I feel like my boyfriend doesn't want me to touch his crotch area and is it gross if I am wet?

[Anonymous]

My first boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 months and we started touching each other, he was over my underwear and I was touching over his jeans. My boyfriend doesn't want me to put my hands in the front of his pants as he thinks I might actually touch his private parts. But he did touch me over my underwear as I was in a skirt so I want to do it to him too. He said that he was trying to hold in his feelings so does he not want me to do that because it might make it worse? Also I asked him if he felt that I was wet as I was wearing panty liners. He said that he didn't but if he did feel it was wet he would stop touching me as it is gross. Now I feel like I should wear liners. But do other guys like the feel if it is wet? A guy on girlsaskguys suggested I don't use liners next time but I don't want my boyfriend to think that I'm gross.

[Lovergirl1561]

Most guys i've been with don't think it's gross when the girl (me) is wet in fact from what I can tell it makes them much more horny, is he a virgin? maybe he had something bad happen to him when he was younger and doesn't want you touching there because of that? but i'm not sure why he'd find you being wet as gross, so I don't know maybe talk to him about it, but it could be he needs more time

[Asker]

He is a virgin and he was surprised when I touched his front of the pants. He said he's self conscious of getting an erection so he tries to be careful. I think I'll ask him about it. But it made me self conscious about it.

[Katy16]

Well he might not wanna fool around any, you should talk to him about that

Also did HE actually say you being wet is gross? Because most guys love that and it's a totally natural reaction to being aroused. How old are you guys?

[Asker]

I am not sure. When I asked him embarasing questions he is hesitant to reply. But he asked if he could take my bra off or grope me next time... I am not sure if he is trying to be cautious and make sure I'm okay. Well... he sort of did. I asked him on the phone if he felt that I was wet when he touched over my underwear between my legs. I wanted to know as I was wearing liners and he said no, but it would be normal if I was wet. Then I asked what he would do if it was and he said he would stop touching me. I asked why and then he said, 'because it's... ahhhh' and paused and I asked if it's gross and he said yes. I'm 19 and he's turning 23 this month.

[Katy16]

Hmm that's odd for his age that he would think it was gross. Was he really sheltered as a kid? I can understand him being hesitant to fool around if he's afraid of going to far or something but I can't believe he would say that.

[Asker]

I am not sure if he thinks it's gross of me or gross that he would be touching it. I'm not sure if he was sheltered. He knows of sex and stuff from pdhpe but he didn't know that girls get periods every month. He said he doesn't want to go too far but it did embarass me and make me feel down when I heard that from him. Most guys I asked on this site said they like it.

[Katy16]

Don't take it personally if he doesn't want to, I understand that because me and my bf are religious and if I were to try and touch him like that he'd stop me in a second, not because he isn't into it, but because we aren't supposed to do that till marriage. We don't even kiss. And it sounds like it might be partially from inexperience that he feels that way, maybe try and educate him on the female anatomy and sexual response?

[Asker]

I see. You guys don't kiss or touch each other. I think that you guys have good willpower. Sometimes I don't know if what we are doing is right. When I had my first kiss 4 months ago it made me feel a bit scared and I was shaking when we kissed for the next two times as well. But each time we do something I feel like we are closer and he says he likes me more so that would be a good thing? I don't feel regret now but I think my parents won't be happy. My dad and godmother told me that we should just be friends. I think I'll try talk to him about it.

[Katy16]

Aww thanks :) And we hug and cuddle and hold hands but that's the limit. And yeah I can understand that. Good luck :)

[Asker]

aww that's nice. Hugging, cuddling and holding hands feel nice. Thank you :) Good luck to you too :)

[Katy16]

Yeah lol and You're welcome :) Thanks :)

[truthbeknown]

Sounds like he is just really inexperienced and maybe not informed about all the possible pleasures. Also sounds like things are developing rather slowly. Nothing wrong with that, that is just your pace. Just be patient with him. His boundaries will expand each time you are together and he gets more comfortable with you and gets some more practice and experience.

[Asker]

I see. I don't want to go fast either though. We kissed on our 6th date, about 5 months of knowing each other. Is that slow? I felt that it was fast though. I had only met him once when he asked me out.

[truthbeknown]

It is kind of slow, but not wrong. There is no right or wrong way here, as long as nobody is getting hurt. What ever you find comfortable is the right pace.

[Asker]

Thank you for your answer. I like it how it is going :)

[TadCurious]

Your boyfriend is really, really naive and inexperienced. And kind of squeamish. Most guys would think it was hot if their girlfriend got wet. And needless to say most guys would love for their girlfriend to touch them where you tried to touch him. So I don't get where he's coming from. But one thing is for sure, it's not gross that you get wet.

[Asker]

Haha I think you're right. I'm the first girl he has kissed and second girlfriend. Thank you for your answer.

[KingSkinny]

Either your suggested age 18-24 is a lie or your boyfriend is funking weird, no guy doesn't like being touched, and it's a massive turn on when I girl gets wet because I know I'm turning her on

[Asker]

I'm 19 and he's 4 years older than me. I am not sure if he is hiding his feelings as he was hesitant before to tell me that he wanted to do stuff to me and was trying to hide his feeling. So I was wondering if he wants to hide what he is feeling again or if he actually doesn't want me to do it. Thank you for your answer. I kinda want him to touch me but I was worried he wouldn't like the wet feeling.

[KingSkinny]

Well then for a 23 year old he is very inexperienced, maybe he has confidence issues and doesn't think he'll be good enough, just take your time with him, I don't see why he would complain, and as far as you getting wet, that's a very good thing

[Asker]

Oh maybe you're right. He doesn't like standing out or showing off. Would you suggest not wearing liners next time? If I don't that means I will need to bring another pair of undies to change. Does that seem weird?

[Adenn]

Personally I love it when I get to feel a woman and she is wet. I love feeling how turned on she is.

Not sure why he would be against you feeling him, unless he is inexperienced, or has something to hide (like an STD). Being touched there is nice, being touched there without any clothing in between is WAY better.

[Asker]

I kinda want to ask him to do it but am embarrassed. I asked him again about his comment and now he is saying that he doesn't remember saying all that. I don't know but sometimes I feel like he takes back what he says or changes his mind often, or he is forgetting. But when I asked him what he thinks then he answered the question in a different way and we strayed off topic.

[godfatherfan]

Why would he not want you to touch him? most guys would love it if you pulled out their cock.
and guys love reaching down and feeling a really wet pussy. tells us you must find us attractive, at least attractive enough...

[Asker]

I am not sure, but thought it made him uncomfortable or I was overstepping his boundaries? I think he doesn't want me to regret things and he said that he wants me to be innocent.