You're my age and you seriously already give up? You still have so long to go.. don't you think you are being a bit dramatic? I've also experienced some bad things (geez most people have) but it definitely doesn't mean you're set up for failure. With that kind of attitude it's no wonder no one is showing interest. But anyways pep talk done. You can't train your biological needs to switch off. It's just not possible. You'll have to live with it and take away the urge temporarily by helping yourself... there's no way around it.
I just don't see any point, I don't know what to do and I have so few opportunities.. When a friend of mine tries to explain what to do it just sounds incredibly complicated and when I think about what I have to do I just get incredibly stressed out. I really don't want to give up and I know I am young but it's just all so difficult and scary and I wish I could do without it.
You're necer not gonna want it unless you're asexualy.
To divert your attention elsewhere. Get busy with work or school, go to the gym, hang out with friends and family etc...
Never* asexual* sorry...
Get a new hobby. Work as volunteer for charity. Dude. It is not impossible. Just watch news. You will lose all your desire.
I don't know if you want to "train" yourself to avoid sex. The right girl will enter your life at the right time and probably when you least suspect it. It is normal to be frustrated at times. Have you had girlfriends in the past? Have you fooled around like oral sex or handjobs? Anyway, have some patience, there a lot of great things to focus on in this world.
I am assuming that you masturbate often? That is one way to kinda cope until someone enters your life. Your thoughts?
Do you really think so? I don't want to be waiting forever, it's always unrequited for some reason and I want to believe that I will meet the right girl at some point but some days my patience just drops to nothing and I feel like it will never happen, like today. I have never had a girlfriend and I have no sexual experience. I've made out with a few girls but that is all that has happened in my life so far. Yeah I masturbate quite a bit.
Thanks for replying, you have to hang in there. You are only 20. Yes I believe and you need to believe that there will come a time when you meet someone who will sweep you off of your feet. Do not be a quitter! Have you considered an online dating site I know it costs some $ but it may open a few doors if you do not like the bar scene. In the meantime, workout every day. Take care of your body, go to a gym, there are some great girls there. Please hang in there. You are better than you give yourself credit for!
Thanks, I'll join the gym. I had signed up for one but the company are crap and it's opening 6 months late unfortunately so cancelling that and joining another one when I can afford it. I'm going to leave online dating for a few years, not doing it right now as not many people my age will be on it.
I am asexual, and I can tell that things are not necessarily easy from the other end either. I spent 13 years trying to be "normal" before I found out about asexuality and it made me miserable. This would be no different, you are who you are and you need to accept that.
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Get neutered.
I hear castration works incredibly well.
p*rn seriously I sometimes fap 4 or 5 times a day and then I won't do it for weeks. It releases the urge and so your fucking hormones won't control your life
@"I don't really want to have sex unless I am in a relationship and that's not going to happen"
Why wouldn't that happen? Maybe just work on that.
Because I can't see it happening for myself. I don't know what to do and it's just something that happens to other people I think. No girls seem interested in me for some reason, so better just move on.
Don't give up just yet. I used to feel that way too, when I was 18, then I got my first gf. Unless there is something 'obviously' very wrong with you, it can definitely happen for you!
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