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- Make sure you keep your teeth covered with your lips! Unless you know for a fact that he likes a bit of pain (which is the minority) it's always best not to go there. Try not to angle yourself off center either, you might hit your back teeth by accident. This is what gives the trademark jaw-ache though, always keeping your lips in an O shape and keeping your teeth covered. Much easier if you've got bigger lips, but you can do it with small lips just as well. If you find your jaw starting to ache, stop for a while and just lick or tease with your fingers. Take a second to talk if you want (though not about what you want for dinner or what you're doing at the weekend! Keep it to the subject at hand!) or just lick around the tip and up and down the shaft.
- NEVER deepthroat, not on your first try. That's something that takes practice. You can teach yourself by gradually increasing your resistance, but it's usually best to try that by yourself with a toy or something. As a general rule, unless you naturally have no gag reflex or have been bulimic and lost it, don't go there. Not fun for you. This is why it helps to keep yourself in a position of control, lest he get carried away and thrust (ie face-f***) a little too hard.
- Use your hands too, especially if you don't want to take him too deep. Keep your hand around the base and move up and down in time with your mouth. Your hand should stay lubed too.
- Remember the tip is the most sensitive part. This can work to your advantage or not - don't be too rough with it and always make sure its most lubed up, but you should do good if you occasionally give it some extra attention.
- Make eye contact if you can - men are strangely visual creatures, much more so than us girls. Most easily done when taking a break from the jaw ache and licking or touching.
- If you do decide to let him come in your mouth (again, not so much recommended for your first try, you might want to sneak in a little lick of it on the sly - if you don't like the taste he doesn't have to know, and if you're okay with it you know for next time) like Cartiphilus said, better to swallow than to spit. Stop moving your mouth and let him relax for a few seconds. You'll probably have him a little dazed by then. No comments or questions needed ;)
If you want to know what exactly to do more of for next time, just ask what his favourite part was. Et voila!
Having said all that, this is your 'best best guy friend'... maybe this is a little different for me seeing as my best guy friend is gay, but remember getting sexually involved with a friend can make things awkward sometimes. Just make sure you know what you're doing.
So uh... yea this should get a best response thing haha
I'm flattered ;)
The only thing to add is do not be afraid to touch yourself too. I know it sounds odd, but the more your enjoying the whole experience the more he will. If you can actually orgasm with him in your mouth ... that just adds a lot!
Right, I may not be a guy so I don't know how it feels on his end, but I can tell you a couple of things that I've been complimented on and the odd tip for how to make it less awkward for you.
First up, you have to pick a position. Here's your main options:
1) he's lying on his back on the bed or whatever and you're on all fours above him. Here it makes it easy to make out for a while and trail kisses down his torso to tease him a bit. Also you get more control about how deep you take him, how fast you go, all that kind of stuff. But you might find your arms get tired from holding yourself up!
2) he's kneeling and you're on all fours in front of him. Great if he's a dominant kind of guy, but slightly less control on your part as he can thrust a little. Also somewhere your ams might get tired, but you can kneel instead which will probably help. And if he's an ass guy and you're leaning forward, he gets a view ;)
3) he's standing and you're kneeling in front of him. Also great if he's the dominant type, but you have the least control here cause he can thrust that little bit more. No tired arms though, and you're free to use both hands. If you've got strong thighs and are good at crouching slowly you can still trail kisses down his chest etc.
Once you've picked your place, you can get to work. Major stuff to consider:
- Tell him if you don't want him to come in your mouth. Semen isn't the nicest taste in the world, and some guys taste worse than others. They say fruit gives it a sweet taste so you can probably get an estimate if you know how much fruit he likes to eat. You can get out of this easily by getting him to tell you when he's about to come so that you can finish with your hands, and when you get used to it you can suck til the last minute and immediately take yourself away when you know he's about to. You can get out of it pretty easily at this point by either leaning in for him to come on your face (though that's kinda 'dirty' and I get that you might not want to do that) or leaning forward a bit for him to come on your chest, which you don't even have to see and is easy enough to clean up.
- Lick your lips first. Look at him while you do it and he might get a kick out of watching you do it. But dry friction is never good - you may well know this from having sex when you're not sufficiently lubed up. Same goes for guys. You can always get flavoured lubes as well if you want to try that. If you find you like the taste, you might enjoy it that little bit more!
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I have never see so much advice on how to give a good blow job.........where is the same amount of how to perform cunnilingus ?? LOL
Lol, I'd write one but I've never done that to a girl =P plus I haven't seen a question on it!
I will tell you what works for me and my husband, but each person has to find their own ground to track over. get it?
I start by caressing him through his pants...teasing him until he takes off a few layers...then I lick my hand and trace my fingers around his head and down the bottom of his shaft. I gently kiss the head of his penis, and stroke the shaft with my palm, squeezing very SLIGHTLY...not too hard. I like to change up the angle and lick and suck from under his penis, if he is standing this is easy, if he is laying (which some guys need to do) sit between his legs.
I slowly slide him into my mouth as far as I can (comfort is important for you to make him enjoy it more) I press with my tongue as tho I am swallowing like water or some form of liquid, the motion your tongue makes when you swallow will set him off, it puts pressure on the vein that controls the testicles, and what makes his erection hard. (read tickle his pickle, a book you can find in borders, barnes and noble, or pureromance.com) slide up and down on his shaft, running your tongue around in circles at the head when you come up. as he is getting ready to cum, slightly tighten your grip on his shaft, and put him as deep as you can go, this will prevent over stimulation from him, and the taste from him in your mouth. stay on him as he cums, letting him get it all out, you can gently do the swallowing motion to work the last of it out. give him a few last licks to clean it all up and smile, let his decide if he wants to kiss you after...keep a small glass of water near by to re-wet your lips...dont think of it as "cleaning out your mouth" because from my experience it will make a guy self-conscious... also, your mouth will feel sticky and dry, so a bit of water will make the rest of the experience a bit sweeter... Some guys also like to have their balls massaged gently while you give them head, this sets my hubby off... From the basics, you have to find what works for them, read their body language, and just because he is not moaning or making a lot of noise does NOT mean he isn't enjoying it...some guys are just quite.
Hope this helps... and Have fun (if you end up gagging, there are products that temporarily suppress your gag reflex...they are sometimes fun.
Hey, I'll give you a few tips.
1. First you need to get him turned on - be more aggressive, grab his stuff, slowly massage his balls through his pants, it's important that you act as seductive as possible - the more you're turned on - the more he'll be turned on. Pull his pants down slowly and act as naughty as possible - this is a great turn on.
2. Grab his hand and lick on his fingers slowly before you give him head - just put his middle finger slowly into your mouth and suck on it, up and down, slide it slowly and moan - you have to moan a lot so he feels like a king.
3. As you're licking one finger, slowly start stroking his shaft (penis) with your other hand, you have to be on your knees and he should be standing, look him in the eyes - this way you can see his reactions. You need to love giving him head if you want him to really enjoy it.
4. Most girls make the mistake of being too soft - don't do that, grab his penis tightly and stroke it hard, as you're twisting his shaft with one hand slowly start sucking on the head (the tip) of his penis, curl your tongue around it, twist it in circles, then point it upwards and slowly lick it while you're watching him.
5. Say something like "mmmmm I love it" then smile, smiling is very important - it conveys that you love it. Keep on stroking and sucking harder.
6. Start talking dirty to him, put your hands around his balls and tickle them gently - make sure you are gentle 'cause his balls are very sensitive, as you're tickling, keep on stroking and sucking.
7. Once you see that he's getting closer start stroking harder - and don't even think about slowing down. Scream at him, tell him you want it - tell him where you want it (swallowing will make him go crazy just as you want it) - then as he starts to come, you have 2 options - you can hold his penis or he can hold it - I suggest you let him hold it and squeeze it out.
8. Then hold his penis and stroke it slowly, just as if you were trying to squeeze every last drop out of him into your mouth, give it a few more finishing licks.
9. Then smile at him, open your mouth and show him what you've got in your mouth, smile, then swallow all of it - then look up at him again and open your mouth to show him it's gone.
10. Smile again, believe me he'll love you for it.
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Lol wow that was like.." giving head 101" lol good job, this should really help her out. but yah I no guys like it when you make eye contact while doing it, and when you smile and make sure you USE YOUR TONGUE a lot !
Yeah, this is awesome. ima have my girlfriend read this.....
Lolz... no kidding... "giving head 101" hahaha.
No teeth, please! No teeth. Teeth bad. Teeth not sexy. :)
Periodic eye-contact is nice, but it's fine to be focused on what you're doing -- he certainly will be. You don't have to go the porn-star route of leering at him the whole time. Unless he likes that!
You might want to give him a hand job as a step in that direction, to prepare by getting an idea of the force/amount/taste of his cum. If you're inexperienced, it might not be optimal to find all of that out for the first time when it suddenly happens in your mouth. Just lie him down, lube him up, and let him come on his own belly. (Oh BTW, nails bad! :) )
Softly running your fingertips over the skin of his scrotum at the same time is very nice. Just barely graze it. Drives me crazy, anyway!
There's really no need to say anything. If you're making out, and start undoing things and working your way down there, he'll probably figure out what's going on without too much trouble... :) Some eye contact as you head south will be all the communication you need.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!You could probably Google this, Sweetie. But let me share a few tips. No need to talk. NOt required. If you're on your knees, he's sitting on a chair - or a couch. Ok.. Start kissing him and work your way downto his belt. Get him worked up by a hot make out session. Undo his belt and slide his pants off. SLOWLY. Remember the tip is the MOST sensitive part - as are his testicles. ( Do not ignore them. LIghtly licking them is great for a guy) GO SLOW and increase your speed... Do not grab him like a tennis racket and whack hard.. Firm pressure is good and always flow with your movements. Do not be jerky - If you change your rythym - from fast/slow/fast - that is annoying and breaks the mood. Lick the shaft -- V E R Y slow... up/down - around - anywhere you want and touch the tip SPARINGLY to keep him really excited - touching it with your fingers ( lightly) or the palm of your hand. When you DO put your mouth on this and going up/down- start S L O W... Increase speed and keep it up ( remembering to include LICKING as well as SUCKING all over... until he pops. It will get harder and harder - the testicles get very tight - and if you're doing it right - this guy will be moaning with pleasure.. TAKE YOUR TIME and GO SLOW to build him up... If you just start sucking away like a vaccum - that is a huge bore. Licking drives them nuts. HAVE FUN
1) I'd say type in the question on web searches for google or some such engine...believe it our not there are actual instructions out there.
2) you could type in "free gay porn" and watch men doing it to another man...sounds weird I know but it's very enlightening in terms of what a man likes...and they aren't all hung up about how they look while giving it...
3) You asked...sorry.
Don't worry you answer was honest and smartly put.
Having a tight grip on his penis with your mouth (no biting!) and with our hand and at the base helps also. The tip of the penis is very similar to a clitoris, so you would want to give that a lot of attention. Jerking him off while sucking and licking the tip is very stimulating, so you might want to give that a shot. I hope this helps a little bit. Good luck!
Go to f***tube.com or tube8.com you will see tonnes of videos of how it is done, if you go to YOUTUBE you can easily find several instruction videos.
watch porn lol
Be enthusiastic, like you love his penis and want to make love to it with your mouth...
Don't just suck...change up the speed a bit, take it out of your mouth and lick and kiss other areas, including the balls...just be gentle, yet firm.
It should not feel awkward.
Say what you feel...examples...Do you like when I lick it...I like it...It tastes good...you are really hard...its so big! I can't wait for your cum...I want to taste it----all good examples.
When he is going to finish, ask him if he wants to come in your mouth or on your face or your breasts or butt. All of these can be very sexy and stimulating for him, as long as you are eager and willing.
If you want to delve deeper and do some research, try a guide. A friend of mine told me about this site that offers a step by step guide to giving the best oral sex to your guy. You can check it out here: link It is well worth it. I had no idea there were so many things you could do to give your guy the best oral of his life!
Most importantly, have fun and don't take it too seriously or worry about anything, it will be fun for him to have his penis in your mouth...pretty hard to mess that up. And make sure he returns the favor!
Quote: "I need step by step. Details." --but-- Quote: "Nothing too kinky and sexual." ? Which is it? I'm a pro at giving head. It's my all time favorite thing to do sexually. I could give you tons of good tips but you'd really want to hear all the "kinky" and "sexual" bits. It is a sexual act after all.
Secondly: I really think you're off to a bad start by worrying so much about the step-by-step details. There is no secret mystery knowledge to it. It's all common sense and instinct for the most part. You will only ever become great at it (or anything else) by (A) Loving doing it. (B) Practice doing it. The more you love it and the more you practice it, the more of a true master you will eventually become. There is NOTHING that you can learn from someone's tips here that you won't figure out on your own. If you rely on only other people's advice then you will never really figure it our for yourself and, at best, you will be stuck as one of those unhappy sexual dilettantes who just doesn't quite get it because they never "let go" and be themselves.
How-to:
I - Artistic Tips: None! You really have to do what you like. Try different things. Watch porn for ideas. Ask your lover what he likes. Practice practice practice. Love doing it or don't do it at all. Remember that it is the journey NOT the end that matters (for both of you) so don't rush it.
II - Technical Tips: No teeth. Don't actually suck--at least not too much or too hard (just because it is often called "sucking c--k" doesn't mean that's what you do). The larger back side of the head or cap of the penis is VERY sensitive so try not to stimulate it too much and try to avoid rubbing your rough tongue over it unless your guy likes that (most men don't). Do not pull (stroke) too hard with your hand if it is dry, at least not repetitively--lubricate it with your saliva first ( a wet sloppy blow job is generally better all around for both of you). If you're doing something he likes and you DO want him to come, then don't stop or break the rhythm (if you do then it will only be very frustrating for you both). Only stop techniques and change it up when you want to tease and make it last longer. Obviously be careful around the balls but don't feel that you have to avoid this area (it can add an amazing and pleasurable level to a blow job when you gently suck, rub or fondle the balls during your performance). Discuss with him FIRST where and how it is okay for him to come (this will avoid trauma and embarrassment for you both. If you don't mind or are willing to let him come in your mouth then you should tell him first. And you could even tell him right before which would be rather erotic since "dirty-talk" is very sexy and arousing).
III - Highly recommended study aids: Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Oral Sex, Part 2: Fellatio (as with all her videos and books, this is very entertaining and very informative. You can buy the video online easily with a google search). Buy it! Enjoy!
Well, once again, Nike has topped everybody on the advice scale...........Common sense has always been the bye word. When you really think about it, I don't know why women need much coaching about a penis, it's right there, nothing hidden or obscured, or not out of sight or grasp ? Performing Cunniliingus is more difficult for a man to do, and I get the impression that very few know their butt from third base about it. Another woman on this site gave a very graphic view of what she likes.
My god, you are a very sexy woman.
I will tell you how I do it...if you don't like the taste take a small piece of candy and put it in your mouth (store it in your cheeks gum works too) I always position myself to where my tongue is under the head of his **** (under the head of the **** is the most sensitive area) I lick alll over the head of his d*** and slide it down my throat to get lots of spit on it..you need spit can't give a dry blow job that's like licking his **** with sand paper... then you go up and down on the head of his **** flickering your tongue (under the head) after a few strokes up and down slide his **** all the way down your throat...don't forget to be sucking while your doing all of this... I do not use my hands while giving a blow job as a blow job is a blow job and a hand job is a hand job but I do play with his balls gently caressing them(not hard very gently do not be rough on his balls) t truly takes talent to give a good blow job...you need to remember keep sucking keep licking and keep stroking...men get off due to stimulation so as long as you do a combination of all those you will be successful..and if your not into him cumming in your mouth when he is ready to come then let him come on your neck and t*ts or in your face...if your going to let him come into your mouth make sure he tells you when he is going to come then put your tongue over the head of his **** or far enough down your throat so that it doesn't shoot up your nose too then be a lady and swallow and lick his **** clean...I personally don't use hands(but some men may like it and tell you to) also your going to have to open your mouth as wide as his **** and make sure you cover your teeth so that you don't scratch him and don't go up and down slowly get into it while your going up and down swirl your tongue around the head and most men find it very sexy if you look up at him with your bedroom eyes while your sucking his cock...and whatever you do no matter how tired your mouth gets DO NOT STOP this will totally mess it up and you will be starting all over suck it up and deal with it and soon enough he will be creaming all in your mouth!
+1 about not using your hands due to it being a blowjob not a handjob. A handjob with "mouth assist" (while fun!) is nowhere near as fun as an actual blowjob!
Google 'Good Blow Job Howto'. Ther's a whole lot of information there.
Ted
Um, guy FRIEND? Not a good idea. Such an intimate act should be saved for a committed relationship! But it's your choice. Don't rush into this. Make sure the both of you are free of any std's, and use protection. Even if you're not technically having sex, better to be safe than sorry. And I found being in bed is an easier, more neutral setting. being on your knees is so impersonal, and you don't get the connection that you should have with the guy. But since you're not even dating, I guess that really won't be an option. I still don't suggest it...
Think of it as a lollipop of sorts. Never use your teeth, vary speeds of suction, and be careful not to go too deep ( you may begin gagging, depending on your reflexes). Breathe through your nose! It WILL be awkward the first few times... and that's normal. Start slow, and build from there. Switch things up depending on what he's doing and saying. It may take time to actually get him to finish (you don't have to the first time). You may get worn out. And when it's done, you have the important decision of whether to spit it out, or swallow. Sorry, but I don't like the taste of warm detergent, so I spit (If you choose not to use a condom). But it's up to you.
But this is very important- if a man ever forces your head down during the event, stop. It's disrespectful and can make you gag.
It sounds silly, but if you're really worried, practice on a hot dog or a peeled banana first. That way you're at least used to the need to possibly gag.
Anyone else feel really gross for actually posting advice on this? I feel so nasty!
The guy is pretty correct, but start by kissing, kissing down his chest, hips and smoothly undo his belt or whatever, create the mood, and completely take control :)
Google it! seriously almost any problem you'll ever have, some one else will already have had and posted it on some site - and people will have already answered.
focus you mouth around the head, moving your tongue around it in circles. use your hand on the shaft the whole time. start slow and slowly get faster then slow down, then speed up (continue till he's done). if your going to try and deep throat keep it all in for as long as you can, its all about the warmth and wetness of it all being inside. use a little bit of teeth to see if he likes it, if he does then keep doing it but if not then stop using teeth straight away. when he is done or near done he should let you know, but if your up to it, after he tells you he's near, just go faster and suck harder until he cums in your mouth then swallow(not all girls are up for that and no guy expects you to be, but if you do it for him it is such a turn on and you will bring him to his knees)
people say go with instinct because they're not there to write you an instruction manual to do something that you probably have an idea how to do. best best guy friend eh? more like fwb
If you want to give a BJ to your best best guy friend, who cares what it's like? Use him as a guinea pig to gain experience for when you are with your boyfriend or someone special.
sometimes a guy likes it when he stands and you are on your knees. makes him feel like he is in control of the situation. no talking during BJs unless you say "do you like that?" or "does that feel good?" remember no teeth! unless the guy tells you he likes light touching of the teeth. Make sure you don't neglect his balls. I love it when my Girlfriend gives head and massages my balls with her hand. another smooth move is when you suck on the guys balls and stroke his penis. Hope this helps you.
Now here's one I can answer. lol. I was in the same boat you were about three years ago. I was so scared that I wouldn't do it right. I only have one big piece of advice. "WATCH PORN" I know it sounds stupid, but just hear me out.
I use to watch porn and then the next day, try out what I learned on my man. with experience, you'll learn what each guy likes more and how to satisfy them. I got drunk this past year at a party and gave my man a bj in front of everyone. To this day, all my guy friends tell me how amazing I am at blow jobs. My man tells everyone that I "ROCK". At least 5 of my girlfriends want me to make a video so that they can learn how to give one.
I am gonna stand with a little pride and say yes. I can give a great blowjob. But it wasn't always that way. It comes with watching porn and putting what you learn into experience.
(Just be careful not to get drunk, because you'll end up like me and the cat will be out of the bed so to speak lol)
Great answers so far!
As always, open communication between partners about what works for them is the best way to get the most out of the experience. For most guys, any attention down there should be well received! Above all, do it like you love it and it turns you on! It is a spoiler when she is not into it.
Here are some good write ups:
about.com link
sexinfo101 link and link
Also useful:
handjobadvice.com link
You can practice not gagging with a cola bottle, make sure you can breath through your nose!
make sure he is clean... fresh out of a shower is always best! -
also sti's if you have a cold sore use a condom. make sure he's tested, or use a condom, guys will complain , but remember No Glove=No Love!
As for the bj it'self , the head of the penis is always the most sensitive, mix it up treat it like an ice cream, draw your tongue around the edge and flick up the middle. move your tongue in side to side motions and dab.
All guys like to see a girl take it deep but you can fake this. keep eye contact, and do a little hand job too, (give your self a rest and wank him for a bit, to find out rhythm and pace, ask the guy to show you... all guys like it differently! so mix it up and ask him if he like this, or this ... or this more!) keep you hand around the base of his penis and this shortening the amount visible to him for you to take, you may still gag a bit but guys seem to like this!?
Just remember it's all in the eye contact, behave like your enjoying yourself, moan that you love his **** and it tastes so good, and that it's too big for you, ect ect ect... he'll get off more on how you act that just the sensation it's self! you can try putting his balls in your mouth, humming sometimes works, guy's will either love this or hate it!
well any questions just ask.. good luck
Just one more thing ... make sure this guy is worth it, that you actually love him.
Something girls wildly underestimate: looking a guy in his eyes and asking him what he wants sexually--for example, "So, how do you like your blowjobs?"--is really damn sexy.
It's also better than mind reading, or asking strangers (whose tastes will differ wildly from your boyfriend).
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