Why did he ask if I was a virgin?

[Anonymous]

So I recently started chatting to this guy I met online (eharmony). We chatted online for quite few hours over 2-3 evenings and he seems like a nice guy. He is the same age as me. One of the first questions he asked me was have I had many boyfriends. I've never had a boyfriend so I told him this. Then he asked - so you are a virgin to which I said yes (the truth). He was ok with it and just said there aren't many about and nice to know that some people respect themselves. Later in the first conversation about 2 hours later he asks me have I done anything sexually with a guy before and I said no, again the truth. So it had obviously been on his mind. At the time I thought these questions were kind of personal but answered them anyway. So I am asking is this a bad sign that he is asking me these things before he has even got to know me? Does it mean he's insecure or perhaps he doesn't want anyone who has had a lot of partners. I regret answering these questions and think I should have avoided answering. It has put me off meeting him because I don't know what he's after. He's not a virgin by the way. I do believe he is looking for a serious relationship not just one night or anything but feel this virtual stranger knows more about me than I'd like. Guys: does it seem reasonable that he has asked me these questions at this stage? Why would he ask so early on?

[Buzzed]

After two or three nights of chatting it definitely seems a little forward. I do like to know personal things like this about a girl before I would date her as it lets me know more about her and what kind of person she is. I think after such a short time of talking it is a little strange but these questions are worth knowing in my opinion, he should of waiting longer to ask though.

Talk to him some more, try to forget about the questions and see what kind of person he is before you go ahead and meet him :)

[Asker]

I spoke to him some more and it turns out I was right, he is a pervert. He was constantly asking for phone sex. I think he thought he could manipulate me because he knew I was quiet and that I was desperate. The conversation ended when he sent me a photo of his penis and expected me to send an intimate photo back to him. I refused and there has been no reply since, which says it all really.

[Asker]

I mean he thought I was desperate, not that I am!

[thetundrawolf]

Very bad sign. He wants to take your virginity. What are your instincts telling you? They are true. Don't let your heart block them out. He's pretty much after one thing.

No guy who wants a serious, loving, life long relationship (And has an ounce of wisdom in his head) starts off by asking sexual questions.

Listen to your instincts, they have been telling you this whole time all about this guy.

[Anonymous]

It's hard to tell when it comes to online chatting because you can't see the expressions on their face or the tone of voice. Some guys find virgins a turn off because they are not seductive or because of the stage 5 clinger. Some men do like virgins because they feel virgins h t have no one to compare sex to or they are insecure or they think that by getting a virgin they are somehow living through their partner. It's too early to tell. You really would have to pick up on his intentions

[Anonymous]

Online relationship is harmful in most cases. People can hide many things and tell a lie about him / her. Most guy are happy to toss her girls cherry - breaking her Hyman. Talking about such things is showing his poor or ill mentality. You should keep relations with whom you know for preety good time with his family background. There is always a danger of getting hurt in web-relationship.

[Anonymous]

Very bad sign. You should stop talking to him.