Suggesting We Use Lube...Guys what do you think? Girls have you ever experienced this?

Lately I have noticed that I do not produce enough natural lubrication during sex. I think sometimes it is due to not enough foreplay, but I think it has a lot more to do with my birth control pills! The other morning my fiancé and I wanted to have a quickie before leaving for work...everything felt fine (as in no pain), but when we finished we realized I was bleeding! I had a tear on the outer skin of my vagina, and it was bleeding pretty good! I did some research and found out that a side effect of my because pills is vaginal dryness, and dryness can cause tearing! I have thought about trying a personal lubricant, like ky, but I'm not sure how to discuss this with him. I am not very good at talking about sex...even if it is with the man I am going to marry. I don't think it would bother him or anything...but how should I approach him with this? Guys do you have any suggestions...ever been in this situation? Girls have you ever experienced something like this?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • It happened to me too, about a month after I started taking the pill my natural lubrication wasn't adequate for sex. I was still lubricating, but my secretions were more like pee wet rather than having lubricating properties. Not only did I notice it, it made intercourse for my partners a little bit uncomfortable.

    I use AstroGlide, and it helps immensely. Either I massage a small amount on the head of his penis, or he puts some on his fingers to lubricate the opening. It doesn't take much.

    Your partner is going to understand. My partners tell me it makes sense more enjoyable for them as well.

    Good luck :-)

  • do it like this... 'honey I saw this commercial on tv about these personal lubricants and I thought that would be fun to try. its supposed 2 enhance pleasure 4 both partners' with a dirty smile lol

    or say... 'my friend so and so gave me this and she said we just have got 2 try it'

    or you could ask him 2 go down on u

    or just put it on yourself b4 you come 2 bed.

    or if he is asking 4 a quickie say 'id love a quickie but I'll come faster with a little extra moisture'

  • I've never been able to produce enough natural lubrication on my own. So right before we have sex, we use saliva. He'll either go down on me, or lick his fingers and finger me for awhile, and it hasn't hurt since we've been using these little tricks. try these and if they don't work, then try to get the courage up to talk to him about using lube.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Discuss? Just get the lube. If he asks why, say "I get dry."

    For me, this isn't conversation-grade--this is housekeeping. It's like condoms: I buy, I use, but I don't discuss unless asked.

  • Some doctors are not good about telling a patient about side-affects of drugs. You should have been told this could possibly happen to you.

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  • I had this problem due to my birth control pill also. Just talk to your guy about it. Make sure he knows that it has nothing to do with him and that it is because of the pills. I use lube all the time and I have not had a guy have problem with it. Just let him know what's going on with you. I am sure that he likes having sex and would like to continue without hurting you so he should be open to the suggestion.

  • It wouldn't bother him, especially after what happened.

  • -not at ease where it concerns sex ("I am not very good at talking about sex...even if it is with the man I am going to marry. ")

    -not enough foreplay

    -birth control pills

    -a quickie

    Four factors: if they occur together the risk of dryness will be greater: "Lately I have noticed that I do not produce enough natural lubrication during sex. "

    Do I really need to tell you what to do?

  • We use a little lube probably 80% of the time. Nothing wrong with that!