He has a kink, there's nothing "twisted" about it some of us are just born with kinks. Anyways not all guys like choking women during sex, and if you don't like it he has no right to do it.
Yeah though beleive it or not some girls like to be choked during sex, there are 2 two types of kinks, natural ones people have and ones you get through doing perverse things such as watching sick p*rn and such. Natural kinks are like bondage games or loving huge t*ts, the sick ones some people aquire a taste for are things like taking a dump on each other or worse.
I wouldn't be so quick to judge the opposite sex for their kinks, I've heard some girls have things for squids, which is probably where tentacle p*rn comes from, that stuff seems totally crazy and does nothing for me but maybe not so for girls? Who knows. As long as the kink isn't too sick, ie so long as it's a natural kink and doesn't bother you you should try to accomidate him.
If you have a developed relationship and have established true, not just "don't kiss and tell tust" but "life or death trust" and you've discussed this type of play and both sides consent, it's okay to do and enjoy such things. It is a matter of dominance and submission. It's seeking sexual control (on the dominant end) and freedom on the submissive end. No one should ever do it without the others consent. If it were done to me without my consent, I would think it could be leading to a murder and I would have to kill him before he killed me. Even though my husband and I do get in to s&m pretty deep; it's something that I requested and we discusse, put down boundaries and limits... If it were done to me, without discussion or consent, I'd fear for my life at that moment. He should not do it if you don't consent to it.
The idea with the girl who's boyfriend did it to her, she wasn't consenting nor expecting it. So it's wrong. I hear what you're saying... I'm not big into the role play or fetishes but I do find some BDSM erotic & I have some kink in me... I just experienced with my current lover, that he lost himself in the moment & raised his hand up (2nd time he's done it) & laid it at the base of my throat. His hand sort of cupped but resting, his left hand on my abdomen, top of pubis... it's an erotic gesture in love making or erotic sex. He became aware & removed his hand. It did catch me off guard because I'm not into choking, I wasn't being harmed. I didn't mind. I like to be dom (again not into the dom-sub roles... but find there is a personality trend for me to dominate. We also switch). He caught me off guard taking control. But I allowed for it. I was not frightened or concerned in any way. We have complete trust & comfort. I would do it again, I have seen it in movies, it's a sexy gesture.
Wow.
Um, you need to explain that choking is a NO.
Guys don't always choke chicks during sex, if you enjoy this (it's possible, but I'm assuming not), it's called Erotic Asphyxiation, some people are into it, and others aren't.
You need to lay down the boundaries. If you don't feel safe or comfortable, then you need to stop having sex with this guy because what he's doing is abuse if you say "stop" and he doesn't.
If a man refuses to respect your boundaries, he can hump his hand instead and choke himself.
It is a definite NO and especially the first time you and the guy have sex. I seriously question the mental health of people whom are into this behavior. About your advice for him to "hump his hand" - spot on & LOL. Let him choke his chicken instead of you.
Guy's don't do that as a rule, there's no actual natural pleasure to be gained from an act like that on the guy's side. Unnatural, though, is another story. Some girls like being choked during sex, the loss of control and the lack of oxygen can bring some women more excitement, and it's possible the guy you were with was with someone like this and developed a fixation on the act, but if YOU don't like you you best let him know or he's going to keep doing it.
Well said
I love being choked during sex, and yes it is for the reasons you have said and it makes the orgasm more intense. I also love choking. I introduced my ex to it, then he always wanted me to do it to him! so its not just men.
I don't think "guys" like to do it, unique trait for that one guy and there is possibly others who like it as well. The reason, same reason some girls (or guys) like being choked during sex - it gets them off.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Real men don't hurt their lovers. This guy sounds sick. Fun is fun, but not when it hurts. Did you choke him and pull his hair, too? Drop this sorry sicko ASAP, imho.
It isn't about hurting anyone ... it is about full dominance of a person during intercourse. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this if both parties are in agreement. Many many many women can only have orgasms if a man has complete control over them during sex.
I don't think they do. This guy you've been talking to is sick in the head and you failed to learn that during the past few months.
It's about having control over you.
Most don't! But sometimes you'll find one who does I guess. They're either into some weird fetishs or they think that by stemming your oxygen flow it makes the sex more intense for you, (google it if you're interested). But 9 outa 10 guys probably aren't into this.
U serious? He chokes u. I've heard of hair pulling but that's way out of line. No real man chokes a girl. You should be glad he hasn't hurt you more yet and truthfully leave this guy he does not sound good.
If the dude is doing this after knowing you are not into it than obviously there is a problem
I would say that I did not like it before (I am 44 yo, woman). I would have not conceived to accept something like that. Only that, when I met my finacee, the emotional connection was so intense and amazing, than "the chocking" episode not only that happened naturally (I have offered my neck arching my body), but I really did like, enjoyed and loved it like nothing else before. His touch was sensual, his hands are very sensual. Making it with love, in a whole amalgam of emotional circumstances, it was more than pleasurable. It did not keep even seconds, was just a touch... and again... and again. Now, when I am thinking of him, I crave those moments. I absolutely crave to be in his strong arms, to be so much his, with my entire body, mind, spirit. I remember I even said him, joking, that: "if it would be to die, this is the way I would choose to. At least I would die in your arms, with a lot of love." Of course, I was joking. Just that some women like to be dominated with love. :)
I guess when I ALLOW my boyfriend to spank my ass with a belt, I should leave him too? Some people are just total freaks and its sexy.
tell him to stop.. if he doesn't knee him to the balls. its a pig of an act to choke a girl. and that's just stupid. I'm all god for the rough sex but seriously choking and anything that could hurt my girl I would never do!
You're a phegget.
Yeah...that can be dangerous...there are a lot of small bones in your neck...and if he likes to do that now, it may escalate eventually, as he may actually be testing how receptive you are to it before going further. Choking in and of itself is an intensely dominant behavior.
I love it it makes orgasm stronger, that's just me I guess
Not just you -- I have had 4 girls ask me to choke them over a period of 15 years and a good time was had by all. Have fun and don't listen to the Beta-Males ---- you know what you like.
@waxedpants true I also love being choked
@AnnVdB I love being choked
Not every guy is like that. Maybe a little hair pulling and some rough play, but literally chocking? I don't know.
I think you should ask him... But personally I think there's something wrong with people who wanna hurt one another during making love... It may be something psychological
i once dated a guy, the sex was great. i enjoy hair pulling during sex, but not choking. i told him i dont like it, at first he said ill just put up with it, i told him im not gonna have sex with him if he do
that again.. i think, they want that because they want to be dominant and in control. i dont mind being dom or sub. ... the relationship didn't last long, well were sexually compatible but. its not that kind of relationship that i want, i wanted hot sex with real love. so i had to leave.
Either he's used to girls who are twisted and like it
and/or
he's a bit twisted himself and likes it.
That is sick, get away from this guy...This is not normal, you know the BTK killer done that also to a prostitute he had sex with. Something to think about..
Judgemental ? Keep your prudishness to yourself -- we all get off in different ways. As long is it is consensual there is nothing wrong with it at all. Stop making these people feel like they are f'd up cause you don't understand their proclivities.
Choking a girl is just another way a dominant shows his dominance during sex. It's completely normal.
I dated a guy the liked to choke. The first time I totally freaked out. I told him I wasn't into it and he said ok, and that he wouldn't do it. He lied, he did it again the next time we had sex he got a knee to the balls and I left, never looked back. tell him, you aren't into it, but think about other dominance situations you might be ok with. good sex is about exploring fantasies, but don't ever do anything you aren't comfortable with
I like it and I'm a girl. It heightens every sense and its easy to tap when you need him to back off. It makes an orgasm stronger and better. A guy I used to date did this and it was so awesome. best sex ever
Thank you. Well said.
My lady surprised me by wanting it. I had never done it before, but i must admit seeing her being turned on by it excited me.
Uhmm, maybe because he's a freak? I'm into martial arts, and I choke people almost daily in training, but choking a girl during sex? That's one messed up fetish. Be careful with guys like that, they can easily turn into wife beaters! :((
I agree 100%!! There are professionals in the field of psychology who would also agree - but take it a step further - these guys not only have the potential to become wife beaters or abusers but killers. :( :( I recently had the displeasure of (briefly) dating such a guy. Like the Iron Maiden song says, "run to the hills!!"
I am a black girl likes to be choked by white guys
@voletgirl your in luck im a white guy who loves rough sex and choking. what positions do you like being choked? and what do you like being choked with?
Choking is fucking hot , it's a crazy world and people like what they like
Damn straight!
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