Oh boy, this is going to start a riot. Very touchy subject here. Women call us names and ridicule us just because in some cases men do suck gutter slime and other times they just want to. Women are very sensitive while men tend to be insensitive. Add the two together in a culture with freedom of speech and BOOM! Confrontation! A woman doesn't even have to put out and feel bad about men because of the stigma of "All We Want Is Sex". A woman does not want to be just a piece of meat, they want to be a special part of a man's life.
But this lack of respect does go both ways however. Women do treat men men just as poorly as we supposedly treat them. Women use men for $$$, status, sometimes entrapment and so on but you don't hear about this as loudly because men are not allowed to say anything about it. So in essence, BOTH sides suck.
Thankfully, there are good people out there both men and women who should make lots of noise.
However, once you said that. "all we want is a little extra". Was not good. I understand what it is you are trying to say, but it just came out bad. Believe me, once you say something bad to a woman be it intentional or otherwise. WATCH OUT!