i met a guy at a bar a while ago and he took my number and we've been talking everyday since. when he added me to Facebook, his Facebook gave me the... Show More
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When guys like that "settle down"; they do so because they want to start a family. If it was because of sex, they would never settle down. If it was because of love, they would still never settle down. Men like that have concluded that the women who tend to be attracted to either his looks or money, are women who are just interested in sex or someone to take care of them.
Interested in sex:
Interested in s/o to take care of them:
so the way he sees it is:
"I can't get married to a slut or b*tch, because they would run off and have sex with other guys, and that defeats the purpose of getting married and maintaining the appearance of certain family values.. If I get married to an overt whore, then everyone in my family and all of my friends will call her a gold-digger, not to mention the children will grow up with negative feelings towards their mother and women in general.. So instead, it's probably best to look for a covert whore "good girl" who will hide and mask those intention behind the guise of morality, tradition, religion, family values and her fake undying love for me"
It all seems so wonderful.. until the ring goes on..
like my family law professor (who was a woman) used to say.. the problem with marriage is.. that as soon as you say "I do".. you can almost hear the sound of those big heavy prison doors slamming shut behind you.. and it's going to take a lot of time and money to get them open again and escape.. and it's not too long until one or both partners become aware and comfortable with this fact.. and start letting go.. because the fear of their partner leaving them is almost non-existant now.. so they let their appearance go.. they put in no effort to make the other person happy.. and before you know it.. this fantasy of happily ever after has turned into a life sentence..
So men like that have made the mistake of getting married to someone they thought would be good for them.. and are now discovering how miserable they are during marriage..
- maybe she's too financially demanding
- maybe she doesn't appreciate a thing he does for her
- maybe she really doesn't care for him or love him (and he longs to feel that from s/o)
- maybe the sex they have is just sex.. and emotionally meaningless.. and he seeks intimacy
- maybe they no longer have sex.. and he's just looking for sex somewhere else
- maybe she's trying to withhold sex as a bargaining chip.. and this is his answer to that
- maybe she's ignoring him and focused only on the children
- or maybe he's just not happy; period.. and looking for s/o else
the truth is.. you have no idea.. everything at this point is assumption and guesswork on your part.. those are the REASONS why men like that have "other women" on the side.. but you haven't given enough detail so we can conclude exactly which reason HE has YOU..