Is it wrong for me to ask guys to wear a condom?

Is it wrong for me to ask a guy to wear a condom? I was dating this guy and he made me feel guilty that I would ask that. I lost my health insurance so I could afford birth control anymore. I didn't want to get pregnant and he didn't want me to get pregnant but he still would get upset with me. He still tried to sleep with me but I would say no. I just wanted to know your thoughts...
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  • You are Absolutely Right 'Would ask that,' Sunshine_Grrl. Not only to Prevent Pregnancy which is Never a sure Thing without the 'Thing,' But Assurance that Any sexual transmitted diseases can be passed on. It's a back up Insurance for all parties and purposes involved.
    You don't know him from Adam, and of course as being wise with your words, this dude doesn't seem to be to be Getting It, which is Why I ask: Are you sure he is up your alley?
    Good luck, stand firm on the ground. xx

    • I just NOW read your update here with him... Good you did dump the dude so no more feud. xx

  • Please never feel it's wrong in any way to ask a guy to wear a condom. You're being smart and responsible for asking him to wear one because it helps protect the both of you. If a guy has a problem with wearing one and gets upset with you about it he's not worth it.

  • Of course it's not! It's the healthiest thing you can do :) Don't let anyone ever make you feel guilty for that.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Is it wrong for him to get you pregnant when you don't want to be. Is it wrong for him to give you an STD you didn't ask for. Tell him to suck it up, put the condom on, and get back to the lovin. If he's making you feel guilty about being safe you should make him feel guilty about your feeling about protection. No glove, No love.

  • no I don't think there should be an issue , I wouldn't be upset if a girl asked and I think I'd wear one anyways these days when considering what is out there if you didn't really know the person and had suspected they'd been with other people as a lot of younger singles have had sex with various people

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  • Oh no. Not at all.
    It is your body.
    God forbid you get pregnant, where is he then? Or an std.

  • You should DEMAND that he uses a condom. If he doesn't like that, find a more less selfish guy. This one is going to be trouble in the long term.

  • Nope, not wrong at all. It's quite responsible, actually.

  • Good for you! Don't be afraid to tell the guy..."no condom... no sex" You are the one who will get pregnant or an STD. Use a condom every time.

  • No because you don't want to catch aids and die or even worse get pregnant

  • You are correct in insisting for condom use every time.
    You don't want stds or pregnancy.
    I would be wary of guys that wanted no condom, you don't know who they have been with.

  • No... I have been asked by girls if i had a condom before. At times when i wasn't expecting to have a one night stand i wouldn't be carrying a condom. But the girl was kind enough to give me one she had.

  • Not at all, you shouldn't have to ask, it should be expected.

  • Not at all! Always ask if you aren't ready for children! If he won't wear one then he better be ready for some accidents. Wow I am actually really angry about this, that is really rude!

  • He's being a jerk, and no it's not wrong for you to insist that he use a condom.

  • He needs to be stocking on condoms if he plans on having sex. Honestly, wearing a condom does give a somewhat different sensation but it's not nearly enough to significantly diminish pleasure.

  • No, of course not. Not wanting to get pregnant or a sexually transmitted disease is responsible of you. He should understand that,

  • You can always ask/make a guy wear a condom. That is up to you, no matter what excuse a guy gives if you aren't on the pill and don't want to get pregnant, make him wrap it up

  • Its not wrong.. if you feel that u want it that way

  • No that's you being responsible.. You have to question a guy's intention that doesn't want you to be safe.

  • No it is being safe and smart. If he does not want to don't have sex. It is important to have safe sex.

  • If he has a problem with protection, that guy is bad news...

  • Not unless you've been you're on birth control and have been dating for a considerable length of time.

    • It was meant to say I couldn't afford birth control. My phone is screwy when it comes to writing on here. I only dated the guy for two weeks and the. His behavior got worse and worse. I broke up with him after 2 months

  • You know what babe, if a guy is pressuring you for not wearing a condom, or he makes you feel bad for asking then he is not the guy you should be with. A guy should not care if he wears one or not when it comes to sex. Does it feel better without it. HELL YEA!!! but that is no reason why he can not take your feelings into account and wear a condom. He is being selfish and not curteous to your wants and needs.

  • No, it's not wrong. That guy sounds like a jerk.

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