Did I make a mistake by sleeping with him on the first date?

[justuhgirl]

I met someone on eharmony. After emailing and talking we decided to meet. The date went well. We got along great. Very comfortable, no awkward silent moments. But I think I ruined the chance of having a relationship with him by sleeping with him the first night.

[ArtistBboy]

The "standard" for the center of your relationship has now been made as an FWB.

There are still opportunities to correct this mindset should you BOTH wish to fix that; however, I have seen a lot of relationships fail because of having less "respect" for the other person. Mind you that these relationships are usually around my own age, so there is still a slim chance that things are okay.

In either aspect, remain who you are- don't become clingy / needy etc - but don't show that you are scared and will allow him to get away without decent effort first. This guy liked you and that's what got him in bed, not worrying ;-)

Best regards,

ArtistBBoy

[setcheck67]

Sadly yes. All men want sex, but that is only the physical side of us. We aren't like girls and go straight to emotion. The best thing to do in a relationship is to build up a real emotional connection with your man before you have sex. We guys want to have sex with any girl we date, but we will get bored if we have sex before we really develop a connection with our partners.

[educatedgirly]

In my long, strange trip in the dating world, I have not found any man I slept with on a first date to be interested in me as anything more than an easy lay. All the books written by the "experts" say at least the third date, after six months, etc. I usually wait until I've been seeing him a month or at six dates if I am beginning to have some feelings for him. The important thing to do is whenever you do decide to do the deed, have a nice deep conversation with the other person to make sure you're on the same page emotionally and sexually. If you hold out a little and communicate it's almost (ALMOST) like losing you virginity again...

[Anonymous]

I hate all those previous answers... what if you are so passionate about this guy as he is to you 2, can just be sexual compatible?, personality is very important, but if am passionate, I would need to feel the same passion from the other person, knowing this I would go forward to know more about him.

[mrskitty22]

It is never a good idea to sleep with someone on the first date. When you do that, it shows that you aren't trying to get to know them or want to take the time to build a strong relationship. IT makes you look young and shallow.

[RedCali]

How are things going now?

It's a catch 22...depends..

[strotter4]

yep