What you guys think about a girl being fingered by a guy?

[Anonymous]

I know this is an issue of personal ethics and many of you will probably say I need to decide this for myself but I'd like to know what you guys think about a girl being fingered by a guy. I grew up in a relatively strict southern baptist church and I'd say that such an act would be considered sexually immoral by the church's interpretation of the bible. But I can't really see much difference in her doing it to herself or me doing the same thing to myself. And let's be honest and mature MANY of us do. So yes this is a serious question and I'd just like some opinions on this topic.

[AJtogo]

Sex, and what ever you do during sex, is a very natural act. It is only the church and your own beliefs that turn some sexual acts into something that can be described as immoral or perverted.

Much of what is described by the church as sexually wrong or immoral is a man made decision based upon an interpretation of scripture. I say, let God decide. The church has no business in the bedrooms. If it is pleasurable to consenting couples then go for it.

You're right. There is no other answer to give you than it's your,and her, choice whether you want to engage in using your fingers. Personally, I think you would be denying both if you choose not too, but that's just my opinion.

As well, it appears to be just your belief that it is immoral. Who told you? I find that in strict religious groups that sex is so rarely talked about because it is a taboo subject, that a lot of misinformation can get around.

[Asker]

LIke I said, I was raised as a southern baptist so I guess this is where it's been embedded in me that such acts are wrong or immoral. But personally I'm just having a hard time coming to terms with what defines sexually immoral or not. And for so long I've let the church's views on this determine who I date or not. And haven't dated anyone for 7 years. So I guess I've just reached a point in life where I'm tired of putting up those walls on myself. I don't know if that's "lowering standards" or not.

[Jarett]

Well this is more of a relationship advice website then a religious advice website. But since you brought up church, I guess you want too look at it religiously? If you want to talk Biblical, Jesus says that you shouldn't look at another woman in a lustful way. I would think that doing that with a girl would constitute that.

But with that being said, we all have different morals, religions or beliefs, and different views on what is right and wrong. I think that you probably know what you think is right or wrong in your heart and mind. Are you asking for a particular reason?

[Anonymous]

I'm catholic and from Ireland and to be quiet honest in Ireland and england we don't take religion too serious! More a live your life and do what you want to do in it kinda thing! And honestly when I was like 12 or 13 I used to think omg fingering how dirty is that but its not all sexual things are ok in my eyes once you and the person are willing and wanting to do what ever you may want to do and trust each other! And no offense to anybody who believes in sex before marriage but I just think that's a load of bollox! Were more likely to stray in are marriage if we have never experienced things before hand! And yeah your right we do ,do it not all of us and many girls won't admit it and yeah I don't see the difference in you doing it if she's going to do it herself

[AJtogo]

LOL....I'm Irish Catholic as well....the best thing about being catholic is that we can do whatever we want and then go to confession and it's all forgiven....whoohoo!!!

[Opinion Owner]

Lol nobody I know even goes to confession or church omg boring as if we wanna listen 2 some priest about stuff we learned in primary school

[Lesae]

I am Southern Baptist and it is considered a sexual act. Fornication. It is, in my eyes not that big of a deal. Fingers are fingers.

[johnsmith2116]

Well, if fingers are stimulating her sexual area, she'll get the stimulation whether she's doing it, or whether I'm doing it for her .

I'm just fine with it . And I grew up Catholic .

[993099142]

I think it's disgusting in the same way that I think blow jobs are disgusting. The only sexual activity that I think is appropriate is making out (without tongues) and penetration.

[ppfxxx]

I'm guessing any sexual act with someone you're not married would be viewed as immoral in the baptist church in fact a sexual act with yourself is probably immoral too. I'm Irish and was raised Catholic but I personally don't have much problem with anything two consenting adults want to do to each other (as you've probably guessed I won't be making pope anytime soon).

This is something you need to work through yourself you've been told growing up that it's immoral if I tell you I don't think it is are you going to be any clearer in your own mind