Angry sex..?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend says she wants 'angry' sex... what all does that entail? She's not being clear with me on what she's really asking for. I'm not going to beat around the bush here... my past partners haven't been all that 'exciting' sexually. I don't have the greatest collection of sexual moves in the proverbial bracket. I've always considered myself a sensual lover. If she's asking me to be angry... I'm not sure how I can do that without actually being angry... Is she just wanting me to be more aggressive? She refuses to provide examples (which I'm sure take the fun out of it for her... but if I'm going to learn... I need something to go off of, right? Do you have any suggestions?

[hisangel]

This might sound like a funny description but the point of angry sex is that if an argument breaks out the man is so manly and strong that his penis basically ended the argument by showing her who's boss and by giving her so much pleasure, she isn't going to be fighting with you anymore.

So with that in mind, angry sex can be hard for people who are "sensual". I assume you like touching and kissing and exploring in an open environment and having both people be freely open to the other.

The problem with angry sex, if you think more sensually, is that there is something a tiny bit demeaning about it. It entails a punishment of one person on some level. And I don't mean S&M kind of punishment. Cause S & M is usually done with both parties agreeing that one will submit and one will be dominant. With angry sex, there is an undertone that one person is taking the other whether they want it or not. The guy usually says things like "Do you like that?" or like alucurd said, can mock the woman with something like "Oh you aren't saying much now are you?" It sort of gives the man a sense of dominance that she doesn't have much say in it. It's not rape, it's agreed upon forcing on some level. Her saying "Show me what you got!" and him saying "I'm definitely going to show you!"

If you like the good feelings after sex, angry sex probably isn't for you. It can give you a really good orgasm but it can leave a little bit of a bad taste in your mouth cause what makes it so passionate is the lack of love in the moment. And was definitely not meant for sincerely bonding of 2 people. I am just saying this cause if you like "sensual" sex, it isn't going to give you the close feeling after sex. As a man, it will make you feel dominant over her. And not all men are comfortable with that feeling. Also, if you are a sensual guy, it ends arguments the exact opposite way you probably like. You might like to finish the argument and then make love to feel closer to her. Angry sex ends the argument by you forcing her to end it threw sex. Obviously, cause of some of the stuff some guys have seen in their life, they are really against doing that or feeling that way.

If all that sounds way out of the realm of what you want to do, you can try other things that give her the same feeling of you being in charge and passionate. Cause it seems like that really is what she wants. Sometimes making love, sometimes just f***ing. Try doggie style more maybe. And be a little more rough in that then normal. Would she like to be tied to the bed or blindfolded? That also will give her the same feelings of you being in charge that she is looking for. And it doesn't have to be super kinky. You can use one of your ties and burn candles to give you that sensuality and give her that feeling of you taking control.

[Anonymous]

Let me tell you right off the bat that angry sex cannot be taught nor requested, you have to have it in yourself to be able to deliver. You have to be born with a high aggressive libido. Or just be HELLA passionate about the person you are in love with, that works too! Angry sex is definitely a major turn on, for people with high libido like myself is almost the only way we want it. It is how Aries men LOVE IT! It's fast, straight up, bold, no-nonsense sex. It comes in the middle of a fight or even when a couple has broken up and one of them cannot forget and is angry (like my ex is trying to lure me in with a suggestion of angry sex, hihi). It's for energetic couples that are turned on by heated arguments, when the adrenaline jumps sky high and the mans nostrils are widening (I go CRAZY on this one). Ultimately, it is psychological, women like to be taken rough (no matter what they say!) and this kind of angry situation makes a perfect platform for a man to be totally into just banging the hell out of the chick. It IS the best!

[itssimplekeepitreal]

angry sex is frustrated sex. ummm best example non porn I can think of is the scene of mr and mrs smith where they throw each other around and make love.

she wants you to basically brutally consensually surprise sex her. like treat her a little rough. pound her a little, push and pin her down a little harder.

just think up a time when you got SO frustrated and p*ssed off at someone and channel that into having sex.

angry sex is rough sex.

[Alucard]

I love angry sex, but you can't ask for it has to be mood.

Be cocky and arrogant and tease her, when she bites and argues back get in her space. From there in mid sentence kiss/grab her, no foreplay/tenderness just mechanics, roughly drop skirt/jeans or whatever and bend her over (my preference) pull any flabby bits she may have and hold her using the wait of your body. Dirty talk her, call her ****, bitch whatever and mock her from what the argument was. Also try suddenly pulling out and changing position and use table, wall or whatever is around.

[enlightenment]

She wants you to be more aggressive. its a huge turn on to be just taken...like a guy is just using you to fulfill his fantasy. Grab her and throw her on the bed. Rip her clothes off, talk dirty. Tell her you want her and you are going to take her...Good Luck!