of the moment that I gave my virginity to him. There was no emotion in our relationship. We were more like f-buddies enjoying each other immensely.

A few months later I met my current man, 10 years older than I. With him it was very different. There was an instant connection. A fantastic meeting of minds. He was well read, witty, cheerful, and I felt very, very comfortable with him. I looked forward to our weekly meetings (he lived about 50 km away), and eventually a meeting of minds seamlessly led to a great meeting of bodies in his hotel room. it was lie what happened had to happen. We've been together now for more than a year. I think I love him and he loves me. In retrospect I wish he were my first man; but I don't regret my times with my ex, whom I still meet as we live in the same building but not sexually.

[sassygal4]

A lot of times women will have sex with men because they are hot too. It goes both ways. Not shallow, just the way we are wired. Also, not everyone considers the same people hot. We all have our likes and dislikes and what we're attracted to in the opposite sex. Isn't the point of sex to do it with someone you're attracted to? If we weren't attracted to the people we sleep with, we wouldn't enjoy it. We, unlike other animals, have sex for enjoyment and not just to reproduce. My decision to have sex with anyone has different levels. Firstly, I have to feel comfortable with the guy. That's always true. If I'm not in a relationship or committed, I have to be attracted to the person in some way. Sometimes, it's just a very strong sexual attraction and other times, it's a combination of personality, sexual, and other types of attraction. If in a relationship, the decision is based more on emotions.

[Anonymous]

A guy who is charming.. funny, smart, friendly, confident... will start to look pretty sexy even if I wasn't very attracted to him at first.

It's common sense but it also makes it more likely sex will happen if the guy is showing an interest in me and I know he wants to sleep with me. Like if he makes unexpected sexy comments, not gross or offensive ones, just light and flirty and it puts the idea in my mind like "Hmmmm?" haha.. You'd be surprised how many guys DON'T make it known they want me so the thought never even crosses my mind!

[Dela1111]

Its just basic instincts, it also happens in many different species where one will have to attract the other. If the attraction isn't there the person won't want to do anything with them. Its not being shallow because you want to have sex with a hot girl.

[324190214]

wen a guys see a hot girl.

they automatically get hard and want to have sex with that girl.

you are gonna feel that until you don't get to have sex with her.

[Rosa7]

For me it's more intellectual... if I find them unique and intelligent I want to share intimacy together.

[wale1]

looks, body, how they cat, and tha size of thier booty and t*ts

[Tiger6960]

What makes me have sex with a girl is how much I connect to her emotionally and how much affection she shows to me. These two factors at least for me are more important than hotness

[Anonymous]

I'll be perfectly honest... I don't even have to like the guy to want him... in my bed. Now. Lol. But I would never actually go ahead just because of a strong attraction.

I'm of the opinion that it's purely evolutionary that we like to have sex with attractive people. Rugged good looks in a guy typically means more testosterone which attracts a female. Curves on a gal means she'll be fit for child bearing.

I decide to have sex only when I'm in a relationship and have gone out with my guy a couple of times and have decided that it's beneficial for me to have sex. So, for me it's a combo of intellect and emotion. I have to be secure that my guy will pay enough attention to me as a person and as a woman and that our relationship is something that will last longer than a month or two.

What makes me want one person over another? Charisma. Plain and simple. I like the guy with the looks and the charisma. But remember, want isn't the same as actually going ahead and getting it on, lol.

[Anonymous]

For me it's emotional; I want to make love to them when I'm IN LOVE with them. Within a relationship, I feel intensely attracted when they are being really sweet and tender with me. The more we touch in non-sexual ways, the more I want to touch in sexual ways.