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My mom and my much younger ex boyfriend?

My ex boyfriend is 18 years old and I am 34. My mother has always had a problem with me dating younger guys and wants me to find a guy that is my age that is a doctor or lawyer type and settle down. That just isn't what I want right now I want the excitement. Well me and my ex boyfriend broke up about 2 weeks ago because of a disagreement. He had been helping my mother around the house and re roofing her house because she has no help and my father passed away going on 3 years now. Well he finished the roof and I was glad because it was awkward to have him still around but 4 days ago now I was driving by and I saw his car parked at my moms house. And the next morning it was there again. I found out that he had been sleeping with my mom! she is 65 years old! I didn't believe it because it came from a friend of his but I told my mom the rumor and she admitted she had been sleeping with him for going on 2 weeks now. They had sex the same day we broke up and we had sex that day too. He has been telling everyone about it. I don't know how my mom could do this she is 47 years older then him. So my question is why would he be interested in sleeping with a 65 year old woman, a grandmother. I just don't get it and why my mother would do this to me either?
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OK so the friend of his that told me in the first place came to me over the weekend and showed me a list that my ex had made. It was a list of sex acts he wanted to accomplish and one of them was a "daughter/mother/grandmother combo" I feel so stupid.
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Now I know he has slept with my daughter also. What I don't understand is how he actually made this happen?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Attraction happens, and it's not always age appropriate. Look, you were attracted to each other and there was a 16 year age difference between you. Obviously, he likes older women and there's nothing wrong with that at all. If your mom initially had a problem with it, it was probably because the whole thing was new to her and seemed strange when she saw you dating a much younger man. But sometimes attitudes change when a person finds themselves in a situation they didn't expect to be in. Obviously your ex saw something in your mom that he was attracted to, because a guy is not going to bang a chick no matter what her age if he's not attracted to her. He probably likes the experience that older women have, and the fact that they're not looking to have kids with him or commitment or all that extra stuff that younger women often expect of guys. She offers sex, companionship of some type, and possibly a nurturing element that younger women sometimes don't seem to offer with their demands. Why your mom would do this to you is something only you can answer--how is your relationship with her otherwise?

  • Why is he sleeping with a 65 years old woman? the same reason he was sleeping with a 35 year old woman.

    Why your mother is doing this? Perhaps she is as stupid as you and if he did your daughter as well, then bravo! I gotta say, he had sex with the whole family and you make a great Idol to your child.

    What you don't understand is the fact that You are as old as your mother to him!

    you re not supposed to reffer Old Woman to your mother because you re an old woman to him as well! You still don't get that well, he is 18 years old so he is young enough to be your son and that's illegal and just quite disgusting.

    Why don't you look for guys who are same age as you, decent and aren't looking just for sex!

    You gotta think of your actions before doing them, having a fantasy isn't the same as reality, if you wanna make a good example to your daughter then close your legs and be a good parent instead of f***ing young kids! because one day your daughter is either going to be a slut or shed f*** a 80 year old man when she's 20!

  • I don't understand why you're mother would be so hypocritical. She doesn't approve of you dating a younger man, but it's ok for her to sleep with one? You really need to talk to your mom and tell her to get her priorities straight. She is risking her relationship with her daughter. I don't know if I could forgive my mom if she slept with my ex-boyfriend.

    As for your 18 year-old ex-boyfriend. He is still young and very naive. He just got out of high school, (If not still in it!) and is confused. Men mature a lot later in life than women do. He's still just a kid. I wouldn't worry about him. Move on. Why not trying to date a guy in his 20's? That still young and exciting, right?

    • That's true. But just because someone is young doesn't mean they have the right to betray another. He knows right from wrong and should take responsibility for his actions.

    • And also there's nothing confusing about f***ing someones Mother. But I agree with you on the first half.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I am just shocked how you mother can do this ...one side is against your friendship with younger guys and other side she is sleeping and having a sex with guy who is just 18 years old...what I can understand is that guy is making a mistake by having sex with a so elder lady who is like her grand mother .For guy it seems to be easy way to have sex because young guys always looks for elder lady to have sex as they have more experience then the guys and they guide them well and guys enjoy it to because they feel great to have sex with a lady who have more experience of sex then a young guy.Have a word with your mother about this as soon as possible in comfortable manner ...because you already lost a friend now you are at the urge to lose a good relationship with your mom...so please take the things slowly and serious little forward and act as per the situation try to solve the problem by comfortable discussion with your mom ...if possible you and your mom both will cut off the relationship with this young 18 years chap because its you both are losers not he...in any case.

  • There's a variety of reasons your boyfriend may be sleeping with her. Off the top of my head: revenge toward you, for whatever reason he's justified; the "older woman" appeal, which baffles me, but I know a lot of guys have it; plus many guys will sleep with just about anyone willing. There may even be a novelty to it for some people, you never know.

    As for why your mom is sleeping with him, the reasons that pop into mind would be: As wanacot says, she may be lonely, or just has needs that need meeting. More likely in my mind, though, is that, perhaps in her mind, it would drive home to you the "ridiculous" nature of dating such younger guys, and put it into perspective, albeit, in a very rude and also vengeful way, how "inappropriate" dating younger guys is.

    My guess is that it is a combination, rather than contributed solely to one of these factors, if there is any merit to what I've said in relation to them.

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  • OMG! This sounds like a Jerry Springer Show!

    I think your mom owes you a bigger apology for being such a hypocrite!

  • When you broke up, did it end badly? Did he dump you or you dump him? Perhaps he's trying to get some revenge on you for the way the relationship ended.

    Why your mom did that? Who knows, ask her about it. Maybe she has been lonely since your father passed away.

    • He broke up with me so you kinda get the idea of what I'm thinking the reason was

  • I'm not sure that I believe this question..

    But assuming you're not a troll, I'd stay as far away from your mother and boyfriend as possible for the rest of your life. What you describe is an amazingly warped and hostile act by both of them.

    Run! And keep running!

    You could probably also benefit from some serious therapy. I don't mean pay-fifty-bucks-an-hour-to-complain therapy, either. I mean some serious therapy with a dedicated professional who'll get to the bottom of this ugly mess, and who won't accept any lame excuses from you. You've learned some bizarre and creepy behavior and your life will be better if you can a) recognize it and b) cut it out.

  • Well...this totally violates Levitical laws...

  • Some men just don't care!

  • disgusting!

  • 1. Why did he do her? What we like, we like.

    2. Why did she do him? See answer 1.

    After giving him total sh*t for being a blabbermouth ("Gentlemen don't kiss and tell, you d*ck.") I would let the matter rest. He's happy, she's happy, and rumor aside, it's not your business.

  • Dating an 18 year old- huh he is still a kid and immature so there is your answer.

  • And let me understand this... dating a guy that is young enough to be your SON didn't make you feel stupid.

    Hummmm...

  • ? weird and I believe someone could actually pull that off. so have you though about dating people ur age yet?

    he must of been very charismatic. and I dunno

  • Wow... that is... beyond awful.

  • Tell him you posted this online and made him the idol of about 300,000 men around the globe.

  • No offense to her, but I could not do it. For me, there's a limit.

  • This probably they most ridiculous thing ever posted on GirlsAskGuys.com...thanks to you now every time I meet a girls parents I'm going to think about the horrible things that happen in this world.

    I thought MILF was crazy, but dayum GILF is bringing it to a whole other level

  • if this is real then this dude is f***ing awesome!

    man, that would be so awesome. I always thought it would be great to f@ck a young girl and also her mom, but this guy added in another generation as well!

    and you probably all liked it too!

    props to this guy, he really played you guys.

    i'm surprised you aren't more p*ssed that he f@cked your daughter.

    • I simply have "bang all my sister-in-laws" on my list. about 50% done with that. But I definitely have to add that to my list.

  • That's weird the guy must be a sociopath to even make a list like that no less seriously pursue something as sick as that. What is wrong with your mother I don't know that's just beyond weird.

    • HEY!! I have a list sort of like that, I don't think I'm a sociopath.

    • Its just screwed up. alot. even if its like, a fantasy, its the grossest one.

    • It's pretty creepy at best.

  • sweety that's what you get for messing with a f***ing 18 year old (BOY) ! you and your mom and your daughter need therapy.

  • That's messed up! He must be a real sleezey guy..

  • First of all he's 18 years old. He hasn't even reached full maturity yet. This i such a sad story. How old is your daughter? Is she young enough to have him arrested? I'm 33 and would never date a man younger than 30. What were you thinking. He's still wet behind the ears. 18 is a kid!!! You, your mom, and your daughter should all go to family therapy. I'm serious. You all have some serious issues to work out. Best of luck if you do. And next time, date someone your own age or older, not a damn child!!!

  • You can ask her. Because the boy is not going to tell you the truth.

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