Blow job on a 4th date. To soon?

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lets just say its happened already...now I'm scared he got it too early...if a girl gave you one on the 4th date would you see her as easy or that's pretty normal after knowing each other for over a month...?
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Def like the male answers on this question. It felt right, I don't feel it was too soon as we are pretty connected
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Most Helpful Guys

  • One of the most common misconceptions about sex is that people often think that how far a partner is willing to go determines how "easy" they are. That's completely incorrect. How far a person is willing to go simply demonstrates how comfortable they are with certain aspects of sexuality. Most guys are pretty much comfortable with most things. Girls? That depends. Some girls will never be comfortable with giving head no matter how often they and there partner have sex. Some will be comfortable right away. Being willing to give a blowjob doesn't make you seem slutty, just more confident with your sexuality. That's certainly more attractive to us guys than a lack of confidence. So the answer is no, its not too soon for you. If you're comfortable with it, go for it.

  • Sometimes I meet a girl & feel like we have so much to talk about & so much in common that it feels like I have known her for years. I guess that she feels the same way & things progress much faster than someone that you are trying to get to know & see if your compatible.

    I don't judge the girl because if she feels like I do than I understand whether it be the first or twentieth date. I strongly feel that it is her decision.

    NO I will not have sex with her (of any kind) if I don't think that she is my type.

    • That is exactly it. It was the 4th date but all of our dates lasted hours, I'm talking like 13 hrs of talking and getting to know eachothe, it felt right.

    • Thank You! If it felt right & still does then it is right for you.

Most Helpful Girls

  • it doesn't matter if it was 2nd 3rd 4th or 17th date ..what matters is- the connection, its what matters the most! now that doesn't mean that if the connection was there then he might think of it as a normal thing because you can't really know what is going on in his mind , he could be thinking OH 4th date she's an easy gurl..you never know how is he like

    to me honestly if the moment is there ,then the moment is there ... you could date a guy for AGES and never have/get the connection ever ,right ?

    believe me if he is a close minded guy it doesn't matter whether it was 4th or 99th date, he would still think of you the same !

    but ,i suggest you take things slow from here if you like the guy..good luck ;)

    • Rdabby baby, ur so right. Hope all is well. Peace

    • Thank you Thank you!

  • Do whatever feels right I say, and if they think you're a slut then they aren't the guy for you but that would make them also a slut... it takes 2.

  • well I wouldn't do that at all on the 4th date.

    all depends on the girl

    • What does the date number have to do with whether the couple is horny or not? I think you are adjusting your sexual activities based on the opinions of peers rather than on your personal desires.

    • But they shouldn't.

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  • its all up to what you and him are comfortable with. I've seen people go years without going past kissing and I've seen people have sex on the first date

  • You do what you feel like doing, when you feel like doing it. Don't base your sex life on the opinions of others. If the guy tries to do something sexual with you, he would have to be a real jerk to think badly of you for doing something he participated in also.

    I would tell you though, never suck anyone who has not licked you first. And be careful with your choice of partners. Choose only guys mature enough to keep your private activities between the two of you. Little kids tell all their friends because they want their friends to be impressed that they have done something sexual. Adults keep private things private.

  • You wanted to give it, and he wanted to get it, so it was probably best.

  • I think I speak for all guys and plenty of girls, that's it's never too soon for receiving oral sex.

    Giving... who knows. Tastes vary.

  • Basically you showed him that you're easy. Now how do you know if he likes you for who you are you, or because you give him oral?

    • Well she is no easier than he is. He was the one who allowed her into his pants.

    • It tur fjfjfjfj

    • I agree with this comment in its simplest form. The question is why would a man engage in a purely sexual relationship? And why would the woman agree to be in a relationship in which she is not loved for who she is. LIVE AND LEARN. Life can be so painful.

  • to early

  • Too early.

  • hmmm this is interesting I think it wouldn't be to soon if it was good if not you probably should have waited

  • Don't listen to the girls - yes, if you are confident, we love it. And no, we won't think you are easy. In fact, if we DO have sex and you don't give us oral, many of us will think you are not that great in bed and leave.

    Whoever leaves you after you giving him a bj on the forth date does so not because you are easy, but because he wasn't that into you in the first place, or he is insecure, or he fears commitment and intimacy.

  • Many males would see you as a whore. If you want to change your reputation, don't engage in sexual activity for a while

    • I don't agree. Most males know that whores charge a fee. She said nothing of charging for the blow job.

    • Haha dave you actually made me lol

  • Absolutely! Too early...