Is a guy being bisexual a turn on or off?

[andrewk]

I'm a bisexual guy and I've dated males and females and in the LGBT community there is a lot of "bi is a lie" sh*t going around and honestly, I'm sexually attracted to both and I can fall in love with both. But girls and (gay) guys, is a guy being bisexual a turn off or on? There's a possibility of a threesome if that's something you'd be into but some people find it gross. Thoughts?

[cth96190]

From what I have learned about women, 99% of women would find the idea of their man being with another man to be utterly abhorrent. Aside from the huge increase in risk of sexually-transmitted diseases, which includes the big ones HIV and hepatitis C, the view that I have heard expressed is that while they can compete with another woman they cannot compete with another man.
You can also rule out any females who had any degree of religious conviction, because in the Bible says:
Leviticus 20:13
If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.
First Corinthians 6:9
9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men[a] 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
What this means for you, andrewk, is that a Jew is required to kill you and a Christian believes that you are damned to Hell.
So, rule out religious girls.
I am dubious that anyone of your age who thinks that they are bisexual, or homosexual, has enough life experience to be 100% certain of that. May I suggest that you do some reading on the subject, perhaps peer-reviewed papers on the subject that have been published in psychology journals (not the queer propaganda material that is offered to kids these days). Look in Google Scholar.

[cth96190]

PS: I should add that as the father of a beautiful young woman, if she bought home a boy who thought that he was bisexual that would be one relationship that would not happen. No father is going to approve of that.

[Amagi82]

Did you seriously just start quoting the bible as your argument? You are being highly insensitive, presumptuous, and rude. FWIW, your book also says this: Here there is no Gentile or Jew, circumcised or uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave or free, but Christ is all, and is in all. Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you — Colossians 3:11-13

[andrewk]

I respect people's religions and beliefs 100%, I just don't agree with the bible hating on gays and I haven't even read it. Believe what you want, just please don't think of queer people different, if your daughter falls in love with a loyal, amazing, respectful man and later you find out he's bi, it doesn't change his other qualities.

[cth96190]

@Amagi82 the Bible says what it says. The verse you quoted is irrelevant to this subject. In the context in which I offered the Bible verses, they were entirely appropriate. It was to show why it would be utterly pointless for him to be interested in a girl who had any degree of religious conviction. You also made an erroneous assumption that I was a Christian, or some other follower of the Bible. I am not, but many are, so it is necessary to understand what it says.

[Amagi82]

Well then, if that's what the bible says, perhaps it's time to retire it.

[cth96190]

@Amagi82 retire the Bible? How would you do that? Are you one of the flaming totalitarians from the left who want to use the apparatus of the state to impose their views and values upon the rest of the population? I choose to not follow any of the three unhappy religions that crawled out of the deserts of the Middle East, but that does not mean that I also want to prevent anyone who does following their conscience. Individuals must be free to do what they believe to be correct.

[Amagi82]

The best way to combat religion is through education. The scientific method. But this won't happen overnight. It'll be at least a century. You can't force someone to change their mind- you have to influence them. Educate them.

[andrewk]

Okay, wow this got way off topic. Believe what you wanna believe but just know that not everyone is going to have the same beliefs, don't go hating, we have enough hate in this world.

[wagsingle]

@Amagi82 Why should any of us give a fuck what that book says? Do you also take Leviticus 25:44-46 as god's law too? "44 “‘Your male and female slaves are to come from the nations around you; from them you may buy slaves. 45 You may also buy some of the temporary residents living among you and members of their clans born in your country, and they will become your property. 46 You can bequeath them to your children as inherited property and can make them slaves for life, but you must not rule over your fellow Israelites ruthlessly." Note that racist verse separates out Israelites for it's prohibition on ruthless treatment. It also says to stone a woman if her husband thinks she wasn't a virgin on her wedding night unless her daddy can PROVE she was. That's one fucked up book you're quoting.

[Amagi82]

Sexuality is a spectrum. We all fall somewhere along the scale of gay to straight, and bisexual men are FAR more common than people realize. It's just a lot of them pretend to be totally straight because society in many places is AWFUL to gay people.

You're normal. Lots of guys and girls either don't care, or are into that.

[andrewk]

I have a tendency to be with more guys and they hate that and I'm just here like wtf? I can't help it

[Amagi82]

Don't put up with people who are unwilling to accept you for who you are. They don't deserve to be your friend/lover.

[PastelGrunge]

I am bisexual so I understand the "Bi is a lie" because I've gotten it. But I do believe that to some people the adventurous and risky mind of a person who is bisexual is hot. I am proud of my sexuality

[Anonymous]

It's not a turn-off. If I like him, that's not going to bother me. I just want someone who's going to be loyal and committed. I'm not the sharing type though, so wouldn't be into threesomes.

[Anonymous]

I like a man with an open mind.

[Opinion Owner]

;) Why Thanks, Love :))

[Sairres]

It's a total turn on. Dating a bisexual guy and having a threesome is one of my fantasies.

[neoagent1]

Where have you been all my life?

[Sairres]

Right here, Babe. ;) haha

[MissPoirot]

For me it is a turn off

[andrewk]

Okay, but can you tell me why?

[MissPoirot]

of course :) honestly I've got nothing against bi sexuals. I just don't like the idea that my guy has been with other guys and that you've even got to worry when he spends a lot of time with his guy friend

[andrewk]

ahhh, see this is what I was wondering, thanks for the info (:

[MissPoirot]

Yw :) and best of luck to you! You'll make a great bf whether for a guy or girl

[andrewk]

aw thanks (: I really try to be loyal and respectful and nice to my partners but my bf just broke up with me for really no good reason so :(

[MissPoirot]

Aah that sucks man good luck

[Anonymous]

I'm bi... Please don't hate me! D:

[andrewk]

why the hell would I hate you? Queer people are amazing, don't let anyone else tell you different. WE ARE FABULOUS. :D

[Opinion Owner]

Haha, thanks for the words of, encouragement? Eh honestly, being bi is extremely messed up for me,2 crushes and I don't know which to pick. A tall handsome playful charming and nice guy, or a cute small playful cheery kind girl? Worse of all none of them know I'm bi!

[andrewk]

I can understand that, in time you'll see who's the best fit, I've had that dilemma before and I just waited it out and ended up being with the guy. Either way it's fine and you're gonna find someone to share your life with, whether it be a boy or a girl. Just have hope that things will work out<3 :)

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks man. It's great to talk to people like you once in a while.