How do I get him to loosen up when it comes to sex?

[Anonymous]

im 18...and I've kind of had a thing going with my manager whos 32...we've f***ed twice but never finished...im really confused here. he acts like such a player---hes the biggest flirt...just hanging out---hes SOOO flirty and cocky. its sexy. but then when it comes to ANYTHING sexual he's so god damn cautious! he wouldn't even f***in kiss me first...i was all over him...two god damn inches away from his face...and I still had to go in for it! at first...i thought he was just being careful given the circumstances...(hes also friends with my dad =P) ...second time we didn't have a condom or a lot of time...i was out with him again last night and he said he didn't wanna f*** because I was drunk...and he didn't wanna take advantage of me (for the record I was not drunk...just buzzed)! its like---can we PLEASE just f*** already! oh---he also has a girlfriend who he's been dating for a few years now (he left his wife for her) she's 21. so I obviously am aware that he's a cheater...and this relationship isn't going anywhere. I'm not stupid. I just want to f***! he's hott! I'm horny! haha...i just wanna know how I can get him to loosen up...do you think its just the age difference? how do I get him to get aggressive!?!?!...i mean what girl doesn't want that?

[Anonymous]

Do you have an STD? because if you keeping acting like that your going to get something!

No condom?

Dad's friend? (um...ewwwwwww)

32? what's up with you mind lady.

just want a f***? You'll never find someone you love because their always gonna see you as a sex partner not someone they can be serious with.

Basically your a home wrecker cause if the girlfriend found out then you'd totally ruin it and you don't even sound as if you care. All you want is a f*** right?

You people like you I see all the time. It's like they have this vibe that just tells you what type of person they are. You are giving me that vibe I'd I never even seen you before! That's a strong instinct and hopefully you'll see the light before you get HIV oh or herpes and maybe you can mix a little aids with that.

Dude. This whole question was completely disturbing to me. I'm younger than you and this is not appealing to me. I wouldn't want to be friends with you, or get to know you at all.

I'm not telling you what to do but right now I'm thinking your having mental problems and you need to get it straight because doing this sh*t is what ruins your life.

[Anonymous]

Ewwww seriously ur 18 and ur fucking a 32 year old that u think is hot u might as we'll be a stripper / prostitute in that case , you have no respect for urself or for him at all, u are a homewrecker.. And he dosent want to get u pregnant.

[Anonymous]

He won't losen up. He only is interested in you for sex as well, also he's going to be very consious he could well get you pregnant (unless your completely barron there is always a % chance). He's got a girlfriend he left his wife for, he'll be wanting to hold onto that too. I don't know why your wasting your life, sex without love is nothing (if you've ever had someone actually make love to you, sex without love is like eating when your not hungry.. pointless. Also you'll always be hungry whilst all you have is sex).

Though, since we all have to learn this for ourself and nothing I can say make that difference I susspect, I will say this:

Best way to get him to losen up is to get him drunk.

Most girls don't want an agressive lover. I think you might be confusing passionate and agressive. Unless your into S&M.

[Asker]

No---i like it when guys are pushy and cocky and agressive. its sexy. and he cheats on his girlfriend all the time. and yeah I'm just not looking for anything serious. I got too much sh*t going on right now. I go to school full time....work full time....dont have much time.

[wanacot]

You won't get him to loosen up. He's 32... how he's acting now is pretty much how he's going to be acting for the rest of his life. Plus he's your boss so that creates a sticky situation for him. Like I said, he's 32 so this is probably a career to him, not just a job. He's probably thinking about what would happen if he lost his job. Then you introduce the fact that he's friends with your dad and suddenly he's thinking what would happen if your dad found out about you two having sex. Yeah he may like the thrill of the chase with you and the flirting, but he's mature enough to recognize the trouble he can get in.

[Littletad]

I think he's not giving you his full attention because he's a little stressed and worried about his current relationship. He probably didn't expect it to escalate the way it has.

[Whoknows87]

sounds like you're gonna be one of those 40 year old women down the road who whore it up at bars, cause there still single and they can't get their sh*t straight in life.

[Asker]

Okay........sorry I'm not some prude with a god damn purity ring on my finger.

[chamberri]

I was gonna comment my own opinion but whoknows87 is right.

[jacquesvol]

"oh---he also has a girlfriend who he's been dating for a few years now"

"I'm not stupid. I just want to f***! he's hott! I'm horny! "

"and yeah I'm just not looking for anything serious. I got too much sh*t going on right now. "

You won't get anything serious indeed.

And don't be afraid, there's enough sh*t in the world, there will never be a shortage thus you'll get your part.

Maybe more than you whish.