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A guy refused the opportunity to have sex with me.

I am dating this guy for a couple of weeks now and no I do not associate sex with love. I just wanted to get laid? The funny thing is when things were about to get hot and heavy he stops and takes me home or changes his mind and say next time. Please someone what am I missing here. I thought if he's not into me he won't call or see me but he stills calls and want to see me ie (mood strikes him). My ego is just a little bruise because men are literally trying to jump down my pants.
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  • I currently am doing that to a woman who I respect dearly. I don't want to throw away the opportunity at a life with her, only to be classified as a creeper that fits in with the stereotype of men.

    If this guy is anything like myself, he respects you a lot. It's not very hard for men to either turn down sex, or to "jump the gun" and start a passionate moment; ironically not very men actually start anything sexual - they presume to take it over instead haha. Back to the point, this guy doesn't want to just screw you- he wants the timing to be right, the moment to be superb, and for a real relationship to be established.

    Alternatively, if you are truly ready and this isn't just a lustful moment - I would suggest talking to him about your desire. He will be thrilled. The longer you wait, the more pleasureful the experience will be for both you and him =)

    Best regards,

    ArtistBBoy

    • Thanks! But I think he knows that I desire him and is very interested in getting to know him. So I guess I will wait that's all I really can do..smile

    • =) My pleasure, I'm glad you guys communicate of your wants and needs in the relationship, having that ability will make things work out for a benefit in tense situations.

  • Wow weird I just turned down sex with a girl I would of loved to have sex with, I had an amazing night with her & things got hot back at my place we were just about to do it & then I said " I think we should wait" I asked her if she was mad & said "believe me I want to I just think we should wait, tonight was perfect enough". In my case I really did want to have sex I just really like this girl & thought it couldn't hurt if we waited a bit. I think I may of weirded her out too because she hasn't text or called me back in over a week but posted she likes my fb status a few days ago. Anyways enough about me if I were you I wouldn't take it personally the guy probably is really into you & just wants to be a gentlemen.

    • You know Its weird when I read your post and smile to myself. But this may or may not be his train of thought...lol.. I thought it was very sweet and considerate of you to explain and if she did not answer your text or call she might have just miss it. Hey you wanted to wait so start pursuing, call if she does not answer leave a message ask her to go to the movie and see if she would return the call.

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  • Maybe he does have feelings for you and doesn't want to be another number. He might think that once you have sex , your relationship will be over ... and doesn't want it to be. I would encourage you talking to him - if he matters. If it is just that your ego is bruised because a guy turned you down for sex when you were throwing yourself at him, you still are beautiful I'm sure but don't give the guy a hard time. He might not view sex as you do. He might associate sex with love. Who knows until you ask him...

    • Thanks I did throw myself at him :) , But there is no relationship we are only dating everyone says to ask him but I don't think they understand how hard it is for me to do that. I don't want to scare him away but I'm trying to get a insight on the reason why he opt out. If does like me, I would wait and respect him even more but with this I am in the dark he has not even admitted this as well.

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  • I think he does have feelings for you, maybe he just respects/ loves you enough to want to wait a little.

    For the full truth, ask him about it. Ask why and see what his reasoning is.

    As for him, isn't forbidden fruit that much sweeter?

    • Hey easier said than done mister. I can when am not interested or attracted to the guy but when the table is turned around I refuse to subject myself to that kind of humiliation..And he has been waiting 5 months to be exact. Hey I was surprise and turned on when he refuse me the first time but the second and third come on. Don't get me wrong, I want to get to know him and develop a relationship but all he said was I'm not trying to push you away but maybe next time? HUH!

    • Many things are easier said than done. And what do you mean by humiliation? Is it humiliating for you to talk to someone about something about them that is bothering you? And 5 months.... you either need to ask, or break up because it seems like it`s really affecting you.

    • Of course it is affecting me if I wasn't perplex I would not have posted the question? lol We are all adults here, If he wants to wait that is fine with me but "next time" is not an answer or an explanation.

  • lol ego part made me laugh. But seriously there could be a multitude of reasons why he refused to have sex with you (humans have so many variables to us there never is an absolute). He might not of felt it at the time. He could of felt real emotion for you and not wanted to spoil it with sex (that is the case). He could of thought that things were progressing too fast. Your best bet is to simply wait a week or so.

  • Could be a few things...

    maybe he wants to wait until marriage

    maybe he wants to get to know you a lot better

    maybe he is a virgin and is afraid of having sex!

  • I think people spin it like guys ALWAYS wanna have sex no matter what, but there are SO many things that play into it and so many reasons that I guy wouldn't sleep with you even if he really likes you. He could enjoy taking it slow. He could have ethical reasons for waiting. Maybe HE associates sex with love. He could have just gotten out of a long term relationship and not feel ready yet. He could be inexperienced or have other performance anxieties. He could be excited about the idea of delayed gratification. He could be worried about STDs . . .

    • Thanks your right it could be any of those reasons...

  • There's a strong possibility that he wants to, but feels that he should get to know you better. Lots of guys are horndogs and want to get themselves off, but not all men are like this. I'm having the same problem. I really want to, but she's worth so much more then that, she's not just a body, she's a person, and I treat as such.

  • I refused a girl because I was to insecure about my abs not showing as much. Another time I forgot to shave. So much is possible don't worry about it.

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