Please help me figure out the mystery behind female ejaculation (cumming)?

[Anonymous]

Ok so my boyfriend says I don't cum during sex, I just get super wet... To him that means that he is not getting me off. I took his 'concern' and decided to ask some of my girl friends, hey do you guys cum? My friends said no we do not cum as in no liquid comes out after sex, they just get wet. They all defined a female orgasm by muscle contractions and feeling of relaxation and being 'done'. They said I watch too much p*rn, and MOST girls no excessive liquid comes out of their vagina. Now someone explain to me what the hell is female cumming? Does the sheets have to get wet like someone spilled a glass of water? Is that considered cumming? I'm so confused. Ladies do you cum? Gentleman, have you seen a girl cum? HELP!

[VanillaSalt]

advice form a guy with multiple sexual partners and knows what he's doing under the sheets... women are different... some leave a fucking lake like my last ex... every time ide just feel this warm liquid... anywho... my first on the other hand was never much of a squirter... it made it difficult for me to tell when i got her off...

first off orgasm is a series of things happening at once... all the muscles in the body expand and contract at once... this forces liquids out of their general area... ide have to look em up cause im having a black hole moment... god what does that say about how long its been for me LMAO... anywho the main things the expanding and contracting this is an orgasm so if this happens ure orgasming... if he can't tell cause ure not leaving a pool try kegel exercises... it tightens the muscles in the penis and vagina... it wouldn't help much for him but it would make ure orgasms squeeze him tighter... he will feel it more...

if u dont know try peeing... then cut the flow... notice the muscles u use to cut the flow... do that about 50 times in a set and oh 20 sets a day... u can do it at work school home dont matter... this also makes orgasms much stronger... he can do the same but it won't help him notice if ure cummin but it will make his orgasm feel stronger...

[Asker]

so you've been with girls who never left a lake behind? My bf keeps saying cum for or why can't i make you cum... and I just stare at him blankly and say I don't know. I mean I do feel the muscle contractions down there but its not CRAZY intense and i get super wet but no lake effect lol

[VanillaSalt]

some do some dont... the lake effects not always great if she's on top that feeling of it running down kinda bothers me LOL... besides that i have to clean up after sex cause that stuff feels weird so not cummin is kinda good thing like i said try the kegel exercises it will help u a lot and prob won't take more than a week to see results honestly I've only had 2 partners cause i only have sex inside of a relationship... but even if i dont always feel it i know I've never failed to cause at least 3 orgasms to my 1 :P

[SomeGuy37]

Forget the p*rn nonsense you saw, or they saw, and just relax!! I have only been with a few, and I just love when they are wet enough to have a great time, together!! What else do you need? Some are wetter than others, but I don't want someone that can squirt a target!! It isn't like a contest. . .

[Asker]

Yes i feel the same way!!! But my bf is the one that unintentionally pressures me into cumming or makes me self conscious that I'm not. I get super wet and I enjoy the sex. He just thinks he can't get me off. He said every other girl he's been with has cum except me.

[SomeGuy37]

When I am with a woman, we talk and have a mutual understanding that EACH of us is responsible for our own orgasm. Sometimes I just like to cuddle with her, and get her excited, and have hers, if I make it happen, or sometimes she like her 'own' way, at a certain point. I'm not offended; she knows her body better than I ever could! Sometimes neither of us have an orgasm, and just have a nice, cuddly time, talking, or watching movies, eating dinner, or drinking really good wine. I NEVER, EVER, 'pressure' her to feel a certain thing, or think a certain way!! She is different than I am, and had different feelings and ideas about things! I don't want her to be what I THINK she should be, because who she is, and what she loves is SO MUCH MORE AMAZING than my own imagination or fantasies!! Be WHO YOU ARE, and don't let some guy try to pressure you to be something, or do things you aren't comfortable with, or don't like, or feel! If he REALLY CARES, he will like YOU, as you are!!

[MsFZB6]

It is possible, you just need to know how to achieve it ;) And the squirt is more like a small waterfall of fluids. I've seen many women achieving this (in real life.. not p*rn) so it's not a p*rn myth. The only myth is the target shooting and the quantity. Actually I think in most p*rn the girls just insert water in their vagina and squeeze it out, it's actually looks more like water than actual bodily fluid (different consistency)

But squirting doesn't necesarrily mean major orgasm. It doesn't say much about the level of intensity of the orgasm.

[vilexia]

You do not have to squirt to orgasm. I never squirt. When I cum I get very wet and very hot, I start breathing heavily and moaning, then my pussy gets a huge tingling sensation that gets more and more intense until "poof" I'm done. lol Just know that squirting isn't always associated with orgasms. I can orgasm just by my boyfriend sucking on my nipples while constricting my legs around my pussy. You should make sure he understands girls aren't like guys and they don't shoot stuff halfway across the room everytime like they do. lol

[Anonymous]

To me "Cumming" and having an orgasm are two different things, I get extremely wet during sex and have actually had guys not sleep with me again because I get so wet it turns them off so to me that is cumming but an orgasm is completely different. In my eyes anyway.

Generally cumming is when you have any fluid come out but if he's asking about "squirting" then that's when the sheets get wet and that really is only called "squirting"

[Nujabes123]

when the sheets get wet its known as squirting and like 50% of girls can and can't squirt. Another type of cumming for girls can be when there entire body spazzes out but nothing comes out. and there's a percentage of females that can't cum sadly :/

[Asker]

when you say "a percentage of females that can't cum sadly" what do you mean by cum? Are you referring to squirting or?

[Nujabes123]

that can't cum period. but its a very low percentage

[Asker]

Yes I understand but what is cumming to you?

[Nujabes123]

honestly i struggle with the same problem as you. Im still to this day trying to figure it out. Like sometimes it feels like i get close but it never happens and it freaked me out but i got use to it.

[broadsword]

There is such things as dry orgasms for women which is the wonderful feeling can be in the groin area alone or if your lucky N Al over body orgasm with the leg shaking extra.
Female ejaculation or squirting is another heightened state of arousal which can be accompanied with an orgasm but not Allways. It does come from the vagina it comes from the pee hole this is why women get concerned they are peeing , they are not it's female ejaculate or come. This does get mixed up with normal female vaginal juice which can be a lot or a mixture of both. Just be fore a woman shirts it is usually accompanied with the feeling of needing to pee. Many woman don't get beyond that point because they are conditioned not to pee. They should not worry as like men when you are very aroused you cannot pee.

[Crossroads-USMC]

I just found your post here, while trying to find help with my own issue concerning jerking off. I can explain all this out if you still need / want to know. Just message me if you do.

[Niceguyscumlast]

Female ejaculation or as it's been referred to on here as "squirting" is not the same as an orgasm the ejaculation is the end result of the orgasm.

All women I don't care what anyone says has the ability to "squirt" I have made woman do this who were told they were lousy in bed or frigid,. It gets down to the technique and understanding your body. First off the female ejaculate is not pee and the fluid is not coming from a woman's bladder.

Directly behind the G spot and just above the uretha is a wonderful muscle that resembles a sponge hece the name the "urethal sponge" this is where all the fluid is stored and is expelled at a high velocity through the uretha.

A lot of woman get to the threshold of "squirting" but then they feel an urgency to pee and so they shut down the threshold afraid they are going to pee the bed or on their man. You have to be able to push through that urge to stop the sensation literally you have to push like your going to pee and that is when you will stimulate the urethal sponge to release the fluid.

Many woman do cum after orgasms from inside their vagina either a milky white or clear fluid but it is from the vagina not the uretha that is the differnce between cumming and a female ejaculation.

There is a particular technique used to give a woman a squirting orgasm. That is separate from the usual five types of orgasms that a woman usually experiences.

1. Clitoral
2. Internal =G spot
3. Multiple without stopping
4. Sequential a minute in between
5. Blended where the clit and G spot are stimulated at the same time

I hope this helps. aka the pussy whisperer

[sexyasianboi26]

I think he means if you orgasm during sex. An orgasm for girls is like when your bf is licking you, and you suddenly feel a rush of energy, that is like a roller coaster ride.

[stevie123]

There is orgasm, frequently referred to as cumming, when the girl has contractions in her vag.
Most girls just get wet, without liquid spraying out of their vags.
There is squirting, a result of an intense orgasm, when fluid is shot out of the vag.
Most girls do not squirt.

If you are having contractions and waves of pleasure, you have orgasmed (cummed in the emotional sense)
If you squirt, you have cummed in the physical sense.

If you cummed either way, you got off

[chocolatedragon]

Wow lol.
Normal wetness= aroused
Super wet or extra leak of vaginal fluid accompanied by contractions = orgasm
Squirt= Vaginal discharge (not all women can do it) and it's also accompanied by orgasm.

Your bf clearly doesn't understand how females orgasm lol.

[nosweat2012]

I did hear once that every girl has the potential to squirt, which would be like the female equivalent of ejaculation, but that a lot of women do not know how to relax their muscles down there, which stops the, from squirting. Maybe try really forcing urself to relax ur muscles down there and see what happens

[Alteredstates]

My girlfriend during sex cums all over my cock. Hell she creams all over it like a milk shake. Hot ass fuck watching her cum, and even hotter watching her lick it off. Thick white cream drips down from her vagina, yea biggest turn ever... she a keeper and I love it!

[Anonymous]

Women do cum, it's white just like a guys cum, but it doesn't come out unless something penetrates the pussy and the cum sticks to it. So, unless he's fingering you... he won't know if you cum. It's most noticeable when you're having sex with a guy, the girl cums, and the cums sticks to the base of the guys dick. Most guys usually cum and have an orgasm around the same time. If not the same time. So, he might be thinking that you're not ejaculating because you're not having an orgasm. A girl can have an orgasm and not ejaculate and ejaculate without having an orgasm. Guys can as well, but for most guys it's pretty simultaneous. Also, when a guy ejaculates he's usually done. A girl can ejaculate and keep on fucking as if it didn't happen.