A while back, I broke my boyfriends banjo string, now he has trouble lasting when we have sex and it hurts him. Please help D:?

[VicciVsTheWorld]

So at least two months ago, I was about to have sex with my boyfriend, but when he tried to put it in he felt a tearing sensation and there was blood everywhere. He went to the doctors about it but they said to wait a few weeks after that for it to heal. After two weeks he tried again, but he tore it again. It has healed since then but now he's been left with quite a few problems and I can't help but think that it's all my fault :-( The first problem he has is that he doesn't last very long anymore when we have sex, however I stopped taking this contraception pill as it was leaving me with absolute zero sexual drive which meant I was dry, even if my mind was screaming yes. This meant that we had to start using condoms, and putting them on hurts him. With those on he only lasts a maximum of 20 seconds with slow penetration. Another problem is that after he has ejaculated, he pretty much goes straight back up which he says isn't normal for him. The other problem is that when he ejaculates he says he doesn't feel much pleasure, and doesn't really realise when he's finished, but sometimes he feels a mixture of pain and pleasure. Does anyone know what's going on? :-( and can anyone tell me if he can be helped?

[mace101]

From what i have read about this on other sites depending on how bad the tear and where the tear is it can cause quite a few problems. I have torn mine fortunately form me it was a clean snap and healed well. I would suggest he goes to the doctors and thinks about getting circumcized

[kheserthorpe]

I don't think any of this is related to tearing his frenulum. I tore mine, twice, in the first year I had sex. No ill effects.

[Anonymous]

U sound bad in bed lol

[jacquesvol]

Really 'helpful' comment, of the kind that's best posted anonymously.

[jacquesvol]

You didn't break it, HE did it.

[Mesonfielde]

What's a banjo string?

[jacquesvol]

@Mesonfielde this: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frenulum_of_prepuce_of_penis

[Mesonfielde]

How the hell do you rip that thing?

[jacquesvol]

@Mesonfielde too tight foreskin, not circumcized.

[jacquesvol]

Or rather, his parents didn't verify his penis when he was a baby, left it untreated. Moms don't like to think about these thingies.

[jacquesvol]

@VicciVsTheWorld Read the wikipedia link I posted for Mesonfielde
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frenulum_of_prepuce_of_penis

Thus it's not YOUR fault, it's his parents who failed to spot it.

[Cómoestás]

Maybe he is too big?

[jacquesvol]

He should have been circumcized