Can I lose my virginity by myself?

Question

I really want to lose my virginity by myself. If I can't do it by fingering myself (like with two fingers ofcourse, because with one it just won't happen), I will try with a dildo. I don't want you to change my idea, because I just feel more nice doing it myself. I don't want to hurt a lot or have that whole experience. I will be carefull thought, I'm not going to put anything silly inside there. I've done my research. And I will use lube (dahh). I don't need to hear any you should wait or anything. I'm determined. I'm not even trying to find the right guy for it and all that stuff girls usually say. So typically, I can do it right?

TadCurious · Accepted Answer

The whole concept of "virginity" is pretty nebulous anyway. But there is something to be said for doing what you plan to do. If you've already penetrated yourself with a penis-size dildo or vibrator, then your hymen may be stretched the way it would maybe be stretched the first time you had intercourse with a guy. I say "maybe" because some girls' hymen's get stretched from other activities long before they ever have sex. I would encourage you to use lots of lube and go slow. Masturbate before you start to insert the toy, so your body is ready for the insertion.

summiter · Accepted Answer

I say go for it. With a dildo you can control things and it may not be as uncomfortable. As you know there are plenty of guys who would be kind/gentle with you. But finding the right time/place could be challenging. With the dildo, make sure to buy some lube so it slides in easily.

lumos · Accepted Answer

Using the hymen to determine someone's virginity is stupid. The hymen can be torn by just about any strenuous activity, and it doesn't even have to involve penetration. And, to top it all off, some women aren't even born with a hymen.
So yeah. Tear your hymen if you want. It's just that it literally has nothing to do with your virginity.

hypnicjerk · Accepted Answer

You don't want to hear that you should wait, you're determined... that's fine. That's something people would say to sway you from losing your virginity. You for some reason want to purposefully go about breaking your hymen? Uh ok. You may be able to accomplish that with your fingers.

proudtexasgirl · Accepted Answer

Losing your virginity would imply sleeping with another person.

bombamboum · Answer

technically, yes you can break your hymen. I know I did it when I was a teen.  Though, I wouldn't advise it, I was like you and when I had my first time, I regretted it a little.

whattothink · Answer

You realize that a woman is a virgin until penetrated by a penis. Your hymen has nothing to do with it as things such as tampons and even sports playing can break it.

DivaMonae · Answer

Sure you can pop your cherry but technically you would still be a virgin until, you have sex... Vaginal sex.

MadeInAmerica · Answer

Sure because your determined.

Blondiee2014 · Answer

Having sex with someone is what losing your virginity his, you can't lose your virginity unless you have sex

HookingSwan · Answer

Am I the only one that is completely missing the point in all of this? If it is for more pleasurable masturbation, you can pleas urself without having to penetrate urself. U can wait for the right guy. It's ur life. I just don't understand your reasoning at all. i think it will still hurt the same

Klaatu51 · Answer

of course... by fingering yourself

LookatDuhDonkay · Answer

Youve made me laugh... Made my job easier today.

MamaChunLi · Answer

Hey I known it s been a year but did you ended up losing by yourself? I'm really curious also I want to know for me reason 🤗

Anonymous · Answer

Breaking your hymen doesn't mean losing your virginity hun. Your hymen can break in many different ways. Ever used a tampon? Your hymen is broken. Losing your virginity means having sex with someone else for the first time.