How do I "punish" my girlfriend during sex?

My girlfriend and I have been having sex and she said she wants to role play as master and slave and she wants me to make her do stuff and when she refuses punish her. what kinda stuff can I make her do? and how can I "punish" her when she refuses?

 

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  • I had a boyfriend who was great at this. My first tip is act calm and speak deeply and slowly. This seems more authoritative and less creepy/weird.

    My second tip is, make up transgressions. For example, my ex would say stuff like, "I was disappointed that you didn't answer your phone today. Do you think that is acceptable behavior?" And so on.

    To "punish" her, I bet she would enjoy it if you put her over your knee. Or made her do certain things for you... You can tie up her hands with a tshirt or something...

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What Girls Said 4

  • 3mo

    **Have a safe word
    Put her over your knee and spank her
    Lightly hit her pussy
    Have her drink a lot of liquids and tell her not pee for a while if she does spank her or punish her

  • Don't follow any of Elchief's advice!

  • Cuff her, blindfold her, and gag her (bonus points for gagging her with her own panties after making them damp with her own juices). Learn how to tell how close to orgasm she is and play with her till she's about to orgasm and stop. Keep her close to orgasm for a really long time and when you feel the time is right, reward her with the orgasm. That's how my boyfriend punishes me..though I'm too much of a panzy for him to actually incorporate pain into it.

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What Guys Said 3

  • When ever engaging in these kinds of activities, it is wise to negotiate a contract first that will outline expectations, limits, and most importantly a safe word. spanking, tying and "forced" acts are some of the things you can try. but it's something that is difficult to tell another person "how to". You need to explore and experience on your own. Know this In reality the bottom (slave), is the one in control.

    Because if it is arranged properly by outlining a contract of what is desired and expected by both parties and establishing a safe word, the bottom has given explicit direction of what is expected, and can stop game play at any time by using the safe word.

    In contrast the bottom has surrendered all sexual control to the Top (Master/Mistress), this can be a very powerful aphrodisiac for them and can lead to some very creative sex play.

    The primary issue here is the safe word, it must be a clear word that would not come up in regular activities ie: Pink, Timeout, Thursday, or what ever seems appropriate.

    Then if the bottom utters this word all play must stop immediately and the issue must be resolved before you may continue. It may be something simple like a restraint is to tight, or it may be something more serious like bringing up child hood trauma.

    Either way be patient with yourself and your playmate, this kind of play can be very intense for both parties and should be taken slowly at first, have a sense of humor about it, and realize we may fall down a few times before we learn to walk.

    This may interfere with your fantasy at first but is a necessary evil to establish trust between the two parties, and with time you will both learn what your limits are so that you can send your bottom into sub-space, and experience the rush of controlling another persons sexuality.

    I think I went easy on there and not as rough as Elchief.

  • you can slap her face gently (with her permission)

    slap her with your penis

    pull her hair

    smack her ass hard

    slam her face against the mattress (the soft middle part! not the corner!)

    skull f*** her

    put it in the poopen shaft

    • 3mo

      All this, but make sure you have a safe word.

  • You could always slam her head off the bed frame or something. Pay back for her guilting you into going to see Twilight during an NHL game on tv.

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