Bluntly speaking, my husband likes to "smell" me. He says the smell is intoxicating but I'm embarrassed by it. Is this normal?

[Anonymous]

It seems like the time when I feel the most unclean, after a long day at work or after cleaning all day, that's when he, as I like to say, "attacks me". Not when I just got out of the shower or when I have makeup on but when I consider myself "frumpy". That's when he likes to "smell" me and have sex. He says I have different scents and he loves them all, he also says he can't get hard unless he "smells" me and plays with me. This is embarrassing to ask but in a healthy sexual relationship, does your partners scent determine your ability to get turned on and be satisfied? Is it something you look forward to, are there certain smells you prefer over others? Does it gross you out? And how comfortable are you discussing the topic either with your partner or somewhere else, like on this site?

[Red_Arrow]

It would seem that this would come out before you married. Why did you wait till now to question it?

Nothing wrong with a guy getting off on the scent of his woman, even if it is one of her at what she considers her worst. I am assuming you are speaking of a "sweaty" smell. If so, you are a bit lucky because your husband will be happy having sex any time and not wanting to wait till you are all clean when having sex will just mess you up again.

If you are talking of genital smell, generally men love it, but if you have not kept clean, as in skipped cleaning there at a normal rate, then the smell can be offputting, and guys would not generally like that. But if you bathe in the morning, you would not need to bathe again in the evening to smell nice. Is this what you are tlaking about?

For me, I would not need the scent to get turned on and be satisfied. But It would add to my enjoyment quite a bit. Definitwly something to look forward to.

I do not mind discussing this topic with anyone. Very comfortable speaking to a partner about it. And comfortable talking about most things to anyone who wants to discuss it.

[Asker]

Virginia when married. I don't have a sweaty smell, it's something people have always told me I'm blessed not to have. People say my hair smells sweet and my skin smells like a baby, still not sure what to think of that one, but I'm referring to a genital smell.

[Asker]

Virgin not virginia-auto correct

[Red_Arrow]

Female genital smell is intoxicating to men. If you showered in the morning, you will have a stronger odor in the evening, and most men will enjoy the strength of a woman's smell at that time. If this is the time frame you are speaking of in your case, then he is completely normal. You do not need to clean your genitals immediately before sex. In fact, cleaning too often to remove all smell before sex would actually be a bad thing. That smell (and taste) is a wonderful thing to a man. If I am not quite answering exactly what you are looking for, please clarify. I am perfectly comfortable discussing matters of a sexual nature. If you are uncomfortable asking in this public forum, message me and I will try to answer whatever you ask.

[dav123]

A women's genital smell (and taste) is generally a huge turn-on.. but as Red_Arrow says, if it's too clean it can actually be less desirable as that smell isn't, if it's too dirty it's also a bit overpowering, there's a Goldilocks "just right" somewhere in-between.

[dav123]

*"as that smell isn't" => "isnt present"

[dthdhdghadh]

Quite frankly, I like the smell of sex on my girlfriend. That mixture of sweat and hormones and all sorts of other juices in the air when we're doing it. I don't get embarrassed easily... or grossed out. And I'm comfortable enough talking about it to random strangers while under the shield of pseudo anonymity. Wouldn't probably talk about it with just anyone... though I often let her know that I like the way it smells.

[katley]

I think its normal for him... I would call it a fetish... Men are into different things... They all can like different things about our bodies... for example, you have men that like your feet, they can also like over sized women... Some couples like food sex...

But I think, you don't like this, you are the one feeling completely grossed out... maybe if your husband could love you both ways (Clean or funky) you wouldn't have such a problem...
But I would relax and be in the moment.

[Ersacol28]

I would be flatter to be honest

[Blondiee2014]

Not with any of my previous partners except for a certain one.
It means he really friggin loves you <3
^ .^

[Dargil]

"My husband likes to "smell" Is this normal?"
As normal and right as rain. He will like your armpits too, shower or not. You have a man who is organically bonded to you. Turns "frumpy" into gorgeous.

[John83]

I love how my girlfriend smells. I like to have sex with her when she just got off work or other times like that so she has more of a scent. Her smell turns me on a lot.

[Chaco1012]

Nothing wrong with that at all in my opinion!! My ex-wife had a crapload of perfume in a whole bunch of different scents. She would spray this or that on before we would go anywhere and it used to bug me although I would never say anything and just be polite.
I tell you what would get me the most crazy though was when she would go and work out at our local rec center and she would come straight from there home. Most often times she would still be dressed in her sports bra and a pair of workout shorts. I totally believe in the power of pheromones because I thought she smelled the best during those times especially between her breasts from the little bit of sweat that was left. We would often have sex after those workouts so don't underestimate the power of those wonderful smells.

[GentleJerk1]

Hm this is a very interesting topic In my humble opinion both men and woman have their own kinks or fetishes if he likes your smell than it is fetish that you as his wife should learn to cope with even if your embarrassed just as he has to learn to cope with your fetishes. You should also feel proud that your husband loves you in more ways than one. I will be honest with you i have seen many fetishes and you husbands fetish is one of the most normal.

[Anonymous]

Google 'pheromones' .. sounds pretty normal to me. A woman's smell does play a big role (or rather, it's often a combination of smells.. and yes, the ones you might think are 'gross' can be intoxicating too).