Is being a virgin a bad thing?

OK I know it's not bad but, sometimes I feel left out or like the last one on earth because it seems everyone around has had sex. Every time I talk or go out with a girl an we talk about sex they'll usually ask me if I'm one. When I say yeah I am I feel kinda bad because they don't believe me at first. Another one of my problems is that I don't want to lose my virginity with someone that isn't a virgin. I want it to be romantic and special ya' know? Do girls choose virgins over the jock or popular guy that isn't one? last but not least how many girls my age are actually virgins? lol

Updates: being a virgin more a turn-on or turnoff to girls?


Most Helpful Girl

  • I'm not a virgin just want to give you some advice. I think it is so sweet that you want to wait and not just some horny teenager trying to get laid. Don't feel bad that when a girl asks you if you are a virgin, because that is a part of who you are if they don't believe you then that is something that they have to deal with. You know your intentions and what you want as far as wanting someone who is a virgin as well. I think that girls that are like you, that want to wait, to share the experience together would ofcourse prefer a virgin over a popular guy but someone who is experienced would want someone who is the same. I would wait untill I find the special girl,I would'nt act out of hornones because you might regret it one day. There are so many girls out there wishing they knew you.

    • Thanks you just made me feel a little warm inside. =D

    • You are very welcome, I'm happy I could make you feel that way.

What Girls Said 6

  • Holy cow! No way is it a bad thing to be a virgin! I lost mine at 16, and now really really REALLY wish I would have waited until I got married like I had really intended in the first place. First, I know that at 16, it's hard to not think about sex & what all of your friends are or aren't doing, but the "jocks" and the "popular" guys are usually a dime a dozen, and honey, let me tell you, if a girl walks out and decides to not date you just because you are a virgin, that's her loss, not yours. My recommendation - let her walk away...she doesn't deserve you, and DON'T feel bad because they don't believe you...this society has come to be a very sexually charged society, so it's hard to find men & women that aren't virgins anymore and probably haven't been for some chin up and keep lookin' for the girl who will respect for you for your decisions and choices. Don't waste it. It's not worth it. =) Hope this helps!

  • No way, it's not a bad thing. Of course sex is what everyone talks about in high school and of course you'll feel left out when you're one of the only virgins around, but don't ever assume girls think of that as a turn-off. It's a turn-on if anything. Girls aren't like guys- they don't just want sex, they want love and attention too, and if a guy is willing to wait and give up his virginity for them that's like the biggest compliment.

  • Are you kidding me?! Don't be down because you've never done it with anyone. It just proves that you're a really sweet guy and you want ur teenage years to be at their best. You're pretty much keeping a promise to yourself. Most girls are looking for those qualities, you know.

    Oh man. It just puts a huge smile on my face knowing that least some guys in this world care. Haha ;D

    Oh and yeah. I'm 16, a virgin and PROUD of it. Lol. Ur not alone :P

    • Haha TY SO MUCH!!!! you just made my day.

  • It is a good thing. And I think it is a turn on.

  • You are only 16. Even if you were 19 it would be OK to be a virgin. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age.

    I don't know if girls care that much about whether a guy is a virgin when they choose to have sex with a guy. I would not worry if I were you. There are plenty of girls out there who think sex is special too. You just need to meet them. Maybe you need to broaden your social activities? Join a club or something to meet different girls.

    • I'll take that into consideration thanks

What Guys Said 3

  • Don't worry man, the average age for guys loosing their virginity is either 17 or 18. That's great you think of it as a "special thing", but if you want to loose it to a girl in high school because girls who are virgins become less and less as you get older, especially after you finish.

  • 1. why are they asking you if you are a virgin? are you giving off virgin vibes?

    2. I was a virgin til I was 19. I'm 34 now, and have slept with almost 100 women, including models, stewardesses, and actresses. Another friend of mine waited til he was 25 I think. Doesn't matter.

    3. It's ok to be a virgin if you have the ability to NOT be one. ie, if you have women that want to sleep with you. If it's your only choice, then you will be mocked.

    4. you need to learn Game. Check out Neil Strauss, Mystery Method, David DeAngelo, and Doc Love. (last 2 are on

    5. Try to get better at sports (violent team sports are best), and try to get in a rock band.

    • Lol I get looks from the girlies in school all the time, especially the volleyball team when they see me in the gym lifting wieghts.

    • Aha! I thought it was another Seduction Community member :D

      Mystery Method is on it's way out I believe, but it's a good way to identify specific flaws in your game.

  • Just make sure you lose it with some1 you deeply want to be with because ur giving them you an you don't want to b hurt in the long run! And its good ur still a virgin don't rush it but chose your mate wisely!