Are guys really self conscious over their SIZE?

My boyfriend is really insecure about his size because he knows I have had bigger and he just always puts himself down. I compliment him all the time and he still puts himself down. Someone tell me how to fix this or at least. help
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  • Yes, size matters to us. When your young you equate sexual prowess or being able to satisfy a woman with your size. As you become more experienced you learn that size is only a small - pardon the pun - part of satisfying your woman.

    Not sure what you compliment him on but if it is his size, don't do it. He may see this as you being condescending towards him or just trying to be nice to stroke his ego especially since he knows you had bigger.

    He is the only one who can "fix" his state of mind on this but you can perhaps help him by being more attentive to his member during love making. Try focusing on it or spending more time on it and perhaps with due time he'll feel more comfortable with his size when sees how smitten you are with his member.

    P. S. If he feels that he isn't really penetrating properly due to his size then look up a few different sex positions on the Internet. Some are more suitable for deeper penetrations so again he may feel like he is the king again.

  • Guys certainly can be self conscious about it when he knows that his girl has had bigger. The same as a girl would be if she knew he had been with a girl who had a bigger bust.

    All you can do is make him feel good in bed, and try not to mention it. He will eventually have to get over this.

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  • Currently this guy that I'm with is insecure with his size and similarly to your situation, he puts himself down a lot.

    The best thing to do it get his mind off of the topic, especially when doing the dirty.

    Express yourself whenever you're feeling pleasure, whether its in your body language or moans. This kind of gives him a confident booster and that he is able to please you sexually. Even when you're pleasing him, say things that will rub off on his ego...rather then use adjectives to descibe his member's size, place the focus on other things...like telling him what you enjoy doing to his member, how much you enjoy pleasing him, how good he makes you feel, etc.

    Remember, its not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean ;)

    Hope this helps!

  • Your probably better off having someone stay that way. When guys think they're all that cause of their dick size then that pretty much tells you what most only think about and want.

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  • No. Sexually my greatest asset isn't my penis, it's what's between my ears.

  • Did it every occur that maybe he's not insecure, he just enjoys hearing that, or perhaps wants you to say it? Weird I know, but there's a lot more guys out there like that than you'd think. Still confused msg me.

  • I gotta ask. How does he know that you have had bigger? I hope you never told him that. If you did, then you have planted the seed that he is not measuring up and there is no cure for a damaged ego.

    My girlfriend and I, when we were first together, had just finished up a marathon session. I grabbed myself (average in size) and said, "how does he measure up? ". Her answer was, "I've had bigger. ". I have NEVER forgotten that answer. And my ego has never cured:)

  • Depends on the guy. If they are below average then I would imagine so. I'm average, so I really don't give a lot of thought to it. I like to joke around saying that it sucks to be white, but I'm not self conscious. But that's just me.

  • I don't have a problem with my size (average or maybe slightly less) but I'm always honest with my girlfriend and ex girlfriends. I think its just like a girl not feeling secure about her body or embarrassed that her breasts are small you have to help her feel secure, I would pay more attention to her breasts to show her that I'm fine with them and love them. Just try the same with him and show him that it really turns you on, hopefully over time it might help.

  • Deep down every guy is insecure. Who wouldn't be.

    but if a guy does for some random reason that his girlfriend has been with a "bigger guy" then their confidence in that matter will definitely go down, and of course they will become insecure, how could they not!

    even though it really doesn't mean that much in the whole picture its definitely a kick in the nads

    • Very true