Could you forgive someone who has given you a std? Without realizing they had one?

Just as question states.. Keep in mind it's cureable.
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  • If they did not knew they had one and it is cureable, then I'd probably forgive them, especially if it's someone I care about/love, but if they knew about it and still gave it to me, I don't think I would, I mean you must be a sick person to do that, and even if it wasn't cureable but I truly loved the person I think I'd most probably forgive them, again if they didn't knew about it

  • I went with maybe, because honestly it depends on how they got it! Like if it was contracted while cheating then yeah, f*ck no. If they just never exhibited symptoms and found out by happenstance or at a check up or something. Then sure. All depends on the circumstance and how much I trusted in and believed my partner :)

    • What if it was a result of them being cheated and was found out later

    • Haha I'm getting hate private messages! Just to throw this out there she said it was curable! Or am I the only one who read that part? And just so I dont have to reply to everyone who sent me a message... for me personally my answer would be the same if it was incurable as well. If they didn't know, how is it something you can judge them for? Especially considering if you got it from them you are equally as guilty of being unsafe.

    • Like my partner cheated on me? Or in a previous relationship they cheated? Sorry I'm confused!

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  • I don't know. I think I would forgive them because it wasn't their fault for not knowing, but in another way I'd hold a grudge because it's their responsibility to make sure they're safe so you can be safe too!

Most Helpful Guys

  • If they actively told you to get checked as soon as they found out then that makes it easier to forgive. The treatment of STI's is relatively easy and doesn't make a big impact on much. Sure maybe treat the person a little differently but if they didn't intentionally infect you and actively warned you then it's best to move on as holding grudges doesn't help anyone.

    • Agreed

    • So question via text or phone call? Face to face?

    • To be honest different people would prefer different ways. I'd personally prefer a text, it would keep the conversation private where ever I am and means if busy I can find out without needing to call them back. I find though a text seems cold it allows the information to process and prevents instant reaction so you can really think about response. Face to face would be best if was telling your partner that an ex has given you something and only just learned of it, though of course don't tell them until you have been tested - never tell them unless it is confirmed as you'll cause unneeded panic if you are clear.

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  • STDs can happen to anyone. Don't be ashamed of it. No reason to be angry at them, since they didn't know.

    • Yea hopefully he will see it that way when I tell him.. My ex boyfriend apparently was cheating because I was checked back in December and was free... Any tips in telling my new one? I'm extremely scared! I feel like a horrible peace of a person!

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  • What's to forgive if the person didn't know it themselves that they had one? The vote is 'A' obviously :-) hopefully she wants to stick around so that we don't have to spread it around elsewhere lol

    • Your the best

    • As are you young lady :-) thank you for your kind words :-D

  • if they didn't knew than they most likely feel like shit anyway because i dont think you would want to give something bad to someone you love. i wouldn't be mad at that person, if he wouldn't have knew. we're in the same boat then

    • That is definitely true

  • Yes, as long as it's curable. But if it wasn't, I would be more mad at myself than that person but would probably project my anger onto that person.

    • That's understandable

  • If they didn't know they had one, then how could I be mad at them?

    • I get that I guess just principle of them giving you one.

    • Not sure I get what you mean. Wouldn't you rather be mad at the situation, not at the person?

    • Well I would hope so I'm just extremely scared my new boyfriend is going to kick rocks after I tell him. That my ex gave it to me. Clearly after cheating on me because I was checked in December and was clean. We actually dated 3 1/2 years ago.. He's told me his feelings for me never have changed and still loved me throughout that time gap and now.. Sigh I feel like such a horrible freaking person... I just want to curl up in a ball and cry all day...

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  • I wouldn't worry about STD cause i would make sure
    i wouldn't touch any girl who didn't have her most
    recent check up at the gynecologist i want see it on
    paper the date of her check up or tell her lets go to
    the gynecologist i do my homework before touching
    a girl

  • Nope. Wouldn't be able to.

  • I'd be pissed about the STD, no doubt.

    But can't be mad at them if they didn't know to begin with.

    • So would you stay with her? Or leave

    • Well. Since we would both have it, yeah I guess.

  • yes, after I get cured.. asap!

  • they had no clue they had it, they didn't give it to me to harm me, so id go through the experience together, that is if we were friend and on good terms. and id give a lot of blame to myself because i wasn't safe, but thats just me.

  • If they did not know of it yes.

    • Yea they had no idea until a check up they happened to get it from an that obviously cheated

    • Well no one plans on getting them so

    • This is true

  • Depends on how long you have been together and what STD it is. I know it sounds bad and I should say you should be pissed and never talk to them again but I don't know the full story

    • Well my ex boyfriend obviously gave it to me from cheating on me.. I can say that because I was tested in December But I don't know how to tell my new /old boyfriend we haven't been together in 3 1/2 years recently started seeing each other. . But he's told me that he's never stopped loving me and caring about me over 3 1/2 years.. I recently just found out the news of the sti within yesterday

    • Same guy or different guy? You should just tell him it's happened. Shit happens but you have to be honest about if so you are both sexually healthy it's honestly up to him if he wants to stay but if he is as in love with you as he says it won't be that big of an issue it will sink but the fact your being responsible and letting him know makes you awesome most people wouldn't say a damn thing tell him the full story I'm sure he will understand

    • No my current one we've only been having sex a few weeks.. My ex who I broke up with in July gave it to me... man I feel like a horrible person

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