Freaking out, my boyfriend just told me to get labiaplasty?

[Anonymous]

Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months and things are going pretty smoothly. The sex is great and we love each other a lot. Last night however we were just lying in bed together chatting about random stuff, and he told me he wanted to tell me something. He then proceeded to say that he believes my vagina is unattractive (I have what you would call an "outie") and it turns him off sometimes. I wanted the bed to swallow me whole, I felt so humiliated and ashamed. Sex with him is so amazing and he makes me feel so good yet he's only now telling me this? He suggested labiaplasty and offered to pay for me to get it. At this point I was just outraged and I left his house. He saw how upset he'd made me and apologized but I still stormed out. I just can't believe he would say that.. I seriously need some advice on what to say to him?

[stevie123]

His comments were not thoughtful, to say the least.
He is obviously is not paying attention in the fact that it is your luscious lips that is getting him off.
The outie lips give extra pleasure in my experience.
Unfortunately, he finds a (critical) part of you undesirable, and it might be the end of you two.
Not everybody finds EVERYTHING perfect.
That is why we date, to find someone that will like us enough to last.
Big boobs, butt, or whatever, some will like it, some won't.
It's in our DNA, we can't control it, and is unlikely to change.
Personally I wouldn't recommend surgery, your next BF might love your stuff.

[TadCurious]

There's nothing wrong with your labia. I actually prefer "outies." I think they look sexier and more fascinating. What your boyfriend did was the height of ignorance and just plain meanness. He doesn't deserve you. You don't need to be with somebody who would criticize your body like that.

[TadCurious]

thank you for MHO. Don't ever let a guy make you feel bad about your body.

[Asker]

You're welcome, and we're not together anymore. I know I deserve a man that respects me and my body :)

[mutedaisy]

At least he offered to pay for it... it shows an investment in you. Labiapasty isn't cheap. I'd say go to the consultation, and see if yours are normal sized or if it is just in his head, because p*rn does fuck with our heads. We literally can't tell what is normal and what is not without a doctor telling us, because we aren't all comparing whohas. If you do decide to go through with it, dump him after the first few months. He can't sue you if it is a gift. Just saying. Make sure the verbal contract is set with witnesses.

[LlilyGracee]

There really is no "normal size" since all vaginas are different.

[crazyincalifornia]

Shit!
I have never heard of that before.
I really don't even know what I have.
That is an uncaring, unloving, remark.
Maybe recommend some kind of extra circumcision for him and see how he like that.
I actually think I might like big lips.
Never thought of it to be honest.

[lexq91]

I would say that hurts and now I dont feel comfortable having sex with you anymore. Make him feel how you feel. I would tell him too something about him physical that isn't so attractive about him. Bring him down off that high horse

[yaddayaddayadda02]

You say "thanks for your opinion, but I'm not getting surgery. If you want to stay with me, you stay with my vagina."

[abundantlyrich]

Get another guy who completely appreciates your body without stupid ideas about the female genitals

[Jersey1]

I'm an outtie kind of guy. Lots of us out there. Innies seem cold and unaroused to me, but I wouldn't complain there or think to much about that either.