I am really scared that sex will hurt a lot for the first time. Advice?

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I'm really scared when having sex for the first time does it hurt a little or. A lot for girls I mean female gender im really scared I think I'll be a virgin for life 
Soooo. ... be truthful honest 
I mean like screaming pain

Azara · Accepted Answer

its tremendously painful for a lot of women if the guy doesn't know what he's doing or is on a power trop and doesn't care if she's in pain,

if he's gentle attentive goes verrry slow and is willing to stop i you need him to you'll be fine.

id say talk to him about it before hand. like before you marry. make sure he's willing to go slow. i think its best iof you ease into it cover a period of time. i dont think it should be done in one night

i think many women who say it didn't hurt or its fine if you use enough lubve and are aroused, are accustomed to having things insiue them,.

its rare if nothing has been in you what so ever thats lubving up and some foreplay is going to make it not painful.

if you've never been touched whatsoever, you've got the hymen to bereak PLUS the vaginal walls to stretch,. that doesn't happen immediately. it will be painful four a while not jtyst the fuirsttime.

thats why i think you should work up to i. get used to each others bodies and getting each other off non paindulty. ewvenrtuyaklly when you're comfortable movie to fingering. when you're comfortable and can fit three of his fingers and you're ready THEWN go for sex.

jumping into i all at once with nothing prior is going to give you a very bad view of sex. and hell feel bad bc he's hurting you. and you'll feel like u have too tortuee yourself in order to please him.

seriously if you're that worried - i was and i thought id never have sex and i was ok with that compared to what i thought the alyteriove was- then you want to go very slowly sio you're not traumatized. 'trust me. taking a few months to ease into it and then having a happy sex life is WAY better than jumping into it and have you hating it for the rest of your marriage.

if he loves you he shield be happy knowing he's being genrtoe and you guys are getting there together.

Kyndra · Accepted Answer

I'm a virgin and I'm almost 20. I know I'll feel nervous the first time so I was waiting for a guy who can make me feel safe and comfortable. And someone that I can be open with about my concerns and what I want. It's really important that you trust the other person if you're scared, so you know he will try to take it easy on you and make it pleasurable for you as well. So if you don't have a guy like that just wait :)

samjam7 · Accepted Answer

How old are you? I only ask because there really isn't any hurry I mean it doesn't hurt (at least not so much for me... more of a full kind of muscles stretching feeling... but every girl is different...)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If the link works, then thats pretty much the best explanation I have.

dartmaul15 · Accepted Answer

IF you're worried, here's a few general tip on how to ease it.
1. LOTS of lube. This'll ensure that you won't hurt from not being arroused enough at least.
2. Lots of foreplay. Firstly it serves the same purpose as 1. secondly it turns you on, which prepares your body for penetration. Thirdly it makes you relaxed, which again relaxes your vaginal muscles and makes penetration easier.
3. be completely relaxed. Stress or ancitousness causes you to tense up and contract the vaginal muscles. While this might stimulate the guy more, it can make it painfull for you. So relax, and just enjoy.
4. Go slowly. Do i need to explain this? Pain's best taken in shifts (figuratively speaking).
5. comunicate. tell him if/when it hurts and so on.

vet31bSoldier · Accepted Answer

I've been with a few virgins.. none screamed... they said it was a few brief moments of uncomfortableness, then it was replaced by pleasure.

johndugan1217 · Answer

Get him to use a penis health creme that contains Vitamin E... this will moisturize his penis skin and make it like silk leading to easier entry and better sex... I had a similar problem and it worked really well. You can get one online. Good luck.

Klaatu51 · Answer

yes it hurts as much as like 100 bees sting you at the same time. seriously if you don't try it you'll never know

Splintercell · Answer

It depends on the women. For some it's painful for others it isn't.

SkaterDude · Answer

you wouldn't even notice

SatanClaus · Answer

Your stiil under 18 dont do it, be proud to be a virgin, its hard to find girls that are. when the time is right you will be ready trust me, dont force your self if your scared and uncomfortable. You are gonna regret it fosho.

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