Why does my boyfriend like looking at fat chicks??

[shelly6]

My boyfriend and I have been in a solid relationship for 2 years, we both in our 30s. One thing I can't seem to get over is his strong "preference" (I call it obsession) for fat chicks. In the beginning I had found that he had been chatting to fat chicks, telling them how hot their bodies were (they lived in another country, nobody he has met). One year later when things were not great between us for a month or so, I found that he had been doing it again! He said that he just prefers curvy women with large breasts, and that he loves my body and loves me, and that it's nothing personal! ...but honestly, I would consider some of them obese with stomach rolls hanging over their hoo-hoos! I am about 130 pounds, average boobs, most guys say that I am very pretty and attractive, curvy hips and butt. But this makes me insecure, I just don't GET it? How can he like obesity? He claims that he likes seeing a woman with such a "taboo" body who is still confident enough to show it off! He has also posted a profile on one of the BBW sites claiming to be large and fat himself! He is not at all fat, he is in good shape and muscular! What gives? Please someone help me to GET this!?

[Anonymous]

Well im in the same situation im glad im not the only one! But we have broke up n he did he slept with a big size girl I know cause we got back together and she texted him n he said he didn't knew this person but I called and she told me how he called her at 2am n went to her house and slept with her once, then she also told me that he called her couple time but he didn't wanted to be a booty call soo she didn't pick up no more, but she texted him cause he blocked her on IG, he met her on Tango! Funny thing is that she told me she didn't knew he had a gf but she been liking our pictures together on IG smh, I don't know cause he doesn't seek to chat with fat girls anymore but sometimes watch fat girls p*rn ... I don't mind if he watch p*rn but I told him! Don't let nothing take you from what you really want or like he said he just likes it at the moment big tittes, asses or big girls. I have try lo leave him cause he doesn't satisfy my needs either but I guess nothing is perfect you just gotta be happy n live life. take it or leave it!! You can't have a Ryan Goslip, rich and that also in bed is great + faithful. If there is please send him this way, cause that's my type of man! LOL but im with a chubby, avarage guy that is ok! You understand im pretty making money single mother but not in love anymore! Life is like this you fall in love with the wrong person n your life will mess up just always think straight don't let an emotions manage ur life (I did once and mess up my life) always us ur brain and love equal, cause if you dont balance is gonna have consequences!

[Anonymous]

"He claims that he likes seeing a woman with such a "taboo" body who is still confident enough to show it off! " I think that alone told you why he likes checking out us fat chicks.

I am one of these types of women who is very confidant in myself and I wear shirts that show me off. I do get men looking at me that I'm amazed that look at me. My skinnier friends are jealous and ask me why the men always check me out. I don't know honestly. I use to hate the way I looked but then I grew into me I guess I should say.

I am a very overweight woman who is very confidant in myself and I do love me even with being overweight. I currently have a 20 year old FWB (and I'm 36 years old) that many many many women think is hot and he's hot I say also. His most current ex is about 120 lbs and he pursued me for almost 2 months before I gave in and began our FWB relationship with him and he tells me it's been the best sex he's ever had. Might I also add it's been the best for me also. Your boyfriend is just in a fantasy world with the taboo body. He's coming home to you and says he loves you then I honestly don't think you have anything to worry about.

Then again he can be just one of the type of men who says things to make someone feel good about themself only. Or maybe he's just saying things like that and then turning into a jerk. I've been in both shoes or the comments.

Best wishes to you and I honestly don't think you have anything to worry about!

Take care!

[toeknee66]

My guess is he knows he is attracted to (the appropriate term to use) "Plus Size" women and he also knows society would ridicule him for it so he thinks its taboo. Therefore, dating your average good looking girls. This being you, now... if you suspect he is going to cheat, he probably already has. He needs to figure out a way to satisfy his own needs without puting you through heartache and pain and the "what if" and he truly needs to "man up" because he will never be fully satisfied with you. (Sorry)

[l-hedoniste]

Usually, I'm from the "you like what you like" school. I've never seen anybody come from asking why something makes them hot, so unless you're a shrink and get paid for such dumb-ass quizzing, the activity is largely useless.

You, however, need to get to the bottom of this, if only because of the lying. It's one thing if he just has BBW fantasies, but when you post a profile and start cruising BBW sites, you're chubby-chasing in the real world. Your fantasy life is no longer contained in your mind, and you have to confront it, and order your life so that it can work.

Which brings me to you. You're a nice person, and probably a good girlfriend. But, whatever sexual life your boyfriend has will very likely have a significant BBW component to it, and I don't know whether it will include you. You can ignore this, or you can encourage it, but I would bet a week's wages that your man will wind up nailing one of these ginormous chicks in the not-too-distant future.

I'm sorry. You don't deserve this.

Note to dudes: If you like chubby chicks, or skinny chicks, or black chicks, or easy chicks, or what-the-f*ck-ever, then please, just go get one, okay? Don't get some girl you don't even want, only to have her wonder--or worse, be completely certain--why you don't want her.

[DF5120]

I hate to break it to you but he likes fat girls and he is fascinated with fat people in general. It's a pretty common fetish/preference but if ignored and not acted upon could cause friction in your relationship. I suggest to confront him about it because if he is just looking now he will eventually act upon his desires down the road. Right now he is probably very conflicted about his desire for bigger girls but doesn't want to lose what he has with you. The unfortunate part in all this is the fact that unless you intended to gain a lot of weight he is always going to be looking elsewhere for his true sexual desires. But also remember it's not really his fault; he is just wired that way. Someone once said that we are not born knowing or sexual preferences, we discover them and if I might add, we are also slaves to them.

[Anonymous]

He likes them .. But I think he's just curious .. So if Ur not careful he will end up messing with one but only a 1 night stand thing cause he loves you ... Just be easy about it and keep him happy .. And stay confident .. Don't worrie he loves u

[Anonymous]

He just likes fat women.chill out.as long as he loves and likes you and you have his faith and honestly don't trip about it.He likes what he likes...sheesh.

[paigems]

He can like fat women, but that does not give him the right to go and talk to other women like he's doing.

[Opinion Owner]

Not cheating with them or anything but he can like them.

[lilmiss4u2c]

I was in same situation... it will go from looking to chatting to meeting... and after 4 kids and 6 years and we met I was 120 pounds and now 140... I still can't figure it out... If you don't address it now it will only be worse. seek counseling