Why does he want to sleep with me if he is not attracted to me?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy a while ago. we met some times and he tried to get me into his bed. I didn't sleep with him. he left in another country and we kept in touch all the time. but tonight we had a very interesting conversation on messenger. he started to tell me that he thinks he is not very, very attracted to me. then why does he want to sleep with me if he is not attracted to me. and every time we talk he talks about coming home and maybe he will determine me to sleep with him. I don't understand. am I some kind of trophy, or what? he p*ssed me...so I am thinking to cut any connection with him. what do you think?

[Subotai]

Hes probably trying to play head games with you. Maybe he's hoping you will feel bad that he doesn't find you attractive and are going to try to seduce him. Its an attempt at reverse psychology, really mean but it sometimes works. He's hoping you'll prove him wrong you'll show him just how sexy you are by the time the night is over you'll have him wanting you. Its stupid especially given that's it been a long time since you've seen each other. He sounds like an asshole and a liar, If he doesn't find you attractive then he wouldn't want to have sex with you. If he wants sex from someone who he's not attracted to tell him to ask a gay guy for a blowjob. Ignore him forget about him, he thinks he's being cool or smart but only a real heartless idiot asks a girl for sex but says he's not attracted to her

[jojowriter]

your naive way of relating and/or inability to portray what you expect from a relationship speaks volumes of how others may interact with you to take advantage of you. Trust everyone and noone at the same time.. test all pursuits and words with real action. Increase your self esteem and no one will treat you this way.. I would definitely not talk with this person let alone date them ..

[Asker]

He knows I am not a one night stand type, I told him from the beginning what my expectations are from a man. but he was sure he can switch my minds. he was stupid enough to be too sure of himself. he made me really angry the other day because I was convinced what zero is and because I was mad on myself cause I lost my time with him. thank god I didn't go to bed with him.

[shortie]

Well, mainly because some guys are just jerks who want to have sex and will say whatever it takes at the time to get some without any regard for the womans feelings...and then tell you soon after that they actually want nothing to do with you =/ - its unfortunate, but its the risk you take when you have sex with a guy you're not in a relationship with. xxxxxxx

[Asker]

I think he is also angry that I didn't sleep with him, cause I didn't. he did everything he could, but I didn't do it. I told him I am not interested in this so soon. I told him I need to know him better, because I'm not a one night stand type. he even told me that he will call me when he arrive but there is a risk to try to seduse me. I told him he can seduse someone else, not me, cause is not working. and then he told me he is not attracted to me too much. what a jerk

[Nekuya]

Men rarely think with their brains. Most of the time, they want sex without all of the added trouble and responsibility of being in a relationship. It just really verifies the old adage "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"

If a guy nonchalantly asks you, "Hey, want to have sex?" then don't do it. He's just using you as a sexual outlet.

[Asker]

I'm not that stupid to jump in bed with the first who ask me to do it. I better slap his ego than slap mine :)))

[Anonymous]

Some guys will try to knock you off your pedestal/mess up your confidence so it will be easier to have sex with you. He's playing with your mind so it will be easier to get you in bed. If you were that unattractive he wouldn't bother. He's just being an ass. Tell him off.

[confusedgirl22]

I don't agree I think he just wants sex when he's home and is just a horrible guy. he's picking this girl because she is naiive! girl you gotta be more street wise or you will get taken advantage of

[Asker]

Confusedgirl 22 how did you get to that conclusion that I'm naive? you don't know anything about me. are you so wise to recognize everybody's character after only few words here? do you have any idea how things happened? you can't take conclusions without knowing what happened. anyway thanks for your intervention.

[confusedgirl22]

Sorry for offending you I just think you shouldnt give him any more chances. You defo can do better and hope it all works out well for you =)

[Asker]

Thank you a lot. I'm sorry I was tough :). thank you for your advice.

[h3ll0kati3]

Dont deal with that... why are you degrading yourself to be a one night stand?

There are WAY better guys out there who will treat you better and love you for who you are. Just stop talking to this guy, you don't have to block him or what not but just stop! You maybe be attracted to him and feelings or whatever... but his d*** doesn't have feelings, so lose that jerk and move on...

[confusedgirl22]

He just wants to have sex.

Just cut contact with this loser! There is no way in hell he wants anything beyond a one night stand sorry. You can do much better than this creep!

[Asker]

I did cut all the contacts with him and npw he is desperate to talk to me.

[hunnie-bunches]

tell him you aren't attracted to him either and you don't f*** people you aren't attracted to and tell him he's lucky you even talk to his ugly ass

[Asker]

I told him that what he says is not surprising for me, cause I've never been very attracted to him too :D. I know I have hit him into his pride and I love that. anyway I will cut all the connections with him

[click11]

cut

this guys a nut.

[jenana]

he might have told you that he wasn't attracted to you cos you hurt his pride?

if he asks for anything like that, tell him to go where the sun don't shine ;)

[texasmassacre]

he just wants some when he gets back that's what it sounds like guys can have sex without being attracted to the other person its just (guy talk sry) pussy

[confusedgirl22]

Yep totally agree

[neesia]

as anonymous user said. don't let guy play with ur mind as well as emotions he is just a guy who wants to wake up with a big stack of wood for his penis. he just wants you to get down and dirty and the next day not call or email you ever again. don't go out with a guy like that he is just stupid and unworthy of ur love!