How do I REALLY turn on my boyfriend while making out?

I'm 18 and have been with my boyfriend for a year and 3 months. When we make out we get really into it but the furthest we've gone are hjs because I'm not into the whole bj idea :/ where do guys like to be kissed/touched that REALLY gets them hard? ;)


Most Helpful Girl

  • I would have to say...anywhere below the belt..haha. I've found that if you start kissing and sucking your way down starting at his neck, then on to his chest, and down and down and so on, this usually turns them on pretty fast. Take your time, enjoy it, go as agonizingly slow as you want :). And if you really want to send him over the top, tease his d*** with your mouth..blowjobs aren't as bad as they might seem.. All I'm saying is don't knock it till you try it. You don't even have to put the whole thing in your mouth. Just licking and kissing and sucking is usually enough to get yer man hard as rock.


What Guys Said 14

  • Try this:

    1. First you need to get him turned on - be more aggressive, grab his stuff, slowly massage his balls through his pants, it's important that you act as seductive as possible - the more you're turned on - the more he'll be turned on. Pull his pants down slowly and act as naughty as possible - this is a great turn on.

    2. Grab his hand and lick on his fingers slowly before you give him head - just put his middle finger slowly into your mouth and suck on it, up and down, slide it slowly and moan - you have to moan a lot so he feels like a king.

    3. As you're licking one finger, slowly start stroking his shaft (penis) with your other hand, you have to be on your knees and he should be standing, look him in the eyes - this way you can see his reactions. You need to love giving him head if you want him to really enjoy it.

    4. Most girls make the mistake of being too soft - don't do that, grab his penis tightly and stroke it hard, as you're twisting his shaft with one hand slowly start sucking on the head (the tip) of his penis, curl your tongue around it, twist it in circles, then point it upwards and slowly lick it while you're watching him.

    5. Say something like "mmmmm I love it" then smile, smiling is very important - it conveys that you love it. Keep on stroking and sucking harder.

    6. Start talking dirty to him, put your hands around his balls and tickle them gently - make sure you are gentle 'cause his balls are very sensitive, as you're tickling, keep on stroking and sucking.

    7. Once you see that he's getting closer start stroking harder - and don't even think about slowing down. Scream at him, tell him you want it - tell him where you want it (swallowing will make him go crazy just as you want it) - then as he starts to come, you have 2 options - you can hold his penis or he can hold it - I suggest you let him hold it and squeeze it out.

    8. Then hold his penis and stroke it slowly, just as if you were trying to squeeze every last drop out of him into your mouth, give it a few more finishing licks.

    9. Then smile at him, open your mouth and show him what you've got in your mouth, smile, then swallow all of it - then look up at him again and open your mouth to show him it's gone. If you REALLY want to learn how to give a blow job then you have to read Jack's Blowjob Lessons ----> link

    10. Smile again, believe me he'll love you for it.

    Good luck

  • Our penises.

    Really, I know it may seem intimidating at first, but you may feel differently when you see what it does to your guy. It is not a dominance thing or a dirty thing or anything weird or kinky, it's a pretty normal thing and just an expression of sexual desire.

    Where do you like to be kissed?

    I mean if the moment was right and a guy kissed you between your thighs, would you freak out and get dressed and bolt? Probably not...

  • Kissing on the neck does it for me, feels great :D

  • Well if you want his penis to be hard touch it. Duh. I think dancing together can be hot and so can a close hug. Its fun to be close to your girl and having my erection touching her and its sort of unintentional but intentional (I'm not some pervert that does this to strangers on the bus I have had it done to me though eww the bus can be a little scary lol). Well some people are saying do whatever you want others are saying if you love him u'll give him a blowjob. I feel somewhere in the middle. How serious are you about the relationship. If you two decide to be together for a long time or get married I think you should consider trying it. I mean I don't know I would want to marry a girl who said she would NEVER give a blowjob. I mean never getting another blowjob for the rest of my life that's scary. It may sound trivial but I don't really even want to be in a situation where I am tempted to cheat and its not a great sign for a relationship if one of the people won't even consider the others desires

  • just try it if you love someone that much you do anything for them...u wanna make him happy hell love you big time if you give him a bj

    • Well that's exactly the answer that people expect from someone who is only thinking of themselves. 'if you love him enough you'll do it'? wtf?

    • Pfttt , Nooo!? , It's her opinion. If you really love someone it doesn't mean you would do ANYTHING for them , especially if you arn't comfortable with it. you are incorrect by far

  • I think it varies for different guys...for me, I think the part between my stomach and my penis, also my back, and the lower side of my buttocks...but you just need to touch him all over and see what works...

  • There is no substitute for a BJ, but if he is not getting hard by your touch at this age, you are in trouble. I suggest you try the BJ thing if you are really into him. My wife says it is great. Just seeing the look on my face is worth getting past the whole eww part. All I know is that we both enjoy the oral side of sex. At some point you are going to expect your partner to consider that for you, and he should be just as willing to please you orally as he wants you to please him orally.

    Give it a try and then post how it went. :-)

    Good Luck,


    • Ewwww!!! how old is he? no offense dude but uhhh come on! your way to old for this site let alone answering a teens question ...specially what you said think about it

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    • Some of you are really rude!thanx for the advice James.Im sure it helped someone : )

    • Dear everyone,

      Get over it, and leave him the f*** alone.


      a 19 year old.

  • Kissing on the neck, behind the ears, and even the chest (yup, even the nipples) is a real turn on. Do a lot of rubbing and let the warmth of your breath give him goosebumps. Now go, have fun!

  • easy answer, everywhere! neck/earlobes is a good start. (gentle biting works for me)

  • Try some soft light kisses behind the ear lobe and on the neck. Nothing wrong with a good HJ either...but maybe sometime try adding some lotion to it --- that may set him off in a way you have never saw

    • So true! I gave my boyfriend his first handjob with lotion at our 4 month. He was a little wary at first, just like, "You're going to moisturize me?" but the minute I slid my hand over him...his eyes rolled back in his head and he was just in heaven. :) Now he loves the lotion!!!!

    • No girl can do it better than "JILL" I think she should give him a BJ.

  • Kissing and sucking on the bottom of the ear and on the side of his neck should do the trick. Also you can use plenty of saliva by spitting in your hand or on his d*** and he'll love it.

    If you decide to try a bj then you could ask him to pee and then take a shower so you know everything is clean. Also a girl I know said she makes sure the guy is precumming which is just the clear liquid that comes out when the guy is really into it. She does that so it removes any urine as well. If you don't want come in your mouth try telling him to let you know before he's gonna blow and finish with a wet handjob. As for the taste if the whole day before he doesn't smoke, drink alcohol, or eat red meat, and does drink lots of water, fruit juice(pineapple). and even eating celery all will help to give it a sweet taste instead of a bitter one. Hope this all helps.

  • get naked when you make off your body for him...maybe touch youself while he is kissing

  • that guys kinda creepy hahaha but I think you should kiss his neck that's sexy.. I won't lie getting heads pretty cool but if you don't lke it don't do it!

  • Theres nothing better than experimentation (also, the experimentation will really work... guys love their girlfriend exploring their bodies and parts).

    Try licking if your not into b/j. Lick along his length, always a winner.


What Girls Said 15

  • Just kissing and touching should do the trick. You could try a bj using a flavoured condom if your opposition to doing it is because you don't want it in your mouth (totally understand!). But if you aren't comfortable, don't do it.

  • When we were in the back seat my boyfriend would get so excited when he was sitting upright and I would straddle him and push my body up against him and kiss him hard. I would usually grab the back of the seat so that I could push harder, or grab the back of his head and pull him closer then lean into him.

  • Ear, the muscley spot in between the neck and shoulder, ribs, hip bones. And to be honest with you its not fair to wanna do something to a guy that 'really gets him hard' if you're not gonna do anything else besides a hj... unless you're f***ing amazing at hj's... You have really been together a year and three months w/o having sex?

  • if you really love a guy, and you are sure he loves you back! you deff wouldn't mind giving him a head or even f***ing him... so what kind of love are you talking about?!

    (only if you waiting for marrage)

  • when I kiss my boyfriend I slide my hands down his chest and leave them on the sides of his legs then I start nibbling his neck and press my body against his and that works

  • bite his ear and give him little kisses everywhere.

    • I kno my man likes it wen I bite his neck and put my hands on his chest and run them up and down his abs and just touch him lightly. but the biting really turns him on

  • Suck and nibble on his lips while making out. go slow, so he has to be patient and savour it.

  • My boyfriend goes crazy by me simply kissing and biting his neck. I have him squirming all over the place and makes all sorts of...amazing sounds :]

  • Well for one you don't have to do what you don't want to. But what I would do is ask him where he likes to be touched and kissed

  • Well, sometimes when you stroke it you need to ask him how it feels. You want to act according to his body. When you stroke you can also LIGHTLY play with his balls. You can also kiss his nipples for extra reaction.

  • just get on top of him and touch his chest... that seems to work for me

  • my boyfriend goes INSANE when I suck his earlobe. like he moans and gets really hard

  • lmao well that's like the best part. umm try kissing around the neck, chest down lower abs, umm try kissing around the area like on the inner thigh. does he fuss that you don't do that?

  • You're so full of BS...what kindda girl don't give head? You must be well frigid! Just give the man head or he'll go elsewhere for it!

    • I'm not into BJ's either, I think its kinda gross, and I wouldn't ask a guy to go down on me either. she doesn't like it, so she shouldn't have to do it, and she's asking what else she can do to make him happy.

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    • See that's how people get herpes.... unless you hav ur man tested (like me)

    • Obviously you have been with some jerks