Of course a harder erection is better then a soft to almost limp erection.
As far as the endowment goes, most girls when posed with the question prefer an average 5.5" - 7" penis that is thicker (wider) then longer.
A thicker penis will fill them better then a thin penis. It spreads their vaginal walls and adds pressure to the clit and also help men hit that good old G-spot.
There is a reason why most toys are not soft or overly flexible, they resemble hard penises for a reason.
Some seem to like average or less then average for anal sex. Oh and for oral. Not all of them like being choked or getting lock-jaw due to the girth alone.
I'd say alse. any HEALTHY male should be able to provide a sufficient stiffy for the purpose. Besides, hardness is also decided by factors like how long it is since you've come, and how arroused you are.
Hence why i would say that lenght and girth trumphs hardness, because hardness can be achieved by beign chaste for a time (usially a week is enough), or you could simply use something called a cockring. On the other hand, increasing length/girt isn't "quite" as easy. So as long as you're healthy, you should be able to pop a boner hard enough or it to not really matter.
I've never had a problem with hardness. Girth is very important though, I can tell you that for sure
If a man can't smash a stone with his dick, I don't want him. The harder the better
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That's not true, you see it in p*rn. A lot of guys is like having a hard time putting it in a vagina, and they can't really do a real penetration like a hard one.
That's cause they aren't fully erected, I guess they aren't really horny, it's just for the video
Some have used up their stamina, so they really can't get fully erect ever again. Some were born with low stamina others really high.
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