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Would you have sex with an older woman?

The other day when I left my gym I was approached by a young guy and he told me how much he admired my body and asked me very sweetly if I would like to have sex with him. I asked him how old he was and he said 17. I politely declined since where I live I would go to jail for sleeping with him and I prefer my men to look like men not boys. I also explained to him that I was 15 years older than him he said he did not care. I was rather shocked that a boy would want to have sex with someone nearly old enough to be his mama. Would you have sex with a woman that much older? Would you have a relationship with a woman that much older?
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  • Simple answer - i;ve only ever dated older women. I looked like a teacher when I was in highschool not a student and it was only older women who hit on me, usually women 20 to 24 years old although I had 30 and 40 year old women hit on me (freinds of my mothers). My mother put an end to that quickly. I found them to be more my type physically and mentally.

    Do I think it was right? within a 5 year span yes more than 5 years no, In those days it would be considered 100% taboo. That said today society is not the same and morals and ideals of what is right or wrong have changed. I don't have to agree with the changes though.

    17 going out with a 23 or less I would say yah ok but older ? No

    15 years doesn't mean much when one is 40 and the other is 55 but until someone has actually matured mentally (and most don't completely mature until thier late 20s today) it's cradle robbing for lack of a better expression .

    Although it is a sense of pride for a boy to think that he can attract a mature woman.

  • You damned right I would! Older women are veterans who don't play mind games and know how to please and receive pleasure. As I am an older man, I honestly look at older women more and more. Except at porn, gotta be younger for that lone exception.

    Had I ever had the opportunity when I was 17, you bet I would as it would have been my first. I was a horn-dog-from-hell back then, I still suffer that same horny disorder now.

    Didn't we all have a fling for an older woman back in school? Sure did. Not much different when you think about it. Sure there are limits; I mean who wants a great-grandma? Yuck!

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  • Oh yes, guys love older women, at least older women that have taken care of themselves and are fit and good looking. I am in my 40's and I mainly date guys in their 20's, often 24 to 26. I don't chase them or approach them, they ask me out. In talking to these guys I find many of them do like the calmness and confidence of an older woman. But overwhelmingly I believe that most of them approach an older woman only because it has become an urban legend that older women are horny 24/7 and will always want sex. So, no doubt, many (not all) younger guys would love to hit it with an older woman. A relationship, well that is not as likely though it does happen as well.

  • Same situation...none of these answers tell us what a guy thinks and I am 20 years older. One day yes and all over the idea, next feel guilty, next oh I like this girl, next ok head only...I mean it becomes a damn job. Even though there is an attraction and the chemistry and quality is good. don't want to marry him purely casually but I started our conversations cause he wanted help how to get certain things out of girls. then quickly he wanted me, I don't get it.

  • A lot of my guy friends talk about MILF's, and a couple of them are pretty obsessed, lol. So I'd guess that yes, they'd probably want to have sex with women who are older than they are :o)

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  • I imagine that you were shocked. :)

    I find it interesting that as a 32 year old, you consider yourself to be the "older woman". Yes, yes, technically you are older than he is, but the term tends to bring to mine a woman more in her mid-40s on up. And besides...if I'm 35, does that make me an "older man"? Ugh.

    I think a lot of it depends on the actual ages involved and the attractiveness (more than just looks). I personally tend to look at an age range of about 2 years older than I down to about 10 years younger, but many other men differ.

    • I only considered myself older becasue he was 17. That is just a kid to me. Otherwise I do not really consider myself older and at 35 you should't either.=)

  • Yep. When I was 17 I was going out with a girl of 21, when I was 19 I had a one night stand with a woman of 36 but by far one of the most memorable episodes with a woman was again when I was 19 and she was 33. She looked like Kate Bush and I was quite smitten. I went home with her one night and visited her on 2 more occasions but admittedly she did wish I was just a little closer to her own age and we became friends after that.

    I often wonder how she's doing now - so I guess I'm saying it does happen but I think it's more acceptable if the guy's at least in his 20's. My girlfriend is 5 years my senior now and we're a great match

  • Well, at least the young men appears to come from good upbringing: as you say, he did ask you sweetly (I assume politely).

    Miss, I would take this episode as a compliment; if you are attracting men as young as 17, you are probably a sight to see.

    To answer your questions: when I was in my young 20's, I bedded a women about 15 years my senior... We both had quite a bit of whiskey to drink that night... she was my "pair", at my Uncle's second wedding many years ago.

    You see, Caroline had just gotten divorced, and I was between Mademoiselles at the time... Well, like I said, the whiskey got a pouring, and the dancing got hot (listening to Charlie Daniels), and then she sat her fine self down in my lap. The next thing you know, I woke up next to her...and we had a lot of sorting things out to do. She refused to date me - or even see me again - I think we both had trouble making sense out of the whole thing...

  • Sure, I've had sex with an older woman. 17/32 is pretty extreme, though - I think it was a very good idea to decline politely and explain why. Tell him to call you again if you're both single when he turns 21 and you're 36 :)

  • Without a doubt I'd go for an older woman. If she looks good, can carry a conversation and enjoy a good meal... we could even have a relationship.

  • Yes I would, but I must admit the closer she gets to my Mothers age the less inclined I would be, and if she was closer to my Mothers age, she would have to be VERY different from my Mother in her appearance and manner or it would never work, as I would think of my Mom and it would completely kill any sort of mood we had going on in the bedroom.

  • truthfuly I wouldent be able to. I was hit on by a woman she was 32 and I was 19 at the time I didn't know what to do. its kinda freaky to me. I feel like that's just alittle old for me. I don't mind a few years but I think 5 years is my limmit. but then agian everyones diffrent and my uncle his wife is 12 years younger than him so it all depends on who its with.

  • Well I don't want to for the foreseeable future, but on two occasions in the past I have had sex with older women. Those experiences were amongst the most memorable most pleasurable experiences I ever had. Actually one of them was my first time having sex and at the time I had only known her about 30 minutes, but the other one I had sex with numerous times. The second one had the nicest p**** I ever saw. It was tight and so wet and the only p**** I ever found that had absolutely no scent. I checked several times and I was never able to detect any scent at all. Was she just that clean? So yes, sex with older women can be wonderful.

  • Yeah , I am going to agree with the rest.

    Age really doesn't apply to us really , it all depends if there sociable and were physically attractive to them. You know I told myself for instance I won't date anyone younger than me . Since then I've dated people 2-5 years older than myself , which worked out great.

    I society is so hanged up on the idea of god if I am 18 and there 16 , this will look bad or even a better perception would be 20 to 15. Well Look at it this way. The average female dates a guy 5 years up in todays society if they aren't married by age 30+. Keep it straight , keep it simple. Do what you feel is best , is the only thing I believe in.

  • Wow, how do you very sweetly ask to have sex with a complete stranger? This guy has massive balls to ask that at the gym and with an older woman. What a lad!

    I find women in power pretty attractive, so age isn't an issue for me. As long as you've still got it, then it's fair game!

    • I was wondering that myself!

  • I was that 17-year old, long ago.

    What I expected, or at least hoped, was for an NSA fling with someone who won't fall apart if I decide to move on. I learned that most of the girls capable of this were at least over 25, and usually over 30.

    My guess is that he wouldn't dream of putting you in jail, and even if he did, good luck finding a prosecutor; the double standard is in full effect here, and unless you're a teacher, no one would give a rat's *ss that the boy you're screwing is underage.

  • Age is less of issue that people think. I have had a number of lovers that were more than 15 years age difference and it really wasn't an issue. While the kids often have issues because of what their friends would think if they knew, most people a few years out of college know better.

  • I am not the kind of guy that would ever be with a girl for her money. But that's about the only time I would ever be with an older woman. Since your question is about sex and not about actually being in relationship, I will say that it would depend. If she was fit and good looking I would. I would probably gain something in the bed with her, but it wouldn't be us dating or doing anything else but having sex. You wouldn't go to jail for having sex with a 17 year old, I don't know where you live but any state I know of 17 is the legal age of consent. Trust me, I am 24 and I have had sex with 3 17 year olds, and 2 her mom and dad knew about it and even said they didn't mind because it's her choice as a young adult to sleep with me, mostly because I was 22 and 23 at the time, not like 30. I wouldn't date a girl that was older than 29, and as I said in another question the situation would have to be perfect for that to happen, my traditional range is 17-25.

  • *IF I'm 18* (ahem, IF!) and you're 32, that's not a problem for me if she looks like you. If I'm 32 and you're 46 and you look like your profile picture, then that's not a problem, either. If I'm 32 and you're 46 and you look like an average 46 year old, then I'm not going to be interested. In my book, a woman 30 years old and younger can look at least somewhat physically fit without too much effort. After 30, it takes more work. If she's older than 30 (or 40 for that matter) and she's physically fit and attractive, it means she is probably going to put forth the effort to remain that way for the rest of her life, and she's therefore a keeper and certainly "doable", to put it bluntly.

  • I would, and have, when I was 19 I was dating a female that was 28 turning 29. With age comes exp. plus if you got a good looking body and a personality your quite a catch. Very rare in fact. For you I would believe 19-22 should be in your range too.

  • I would not sleep or date anyone ten years older than me.

  • When I was younger I would -- you also get to learn from older woman. Do the boy a favor -- and make his first time a good one. We need older woman to break us in properly. Younger woman could be big pills for the less experienced.

  • I don't care if you are 15 years older or younger than me, I'd do it. If you are hot, I would even pursue you like he did.

  • i would have sex with someone much older and I would have when I was his age. if she is hot then she is hot, guys typically don't care.

    as far as dating goes, it often won't work well socially if she is much older. sometimes it might though.

    i have dated only 4 years older than me. I would probably date a little older than that, but I am geting older myself now and usually find youger girls more attractive.

    i would have sex with a hot woman even if she was 50 though.

  • LOL he went up to you and asked to have sex?

    that guy has balls. so if he was 18 would you have done it?...

    i wish I could do that... just go up to a random older, sexier woman

    and just be like hey sex? and she'll be like yah

    • No. I would not have. I don't have sex with random strangers. I am not that type of girl besides I like a man who knows what he is doing I don't want to be the teacher.

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