Why do guys(and girls) watch porn?

I know I look at it but sometimes I wonder why. I mean I am in a healthy relationship and would never want to cheat on my lover or desire the porn stars more than them, so why even bother looking at all? I just was also wondering if when a guy watches porn does he desire that girl over the one he is with? Or maybe fantasize about that porn girl while doing his own lover? I'm not persecuting men or anything I am just curious. I mean I do it and I don't even know why,. I just want some understanding. So please share your stories and if you can answer my questions too that would be awesome.

Updates:
I just wanted to say one more thing. When my boyfriend watches porn he is very specific on the type of women he watches. He likes Spanish women, you know the latins/lolitas. So what does that mean? I'm white so I feel kind of you know inferior to them
because they are exotic and very beautiful and all that. I'm not saying he doesn't appreciate me or anything. But if he watches those women all the time, then why is he dating a white girl like me? I don't know it might just be an insecurity issue
But id just like to know so please answer! Thank you :-)

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  • I too watch porn on occasions. I like it but I hate 98% of it because its so fake. But, we watch it because everybody has a natural attraction to watch sexual activities. We are aroused by it, we are curious, we are naturally interested. This is true for both sexes, its natural. I don't lust for any of the girls, they are not part of a relationship because there is no interactions. If in a healthy relationship, sometimes its helpful to watch a little porn to build the mood for the real person in the relationship. Of course all of the this is within "normal limits", I amd sure someone somewhere misses the point, perhaps they somehow have to have it to get off? These people have issues.

    As for the content of the porn itself, mostly its fake, ohh-baby crap. And one would likely get smacked by their partners if they were to actually try many of the things in the porn. I mean like, I would think of smacking certain sensitive areas as they often do in the porn, not unless I am thinking to kill the mood.

    Sometimes something "real" comes along, like in the movie "9 Songs", where the sex is real. A turn on, even if the persons are not the greatest looking. But again, I don't lust for one in the film.

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    • Thank you very much for your answer it has helped me out. I just didn't want to be a freak because I was with someone but still watched porn every now and then. And I didn't want to seem like I was no being faithful or trustworthy by looking at it.

What Guys Said 17

  • Do you like movies? I'll assume you do.. I'll also assume you have a favorite movie. So, do you ONLY watch that movie? I'll assume not. (I'm assuming a lot today!) Watching movies other than your favorite movie doesn't detract from how great a movie your favorite movie is. Likewise, watching porn doesn't make our real-life relationships any less meaningless.. unless it replaces that relationship.

    Also, porn doesn't make you want to cheat. Nor does it make you forget your current lover -- for long. I say this because.. well, we forget things all the time when we're focusing on something else. I can be worrying about my garden one hour, and watching reruns of BSG the next.. and for that brief period of time, I'll forget about the fact that my lettuce is drowning in weeds. Does that mean I'm gonna quit saving money by growing my own food? Nope. It just means I'm too busy watching some scifi sexiness to think about it at *this exact moment*.

    Anyway. A little fantasy never hurt anyone, as long as you know how to step away from the computer and frak the crap out of your girlfriend. Oh. And, in my defense, I do actually have more going on in my mind than.. the garden. And BSG. They are just the two things that came to my mind first when I was trying to think about things that might be occupying it. xD

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  • I can't speak for your boyfriend, but I can tell you that I am a happily married man and I'm very satisfied with my sex life and I still look at porn on a fairly regular basis. I have no desire to cheat on my wife and or do I have any desire to seek out the porn actresses or do I fantasize about them when I'm having sex with my wife. The best explanation I can give you as to why do I still watch porn then? Well it represents a fantasy, the fantasy is that the women in the porn represent they are attracted to me and excited enough by me to show me the things they are doing (most of the porn I prefer is solo porn) in turn I imagine all the ways I could please them in return. I have actually used porn to help please my wife in adding a little variety to our sexual conduct. The other thing I use porn for, which is a little less admirable is just for a quick release. I still Masturbate as well, again not because I'm dissatisfied with my wife, but because it feels good and I get a great sexual release from it, and I know my wife isn't always in the mood for sex, which I'm completely OK with. I hope this helps a little bit, and if you have any other questions, feel free to ask.

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  • The girls in the video aren't real. They are also "bad". Most men don't like total sluts. Contrary to the fantasy porn girls are probably harder to lay than regular girls. They expect 1500 just to do a scene what would they expect from a boyfriend? Just like people admire criminals without wanting to be one men admire sluts. There not real, even though they are. They put no pressure on you. I look at porn sometimes, my justification I probably either want sex more than my girlfriend or don't have one. I think it is preferable to going to a bar and trying to pick up a drunk girl or string a girl along that's looking for love for a one night screw. My justification is its just taking care of a thirst that's just too strong in a relatively harmless relaxing way.

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  • Suffice to say that the human mind is ravenous for information, and porn provides access to the most interesting kind of information -- data on sex.

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    • You want to know why people watch porn? It's an escape from their own world, their own ways of seeing things.

  • i watch porn cos... well, since I don't have a gf, my hormones are going WILD

    i find porn as a release, it keeps me under control.

    i use porn and Masturbation as both a pleasure and as stress-relief.

    a hard days work and a good beat-off before a shower then bed... its a winning combination!

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What Girls Said 9

  • It is perfectly common for healthy, happy and solid couples to enjoy porn together. I really don't think it begins to count as "cheating" unless one person in the relationship strongly disapproves of the other one using porn but they use it anyway in secret. For many reasons, this secrecy is bad for both parties and for the relationship in general. That being said, I find it frustrating how many people still have such closed minds about porn, sex and romance. I am thankful that this puritanical attitude is becoming more rare but it is not yet enough. For far too long, people have been sexually repressed.

    I personally love to watch porn. I have a huge DVD collection and about 80,000+ pictures and video clips on my computer. I like all kinds of porn, mostly hard-core and kinky stuff but I also really love artsy nudes too (like MetArt, FemJoy, HegreArt, Breath-Takers and other beautiful erotic photography). In my movie porn, I am very picky about the "realness" of it and I avoid fake stuff and fake women like the plague. I watch it for many reasons. I find it visually very stimulating and I also identify with the "fantasy" aspect of it. I often watch porn with my lovers (both male and female) and we never feel jealous of each other's interests in the models/actors or scenes. I encourage all my lovers to enjoy, look at and appreciate other sexy people--I believe that it is natural and healthy to admire everyone's beauty. I usually have a DVD playing while having sex because I think it is a great enhancement to the sex (even though I usually miss most of these movies because I'm busy). I obviously think of porn as a great appetizer before an evening of sex. And of course I love porn to masturbate to (which I do very frequently).

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  • Porn is made for entertainment,it helps people get off.Being in a healthy relationship doesn't mean you can't watch porn.Watching porn doesn't mean you prefer the porn starts over your partner/lover(of course unless you're a porn addict).Porn helps with new ideas,whether it be positions or simple new things to try.Watching porn is not cheating either,it's simply allowing yourself to become aroused watching sexual acts(which is normal) and you can pleasure yourself

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  • coz its quite good to learn things from haha :)

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  • I like all kinda porn, I watch it so I could cum, since am in a long distance relationship :/

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  • Some guys like to watch porn with you, to get you horny or try positions out. Others wont,its just personal just choice what turns you on AND him. When guys are with you, mostly they want to love you and enjoy it and not think of porn stars

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