My boyfriend prefers big breasts, and mine are small, help?

So my boyfriend has a preference for big breasts. I have small ones. He says he likes them, but prefers big. I know this means he loves me for me, but it certainly sucks that he looks at big breasts. If he looked at small ones, I'd feel validated in his eyes, attractive so to speak. Just imagine having a small penis and your girlfriend looking at men with big penises, getting off to that, or at the beach looking at guys with bulging... you know.Everything in the relationship is perfect, I think he looks great and is very handsome. However he attracts many girls. He's faithful. But I attract no attention from other males and this makes me feel ugly for him, and compared to him and the other girls. Of course he appreciates the admiration he receives. And these girls have big breasts and flaunt them all the time. I feel so much envy that he receives attention (when I'm right there these b*tches go and flirt with him!), but I don't, and also envy that these women have bigger breasts. Also, all guys check out big breasts, sometimes uglier girls than me, and they don't look at me, they only look at the ones wearing cleavage or tight tops, who have big breasts, even if they're ugly, but they all look or flirt with them. It was the same in high school, and when I've been single.Plus, men's magazines, porn and generally media geared towards men features big breasts as sexier. I haven't met one guy who prefers small breasts.I hate my small chest.

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Having something that he doesn't prefer sucks. It makes me feel inadequate. I wish he preferred small breasts. I know you guys say it's no big deal, but women like feeling like the most attractive to a boyfriend, validated, and I don't.

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  • " Also, all guys check out big breasts, sometimes uglier girls than me"They are not checking out the girls then,they are just checking out the chests.Howd you like to be nothing but a passing big pair of t*ts on legs to a guy? I don't know about you but I find it really distasteful when I'm talking to a guy and he doesn't look at my face,but instead has a conversation with my boobs (and I'm a c cup,so not like I got big ones).How many women do you suppose there are out there who hate the fact guys chat them up for the fact they have big boobs? C'mon now.The point I'm trying to make is that the grass isn't always greener.When I was pregnant with my son I went up to an e cup,and I hated it,honestly they got in the way,i was scared to walk too fast incase I knocked myself out! I much preferred my neat tidy prepregnancy boobs.And another thing is mens magazines and all the rest of it-not real,its all airbrushed,you can never live up to it,even the girls they use don't because its so edited,so don't be thinking about that cr@p because its all fake.As for what your boyfriend "prefers" its not really a question of size,he prefers your boobs,because they are attached to you (you said youd feel validated if he looked at small ones-he does-YOURS).I know loads of guys who prefer smaller boobs-there are pros and cons to both big and small,i can totally understand how you would feel like you do and it would affect yourself esteem,but try to remember if your boyfriend preferred bigger boobs THAT much,he wouldn't be with you,he would be with one of the girls who chat him up or someone else,wouldnt he?The other thing id like to say is that if its your breast size which makes you feel validated to him then something isn't quite right,either between you or with your esteem,in which case he can tell you he loves your breasts till he's blue in the face but you still won't feel any different you know?I think he should be more sensitive to your feelings to,and not blatently check out other women like that-if I were you id talk to him and ask him to show your boobs more love.

    • Agreed, but why can't my prettier face be of less value than a pair of breasts? Most guys say the face is more important than the body, are they lying then? Because I never get any looks... unless I'm disgusting, which I don't think so, I just don't have big breasts.

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    • Yes, you'r e right, maybe it's not that obvious... thanks.

    • "Gah, I meant "why can't my prettier face be of more value"." Indeed, but Dr. Sigmund Freud would jump to conclusions, reading your error. ;-)Mustang99 wrote: "Don't pay them any mind cause your the one with the guy, not them."Indeed, you got the guy, leave them their b**bs as consolation.Cheer up, don't worry and be happy. XD

What Guys Said 7

  • There's nothing wrong with breast sizes: some prefer F-cups, some just look at them, just because they are more obvious.They're influenced by publicity and porn. Even more by publicity, I'd think.Many men prefer small breasts.I prefer the girl, whatever her cup size is.BTW, you can change a lot by wearing another type of bra. Unless they have silicone implants, "these b*tches" did not chose their breasts either.

    • But they sure choose to flaunt them.

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    • Of course: they can't show off with their brains, thus they use what they got..http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jyYZUhSeRYc

    • But it's still disrespectful to flirt with a taken man if the girlfriend is right there, they should at least wait until she's gone, don't you think?

  • I think you should be happy with what you have, and your boyfriend has to respect you for what you have as well. You can't please every area or preference that your boyfriend likes. It was pretty stupid of him to tell you he likes your breast but prefers bigger. How silly is that? Anyhow, he has to like you the way you are, period.

  • I am a boob guy and while I prefer a girl with a nice rack, I've been happy with girls who are A cups. When it comes down to it, it's just preference. I've dated girls who preferred the yoga body skinny white boy types but yet are dating me a more bulky Asian dude. I prefer brunettes but that doesn't mean I can't learn to love something else. "Everything in the relationship is perfect, I think he looks great and is very handsome. However he attracts many girls. He's faithful."He attracts a lot of girls but who did he choose? You! I know it's a life long insecurity and I can only imagine what that's like but I hope one day you can be comfortable and happy with your bust size.

    • So A cups aren't a 'nice' rack?Well anyway, it sucks that he gets attention and I don't but thanks anyway.

    • A rack implies that they're large.

  • It's naturally I suppose for men to like large breasts, ( I actually dont, huge breasts is actually a HUGE turnoff.)My best advice is just to say what your feeling to him, If he really cares about you, he should listenHope I helped and good luck =D

  • OH MY GOD! I AM AN IDIOT! I AM ACTUALLY A GIRL TALKING: LaLa17Inu: IS A GIRL...I ACCIDENTLY PUT MYSELF AS A MALE! HAHAHAHAHAHA! SORRY..I HAVE TO CHANGE THAT LATER...SO YEAH..I AM A GIRL! FEMALE!

  • Okay...first of all, with that kind of attitude and self esteem that you have..no wonder guys do not look at you...haven't you heard: "Confidence is sexy." And if your boyfriend is faithful...then what is the problem? And who cares if he likes bigger boobs...if he liked bigger ones so much then obviously he would not be with you and might not be faithful correct? Obviously he prefers your boobs because they are yours and he loves you (right?) and he likes bigger boobs...why can't he like both?...and I think the only reason guys don't flirt with you is because of your insecurity...if you would act confident and did not care about those other girls and would stand up fro yourself and tell those girls (if they are being inappropriate) to back off once in awhile...you'd be surprised how things will change. And that is not true...do you really believe everything the media feeds you? I bet if the media made small boobs all the rage and always showed pics. of small chested girls...it would be the other way around: big-breasted girls would be paying thousands of dollars to get reductions...the media is one of the best hypnotists in the world I think...and you are letting them hypnotize you. And how do you know all guys prefer big boobs? Have YOU asked or dated every single guy in the world?Have you done a survey with all the men in the world? NOOOO...so you cannot just make generalizations like that..I have heard of many guys who adore small breasts. So here's my advice for you: Stop being such a big baby, grow some backbone, get some confidence, show those big-breasted flaunter girls who is boss and make them know they cannot mess with you, stop being insecure and paranoid, stop complaining about your boyfriend's attention he gets (if you don't want girls flirting with your handsome boyfriend, then don't date handsome men..simple as that), furthermore, what is wrong with liking admiration? who doesn't like being complimented?, & f***ing get a life!..Maybe the reason those big-breasted girls get so much attention is because they are outgoing and funny and lively...why do you assume it is the boobs or is ONLY the boobs? (if you are boring, insecure, dull, and bitchy with big boobs..I am sure guys will get turned off by you very quickly, for example). Get confident, accept yourself, smile, and flaunt what you got (appropriately of course...don't be a slut) & you will be surprised how easily you'll get more attention and your boyfriend will love you even more for it...who wouldn't want a kick ass girlfriend who loves herself and can tell girls to back off when they are getting a bit to close to her boyfriend. Confidence is sexy...I say again...tell those girls to back off, love yourself, be confident...& the boys will flock to you like glue to paper (not too much though because you don't want your boyfriend getting jealous). ^_^ Hope this helped! You Go Girl! Flaunt confidence and people will notice...especially your boyfriend. YEAH!

  • That is true, but you have to learn to love your body for what it is. Love you, know matter what other people say or do. And you can't help it if other girls are attracted to your boyfriend, all you can do is worry about yourself. Don't pay them any mind cause your the one with the guy, not them. And if your boyfriend says he likes you, the inside and the outside, you should be happy and not worry about it. Your obviously a beautiful person, one that he likes, cause if he didn't he wouldn't be with you. Be confident in yourself and try not to pay those other girls any mind, especially since their probably single anyways, which mean there probably isn't much to them besides their chest. Love you for you and don't pay any mind to the other girls.

What Girls Said 4

  • i have the same problem

  • I know exactly how you feel..I am a size b but I'm also 5'0" so big boobs on me would look crazy. I've also had an issue with my boob size but all my exs have never cared. My current boyfriend says he doesn't care but I know he does. Every exgirlfriend of his is a size c or bigger, plus all of his videos and magazines were of big boobed women, so its obvious that he does care. Not to mention that 8 months ago he almost cheated on me with a girl that is DD and in a text wanted to know when her big t*ts would be in his face. I catch him looking all the time and it really sucks. He tries to make me feel better by telling me he loves my rack but I know he wishes they were bigger like all of his exs. Sometimes I feel like breaking it off with him because it has made me extremely insecure.

  • A lot of guys prefer ass or hips...

  • Don't worry about it. I'm sure you are fine. There is nothing wrong with having smaller breast! It isn't a deformity or anything, like some people would have us believe.

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