Is it ok for a 34 year old woman to be sleeping with a 18 year old guy?

Is it ok? I have been seeing/sleeping with this guy that is a friend of my daughters and I understand its a bit different but is it really that wrong? Just to add he has given me the best sex I have ever had in my life


Most Helpful Girl

  • Wrong as in illegally? No. its legal but wrong as in experienced reasons, yes. He is a child that just passed the bar of being an adult. he can't even go to clubs yet nor drink at that fact. He's mindset is total naive to yours although he may be mature for his age such as intelligence but is he mature as the knowledge of life as you would be at your age? No. The fact that you can manipulate him because he does not know what you are doing is wrong. Him being young like that cannot handle a breakup from an experienced woman like you because you captivate his mind on so many levels.

    1. He is excited to even be sleeping with a full-fledged woman.

    2. Your more experienced in bed and can teach him things more than a girl his age can or even wants to.

    3. Your more established than he is and he knows that.

    4. Its something different to him

    5. He feels like a real man because he's doing it with his friend's mom

    All the reasons can really get to a young boy's head. Your way too much woman for him and it doesn't matter if it is just sex, someone may develop feelings and it may be him and when you are young like that, it seems like the end of the world when things don't go right. He may get you pregnant and you know that he is not in any position at his age to take care of no baby or even should have to have that responsibility at his age.

    Overall, Its like you are sleeping with your son, so inexperienced, so innocent, and naive. He's not even fully developed yet. At your age, you could control him if you wanted too and you know that. That is what makes it wrong cause it can be hard for him to let you go when it is time.


What Guys Said 9

  • I'm biased: I lost my virginity to a woman older than you, when I was younger than him, and I couldn't be more grateful.

    So yes, it's okay. In fact, it's a public service, and an angel in heaven just earned their wings.

  • Well, you two are matched in that you both are at your respective sexual peak at your ages.


  • Monica, you naughty girl! When I was 22 I slept with a 35 year old woman, and we both thought it was way hot! Well, because it was way hot.

    So, no it isn't "wrong" except for the part where the "guy. is a friend of my daughter's," and when she finds out what will she think?

    And, yes I really do think she will because the 18 year old boy will not be able to keep quiet - and won't need to if and when the relationship ends.

    In the mean time, have fun!


  • If you don't have a husband or a boy friend.. I don' think it's really wrong.

    Though it would be strange if your daughter is attracted or has slept with him though.

  • nothing at all wrong with it. and you are enjoying it too. I bet he loves it too and that you have thought him a few moves too. nothing at all wrong with it and there is nothing illegal about continue what ur doing and enjoy it while it lasts.

  • Technically, yeah it's wrong. If you're both single though, go for it I guess.

  • If you're with him just sex than hey get yours, but If your wanting a relationship I think you're going to be very frustrated with his immaturity and inexperience.

  • yes its ok

    is it common? no

  • Uh he's 18 so I guess it's ok. You are what they call a cougar and it's becoming popular for older women to sleep with younger men. I mean look at all these celebs. Some are well into their 40s dating others in their 20s. I still don't think it's right but that's society today I guess...


What Girls Said 3

  • He's an adult so he can be with whomever he wants. It's the same for you. No one has the right to judge you or your situation. If you're happy, screw everyone else, enjoy yourself.

  • sorry, I'm an 18 year old girl and if it was the shoe on the other foot it wouldn't be right for a GIRL to sleep with a 34 year old man right? yeah, I think its wrong on SO many levels. A) he's still a child barely legal that's kinda sick no not kinda it IS. B) your daughters friend! WTH does your daughter know about this? yeah it may be the greatest sex you've ever had but go find a 21 year old not 18 year old boy. At 18 we haven't even developed yet. Sorry I sound so bitchy about it, its because I know someone who was taken advantage of by an older lady and had children by him it was disgusting and wrong.