Girls, Trying to find answers, Worried about my size, Is 8.5 inches too large?

[SuperK]

Hello! Ok so a little about myself: I'm 18, 135 pounds, athletic build, white, from the USA, 5'9 and about to go into college in 3 months. I have never had sex before and I'm worried about my first time. Hearing a lot of talk about my size being big from guys in the locker room, I decided to measure myself when I got home and it came to over 8 inches long but less than 9. I didn't really think anything of it until I was reading on the internet that 6 is the average and 8 inches was rare or very large. Reading more about it, I saw that most women can't take it that big because it pushes too far into them and can hurt, possibly even cause them to bleed. I am interested in women with an athletic build that are smaller than me so you can see where this might be a problem. I am worried that when I am planning on having sex with my (future) girlfriend or wife and she sees that I am larger than she might be able to take, that she will be hesitant from having sex, anal sex and/or oral sex. I am really a nice guy and know that I would have to take things slow until she is comfortable. I don't want my size to ruin our relationship or sex for both of us. So I'm just curious, what is the perfect size for you or if you are a virgin also, would you give it a try if you were in that situation or do u think 8.5 is too large? Do you have any advise or do you think everything will go ok and shouldn't be to much of an issue? Thank you girls! :)

[Zoe33]

Don't worry I'm pretty sure you can get that sucker all the way in 😄. I don't think your size could ever ruin a relationship because it's actually something women tend to like. Just remember when the time is right to be gentle and everything should turn out alright. Good Luck!

[Jinenni]

When it comes to sex, what actuaIIy matters to women is that you make them feeI good (among other things, Iike respecting good erection and abiIity to Iast Ionger in bed 😊 (we got help for these just by googling for ‘VCGET4ED’ 👍). Hope this helps.

[Stacyzee]

I've taken that size before so it's not too big for me.
But for girls who are not used to that... they may be scared because of your size.
All I can advise you to do is use plenty of lube , and go slow in the beginning to make her relax and gain comfort.

[Jinenni]

When it comes to sex, what actuaIIy matters to women is that you make them feeI good (among other things, Iike respecting good erection and abiIity to Iast Ionger in bed 😊 (we got help for these just by googling for ‘VCGET4ED’ 👍). Hope this helps.

[Goldie757]

Just remember shallow thrusts.

[MissNaila]

in my opinion 8.5 is big and painful to take, but it sure is a sight to see

[COCOCHANEL]

sounds bad. some may like that. are you sure you measured properly?

[SuperK]

Yeah and I'm not exaggerating... thats the scary part... for me at least. I didn't know that was considered really big. Like do most girls like bigger or could it be a turn off?

[COCOCHANEL]

if it were just lengthy it might be ok. the problem lies in thickness.

[SuperK]

I don't know what a pleasurable thickness would be but it's 5.5 inches around. I don't think that would be a problem though, but I'm not sure.

[meganthemenace]

In my opinion, 8.5 sounds just right.. I wouldn't be complaining, that's for sure!
;)

[kiimc7836]

Yes and no. So my husband is 9 inches. He watched A LOT of porn. He said it was because he wanted to please a woman. He's Cuban and his dad always told him that if he couldn't make a girl cum multiple times by eating her out then he was a failure. So all my boyfriends before him were 4 inches. They were also like, "Blow me, baby!" and they didn't care if I got eaten out. My husband was like this gorgeous white skinned guy with blue eyes and a hot body. I was floored! He was awkward about his size. He thought porn guys all had average cocks. I saw his and I was LITERALLY scared! But I wanted it! I was so tight that it hurt but damned... it was GOOOD pain!!! He bottomed me out which hurt me a little but hurt him a lot! He ate me out for a while until I came... for the first time ever at 20!!! I had been raped at 16. The guy came in my face after pulling the condom off. After trusting my husband I wanted him to cum in my face, fuck my ass, etc... all the porn stuff you see that I thought was nasty! So 9 inches for me was perfect. For girls with smaller depths... NO! I man doesn't have to have a huge cock. He just needs to touch a womans heart first. And when his sole focus is on please a woman EVEN if he doesn't get to cum... then shit!!! who wouldn't do nasty shit for a guy like that!!! My husband always tells me this... sex was made by God for BOTH to enjoy it. The guy's job is to be selfless and focus on the girl cumming first whether he cums or not. U find a man like that... and u will find a REAL MAN! (Girls... would u like to cum 15-25 times EVERY time you fuck? THEN FIND THE PERFECT MAN AND DON'T COMPROMISE!!!

[Anonymous]

My ex was 4.5 in and when he pounded me it was a little painful if there was no gradual penetration first. Black and Hispanic women are more apt to handle wider sizes because their hips are wider (not fat but bone structure) than say an Asian girl.

[Anonymous]

If you're big like that, you have to be more careful. No mindless pounding, you have to pay attention at all times. A lot of females feel extreme pain when their cervix is hit hard and this can happen accidentally. You may have to stop for a bit when this happens, so remember not to pout or get mad because she can't help that it hurts.