My boyfriend wants to have a threesome with a virgin; why is that right , normal?

[Anonymous]

Well basically I meat this girl became a friend very nice invited her over to chill you know and ever since my boyfriend been talking about having a threesome with her since she mentioned she was a virgin over 18 also which I was also surprised. But I can't except the fact he thought about that he says to me I loves me obviously and geesh she's not even cute I mean he says to but I know its just cause she's a virgin but is that a fantasy for 23 year old guys ? I don't understand its like using her I mean its not right and he doesn't understand that I don't really like it and appreciate it ... I feel like leaving him its been 3 years now so help me please understand

[AlanHB]

I understand why you don't like it. You think he wants to have sex with other women, and this means that he doesn't like having sex with just you anymore. It wouldn't matter whether she is a virgin or not, it's just someone else.

I don't know why he's got the hangup about this specific virgin girl. I know there's a popular porno with this exact plot - I always thought it was a bit weird that a person would loose their virginity in a threesome :D

I think you should explain to him that you don't want him to have sex with someone else, and that is why you are against the threesome idea.

[l-hedoniste]

If she wants to lose her virginity in a threesome, that's entirely her affair. You don't get to run her sex life any more than she gets to run yours.

And are you sure it's just because she's a virgin? Maybe he was looking for a threesome and she showed up. (Note to everybody: if there's even a chance of sex outside the relationship, discuss it EARLY, discuss it THOROUGHLY, before the willing third comes along. At that point, it's too late.)

You're free not to like it. You're free to say so. You're free to stay, and you're free to go.

[ALWAYSclassy]

I think a lot of times some guys will suggest a threesome just as an excuse to have sex with another girl. I think that may be what your boyfriend is doing. From what I get from the question, this threesome interest popped up only after she said she was a virgin, am I right? Not to mention the fact, it is probably not the most emotionally healthy thing for a girl to lose her virginity in a threesome. He sounds like an inconsiderate jerk. It's been 3 years and he does something like this? At least you see him for what he is now.

[Anonymous]

Explain to your boyfriend that you are not feeling the idea of the three some, and if he loves you he should understand...Or he is just out to please himself...Good luck

[authentic]

You got the part about his intention of using her, as if she is a sex medal (i.e. dead object) right. But are you aware your boyfriend is also USING you, to get you to convince girl, or at least, if she objects, he can say, "She consent too"? He is a manipulator. Some would choose the term "low life" to describe such people. Run.

Figure out what kind of guy you want with this experience. Stick to your answers, make no compromises.

[armyant]

He just wants to pop a cherry.

[Littletad]

Your boyfriends an idiot. Leave the girl alone and tell her the truth, otherwise your just as filthy as he is. He's manipulating you into thinking it's an "okay" fantasy. When in reality, he just wants to sleep with someone else other than you. Much more so, a virgin. Your boyfriend is a d***.

[Ceesa]

OMG ! OMG! If my Boyfriend ever mentioned having sex with another girl I'd break-up imidiatly